Terrible friends

I left school a few years ago and dropped contact with probably 95%% of the people I knew. I remained friends with only a very small handful of people, three or four. Our relationship had been pretty good, we got along and had fun together, but as my self-esteem issues got worse, things changed. Things got really political between all of us, and there was always backtalking and scheming. We were all insecure, but I was the weakest. I became the lightning rod for everyone's lashing out.

I couldn't defend myself very well. At my worst I was like William H. Macy's character in Boogie Nights, just a complete pushover. And there was also this thing between us...
Well, there was some sexual experimentation going on, but we were all rabid homophobes. It was very strange. I'm bisexual, but I was in denial about my sexuality at the time, so my friends would get horny and start rubbing up on me, or flirting or whatever. Then when they came to their senses they would gaybash the hell out of me. I was always being called a fag or a queer, but i was afraid to call them on their hypocrisy. They would tell the girls I liked I was secretly gay, so I couldn't have good relationships with the opposite sex either.

It went on for like two years, 'til I was almost ready to kill myself. Instead, I just said f**k it, and cut myself off from the world completely. I have no friends at all now, no social life. I'm afraid of people. I won't even go to the grocery store or the barber shop because I feel so inferior to everyone I see. I have been working very hard to improve myself in my isolation, and have come a long, long way. But I'm still cut off from the world. My life still sucks, and I feel I've missed out on so much.

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Comments ( 11 )
  • 1000yrVampireKing

    This is sexual harassment. They sounds like they were the gay ones and felt bad about their own sexuality so wanted to harass you. This was fucked up and wrong.

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  • tygeronherbed

    Dont let that terrible, borderline perverse, experience keep you from forming and maintaining new relationships. Its normal to feel afraid, broken down, and inferior especially after being the weakest member of a seriously unhealthy clique. but its important for you to remember that no matter what those "friends" of yours have said/done, you are still you and you deserve, just as much as anyone, to be happy. I agree with Ollieo in that you should seek counseling, and also try to get in contact with people who make you feel good, people who want to see you happy and healthy and living a full life, like family. eventually you will be ready to get back into normal society, have a healthy, fun group of friends, and get on with life.

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    • Thank you Tyger - I really agree with your added points about family, friends & connections. I suspect this young man has many resources to pull on, and perhaps, hasn't thought of them as such.

      To the poster - you really do have your head screwed on right. You are a survivor and have been through a terrible experience. I do feel for you. Please try to get yourself beyond this terrible experience, as difficult as that may be, and be yourself.

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  • You were sexually and personally exploited and degraded from what you say. So you are definitely better without these people around you. But not with no one there. Really consider counseling around this and the anxiety you feel.

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  • iluvblue

    this is a normal thing people do but..its not healthy..dont let them get to u because u did nothing wrong they were the ones that decided to touch you

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  • Wambo37

    people are as*holes. everyone. fvck the world

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  • smile4him10

    Awwww, wow, that really sucks! I'm so sorry! i'm sure things will get better, but you can't be scared of the world! you have to keep trying, there are jerks out there who only want to hurt, but there are also a lot of great people who'd love to be your friend!

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  • EVERYONE ON THIS WEBSITE: BE CAREFUL OF "BUDTHE WISE" - HE IS A FIRST CLASS CREEP, WOMAN ABUSER, RACIST AND IGNORAMUS ... AND PLEASE DO NOT LISTEN TO ANY OF HIS CRAPPY AND ABUSIVE ADVICE. PLEASE!!!

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    • CrimsonRain

      Yea that asshole posted rude things on my pages.

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    • XJayX

      Thanks for the warning. Anyways, you let them do THAT much to your life? Dude, not many people are that horrible! You need to forget your "friends" and find some people that are nice and caring.

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  • RedLight

    Yeah dude, it ISN'T normal, I have gone through the same thing, all you have to do is rise above. I suggest getting yourself some hobby's and creating a big dream to try and achieve with it. Even if you don't ever reach your dream you are still driving to better yourself, which a lot of people in the world do not care to do.

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