Successful sibling

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My brother is sort of a prodigy, he already has a super successful career and he's still quite young. Whenever people talk to me the only thing they want to talk about is my brother. At the dinner table the topic of conversation usually has something to do with him. I'm always finding out people are only trying to be my friend so they can talk to him and act like they know him. It's seriously getting annoying. I probably sound a bit jealous (I maybe am a bit) but I'm also so happy for him and I know he deserves all his success. Anyways now I'm feeling super pressured about what I'm going to do for a career. I really want everyone to be proud of me like they are my brother. I will do anything, I want to work super hard.. The only problem is I don't even know what I excel at. My brother is also very outgoing, creative and super good at networking, while I'm more shy and self conscious. Does anyone else ever feel this sort of pressure/ jealousy (I seriously don't want to be jealous), or has anyone been in a similar situation?

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  • Koda
    8 years ago

    I'm not the best looking sibling, and I'm not the most successful, but I'm the best at making friends and the funniest. You're special in your family as well!

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  • Sodapopgal22
    13 years ago

    Well, sweetheart, it's normal. All siblings get jealous of their other siblings becuase you feel like your not important or your getting ignored or something of that nature. But to be honest, every goes through that! I remember when my brother got a IPod and I never got one! I was so jealous and I was acitng all out! I was such a idiot, but, in the end I knew that If he could get it, then one day if I work hard, I'll get one! And I got one! So all you have to do is believe that you can be where your brother is! And it will happen! Have faith kid!

    Love,

    Sodapopgal22

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  • Caps90
    13 years ago

    I used to feel that way! Sometimes I still do! After I get jelous of my older sister or younger sister I often talk to them about it. Try talking to your brother about your jelousy towards him in a calm non judging or demeaning manner, most likely he will understand. your brother can help you realise you are you and that's all you can be. Don't compare yourself to your brother... it's hard I know but focus on you, your life and your goals and accomplishments! :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    That sucks, your gonna live your whole life in his shadow...

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  • kellstar
    13 years ago

    Is your brother Justin Bieber?? Haha Find what you are good at and be the best u can be! Be happy for your brother and I'm sure he will be happy with u when u excel at whatever it is you choose

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  • MiKeY_G
    13 years ago

    Yeah I hear of this a lot. It does make you feel more pressured but you got to try and look at it as motivation. You don't have to find something to be better than him just be happy for him and find something carrier wise that makes you happy. Jealousy can be ugly and lead to hate just try and look past that and see that you are two different people with two very different lives! Hope that hepled!

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  • soccer2
    13 years ago

    Gotta find what makes u special

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  • soccer2
    13 years ago

    The jealousy is understandable and sadly there isn't much u can do about people wanting to talk to u to know him. All u can do is pick something u love and go for it. Don't hold yourself to his standard, u r two completely different people. If u compare yourself to him then if you don't succeed the way he did it will be crushing. I'm not saying u can't succeed though haha. My little sister is very different than me. I am shy but athletic and she is outgoing but smart. I always feel jealous when she makes good grades even though I'm happy for her. And she gets jealous that her athletic skills are below mine. My point is that there is something that makes everyone different. And just because he exceled in something doesn't mean u can't. Just don't compare yourself to him. Do your own thing and try your best. Even though it's hard, ya just

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