Strawberry and vanilla don't mix, iin?

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I'm in a relationship with someone whom I consider to be my soulmate. We're perfect for each other in so many ways except for one thing, I'm kinky and she's vanilla.

We've known each other for a long time and she's always made it clear to me that she never wanted to cause me harm. This is mainly because, I came from an abusive background and she helped me through it.

I have the sinking the feeling that she wouldn't be able to understand my need for the lifestyle and that if she hit me, it wouldn't be abuse because, I would have consented to it.

I tried telling myself that I could ignore this side of myself. But all of the other times where I tried to repress my needs, I ended up turning into a hot mess of shit.

Cheating is out of the question. I want to ask her for her blessing to let me get a Dominant or at least, see a dominatrix. IIN? Can anyone else relate?

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  • chained_rage
    9 years ago

    Sri Lanka vs Scotland

    Sri Lanka is on 267-4 from 38.4 overs

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Cricket?

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  • shuggy-chan
    9 years ago

    *farts loudly* ughhhhhhh what a stinker

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    • Crusades|
      9 years ago

      Smells like sushi

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      • shuggy-chan
        9 years ago

        thats wired, i must have man-queefed, cause i dont eat fish

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        • RoseIsabella
          9 years ago

          Man queef!
          :-D

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          • Anonymous Post Author
            9 years ago

            Haven't you ever felt so strongly for someone that you were scared to lose them? This is how I feel. She's my flower and I don't want everything that we worked so hard to achieve to go down the drain. Please help me.

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            • RoseIsabella
              9 years ago

              I've probably felt that way before, but if it's not meant to be it's not meant to be. I'm really enjoying my solitude these days. If you lose her it wasn't meant to be.

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        • RainbowDischarge
          9 years ago

          Man queef... Air fart out your penis hole??

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          • shuggy-chan
            9 years ago

            Yas! It would be like a ballon deflating =)

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        Ooo, I love sushi! Seriously!
        *inhales*

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        9 years ago

        Please help me! I don't want to lose her.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Be serious! My relationship is on the line here! I don't want to lose her!

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  • Incomplet
    9 years ago

    1. "[...] it wouldn't be abuse because, I would have consented to it" This is something you should be telling your girlfriend, not strangers on the internet.

    2. Soulmates don't exist. It's about perspective, compromise and values. Anyone who tells you otherwise is lying through their teeth.

    3. You can try asking for a dominant mistress or a professional dominatrix, but remember that doing so will likely pressure her into doing something she's uncomfortable with. Is that what you want? Take a minute to think of it through her eyes.

    4. If it isn't working out - leave. Go join a BDSM dating site and sign up as a submissive male.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Thank you. I'm not male but, it doesn't matter. Your advice still works. I don't want to pressure her but, I feel like if I go see one behind her back, that I would be cheating in a way. Then again, she'd probably already knows. She has her ways...

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    Have you tried therapy for these feelings? Either you keep them and lose her or try and lose the feelings or at least this urgency you seem to have about them

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  • Lariii
    9 years ago

    What it might be is that she feels a bit overwhelmed by your kinky side. I think that the Dominatrix is an option, but your girlfriend likely won't be happy about it.
    Isn't there any way you could very lightly ease her into being kinky, and let it grow from there? Start with blindfolds / scarves and work your way up to handcuffs and other toys? If she flat out refuses anything except vanilla, then if you love her that much, why couldn't you be able to be happy without kink?

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