Teenage girl and a 43 year old man...

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So, im 17, I know now most girls my age would say this, but I'm pretty mature for my age. I get along with people my age, but the boys just seem so..annoying. While I was out, I met a guy, we get along pretty well. We talk everyday, but dont hang out much due to the fact that he is 43 years old. I feel like I can relate to him so much more then people my age, we have same tastes, and our conversations are very interesting. Is it normal that a girl my age would even like a man as old as him? I know that we're decades apart, but that just doesnt bother me. Why? What should I do about it? I would like to take it a little further, and now that Im legal its just my parents I worry about. What would they say?

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    You may be mature for your age but there is only a certain level of maturity a 17 year old can achieve. It's understandable that you are attracted to this older man but you have to question the maturity and mental mindset of a 40 something man being attracted to a child. There are certain age gaps that just aren't compatible. You haven't began your adulthood and his..well...it's on the downhill slide. You have to look at what your future together will or will not hold.

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  • warm-ape-shit
    13 years ago

    Well I understand what you mean about relating to someone who is older, but that's a big gap. Personally I think there are definatly ppl closer to your age who you would find stimulating in conversation etc. I don't think a 43 year old is the only age bracket that would provide this kind of interest too you. Your still in high school probably, as your 17, and generally speaking everyone is immature in high school and for probably a few years after that. I'm 19 (male) and I find plenty of people who are wonderful to talk to at different levels. University is a good place to meet more "mature" minds in some cases. As for your parents, if they are anywhere near normal they will have a problem with a 43 year old. I would not settle for this age gap, but if it's what you really want I won't stop you. You should think carefully about going further with this, it will affect how ppl see you whether u like it or not. Personally the image that comes to mind when I think of girls who date ppl this old at your age is a girl craving attention, and a girl who wants something to reinforce their proper up sense of maturity. I'm not saying this is you, but be prepared for ppl to think like that towards you if you go through with this.

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  • _justwondering_
    13 years ago

    Being nearly 40, I say it's a grand idea :). Seriously though, don't expect society to embrace it, especially the 'rents. You should also keep in mind that at some point the age gap WILL matter - so enjoy it while you can. Best of luck.

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  • koifish
    13 years ago

    Does he know how old you are? You aren't even 18 yet..

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  • bleach_baby
    13 years ago

    yeah relate to but seriously do u actually want to bang that wrinkly

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  • korn3654
    13 years ago

    It is normal for a younger girl to like an older guy. However, I would be very concerned about the motive and why a 43yr is interested in someone who is 17. Even though you are mature, once the "excitement" of a new experience goes away for you. There is very little in common. Your parents should be concerned. I would move on if I was you. I would not bet he has anything outside of sex planned for you.

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  • korn3654
    13 years ago

    It is normal for a younger girl to like an older guy. However, I would be very concerned about the motive and why a 43yr is interested in someone who is 17. Even though you are mature, once the "excitement" of a new experience goes away for you. There is very little in common. Your parents should be concerned. I would move on if I was you.

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