Tell someone youre asexual

How do you tell someone your asexual?
I feel "sensual attraction" nd "romantic attraction" but no sexual.
Last man I date he say to me "are you asexual?" I sayd "no give it time" becus im not out nd I was scared nd I liked him bcus I felt "if I say it he walk away" but I admit to him once I date a guy for 2 years,no sexx!,nd I was happy.This thing made him shook and later he say to me"I cant wait 2 years for you also nd not know nd live in celibacy bcus im young" nd I was sad bcus he said to me many times hes never felt for anyone like for me but suddnly hes "sex prove compatbility between 2 people" nd he call me and my exes relationship fake which make me mad bcus my ex is the best.So you see what can happen.I wanna date someone that im not afraid to touch them nd cuddle them nd stuff bcus they will feel "this can go to sex" nd I know they feel like this.Guys when I say "I dont wanna talk anything about sex" they think im naive nd childish,they laugh or say that im "hot tho" nd for me its no respect!Iv given up now the last guy make me lose hope to much nd im not over it (or him?) aftr many months.
Iv give up on finding a someone but somehow someone always come along or a friend wanna date me nd not even my friends kno or maybe they guess

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  • SkullsNRoses

    I think you need to take a break from dating as you figure out who you are. The guy you like is right, if you’re sexually incompatible it won’t work. It’s painful when someone’s “almost” what we want but it’s important to see it for what it is. Don’t blame yourself either, this is nobody’s “fault”.

    Congratulations on accepting your asexuality, it’s a big step. The downside is that many people do not understand asexuality and some have some flat out disturbing ideas about it. I recommend you go on r/asexuality and maybe some asexual Facebook groups if you’re on there, finding others coming to terms with being asexual in this hypersexualised world will probably help you.

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    • RoseIsabella

      Spot on!

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  • russellnb

    I would love having a friend who always felt comfortable telling me what they like and do not like.

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  • Jamie_Sulky

    Something people don't admit often is that sex is integral to a relationship. Thats why we do it, in fact biologically were evolved to find mates to reproduce with them. There are outliers such as you who find the whole thing unappealing, but it's definitley something that matters a lot to others.

    I used to think I was asexual too. Sex didn't inrtigue me as much and I never got too physical with my exes. but I took some time with myself to wonder why and I realised I was just scared of intimacy. And thats different from asexuality. So sit with yourself and wonder what the root of the problem is. and lets say you are asexual, thats fine. Just try to find another asexual partner to be with who shares your boundaries.

    also this was a nightmare to read, at least try to spell or something.

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