Strange dirty talk

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I was a with an older man. We both agreed we didn't want a serious relationship, and were both fine with that. We hung out, had our good times and had some great sex. The one thing that was strange was when we were having sex he started saying things that were very strange to me. He kept asking me," If I would love him as much as I do today." That kind threw me off a little, but then it got weirder when he started asking if I would marry him. He kept asking If I would be a good wife to him. I have heard of things in my time, but this just seemed so strange to me. I started to really think about it after we finished. Is it some strange dirt talk for a guy who doesn't want a serious relationship? I mean, what the hell!??! I really want to know what others think about this. Has anyone every had it happen to them, and what did you think of it? Why would anyone say those things?!?!?!

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  • klebo
    8 years ago

    He has feelings for you, more than just sex

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    • klebo
      8 years ago

      Is it me??seems like you and Ellenna write your own comments and comment on everyone elses as well,you don't have to comment on everybody's if you make your own comment others will read how you stand on the topic without writing on everyone elses as well

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    • RoseIsabella
      8 years ago

      Either that or he's jerking her around, because he likes to hear that kinda talk for the sake of the mood. He did say after all that he didn't want a romantic relationship. I think it's selfish to send out mixed signals like that.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    It's not dirty talk it's romantic talk. Ask him about it when you're not in a sexual situation, it's the only way you'll find out if he's serious or not and then you can make up your own mind how to proceed or not.

    It's not only women who get themselves into fantasy situations: I've had men who call me on sex lines propose marriage, say that they'll love me for ever etc and while I'm sure they mean it in the throes of sexual pleasure, I know it's momentary and fleeting. On the other hand, maybe he's falling for you in a serious way - you won't know unless you ask

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    • wistfulmaiden
      8 years ago

      I prefer that to fifty talk! Most of the men I know have to talk really dirty and call me slut/ whore etc but I'd like it someone talked about love and taking care of me.

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      • green_boogers
        8 years ago

        Or, if they begged you to be the boss.

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        • wistfulmaiden
          8 years ago

          :)

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      • Ellenna
        8 years ago

        I'd like both types of talk, but I don't trust the romantic stuff any more

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        • TheDentist
          8 years ago

          Are you actually a phone sex operator, or are people trolling?

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          • Ellenna
            8 years ago

            I am actually a phone sex worker AND some people are trollling

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        • RoseIsabella
          8 years ago

          I don't wanna hear the romantic stuff unless he actually means it, but I don't wanna hear degrading talk either. There are ways to talk dirty that are sweet, sexy and sincere.

          The first time a man tells me he loves me it should be while stone cold sober and looking deep into each other's eyes and from a place of absolute sincerity. Honestly, the idea of someone saying a bunch of sappy shit and expecting me to do the same just so he can get his rocks off on some stupid fantasy rather disgusts me. I'm a human being with thoughts and feelings, not some surrogate who exists to pacify the desires of a selfish, entitled douchebag who wants to live out his own personal fantasy.

          Sorry for the rant, but people saying shit they don't mean makes my skin crawl.

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          • Charli.m.s_Never_Ending_Period
            8 years ago

            You're so damn demanding. Just say to guy, "Shut up and fuck me."

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          • wistfulmaiden
            8 years ago

            I so agree. I prefer silence to insipid " you're my little whore" these days:/

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    • enid
      8 years ago

      I have never heard of romantic talk before. You do have a good point about what is said in the throes of passion. I would think it was more for that reason, than anything else.

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      • Ellenna
        8 years ago

        Never heard of romantic talk? Where have you been?

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    That guy sounds like massive douchebag; he's a piece of shit in my book. I would flush that one!
    :-(
    *shudders*
    Yeah, I once had someone I hardly knew say to me, "tell me you love me". Yuck! Just like I don't want some jerk talking dirty to me in a degrading way I don't want to listen to or talk to someone who desecrates words like love by using them in a frivolous manner just to get their jollies so they can close their eyes, and pretend some role playing scenerio.

    I tend to prefer a lifestyle that is more one of abstinence for the most part, but... I recently met someone I really like and we've been on three dates in the past week. I'm honestly not looking for a friends with benefits situation, because that would make me feel used. I think in my younger days when I was much more casual in my sex life I would be disgusted and possibly nauseated at such double speak.

    So far with the young man I'm seeing we've made out a lot and done some heavy petting; I'm not ready for sex yet and he's respecting that. Basically our first night together we spent hours kissing and staring into each other's eyes with the lights on in fact. Sure I get loving feelings, but I think a lot of that at this point is chemical. It would be wonderful if he and I were meant to be, but I don't want to hear words like, "I love you" in the throws of passion especially if it's just bullshit talk. If we fall in love I want to hear it in a very real, present, sober and sincere state of mind.

    For me truth and reality are beautiful things!

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    • wistfulmaiden
      8 years ago

      That's great, I hope he turns out worthwhile:)

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      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago

        ♡♡♡
        Thanks girlfriend, I certainly hope so too. Please pray for me that I stay strong and don't get too heartbroken if it's just not meant to be. I just want to live a happy and healthy life. I want to learn to be a better person.
        ;-)
        ☆☆☆

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        • wistfulmaiden
          8 years ago

          Sure will;)

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          • RoseIsabella
            8 years ago

            Thanks!

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    • Tybo626
      8 years ago

      I don't think that makes him a douchebag I think he just likes a type of sex talk that you don't like. a lot of people actually like to be told that they are loved during the throws of passion

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      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago

        I don't wanna hear or accommodate anything that is isn't true. Gotta keep it real, cause that's how I roll.

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        • Tybo626
          8 years ago

          I can respect that

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          • RoseIsabella
            8 years ago

            Thank you.

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  • victorygin
    8 years ago

    Why would he say them? Because it turns him on.
    It's just sex talk. Don't take it seriously, and if it really creeps you out, tell him.

    I don't really see what's so weird about combining love and sex... guess I'm just a pervert.

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    • RoseIsabella
      8 years ago

      I think sex is best when love is present, but there's something vile about someone saying "I love you" when they don't mean it just because it suits their fantasy or feels romantic. I like to think I have romance and passion in my heart, and nothing is more romantic to me than truth, I'm passionate about that.

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      • victorygin
        8 years ago

        You're describing it like some cold, calculated, slimy attempt to manipulate her feelings.
        Really, it's him accidentally saying something he probably *does* feel in that moment - he still shouldn't say it - but shit, I really don't see how being passionate, and a little verbally reckless makes him such a vile creature.

        Especially since they're both well aware of the "no-relationship" policy, which means it's obviously just "sex talk". And if she can't handle her own emotions, she shouldn't have put herself in this position.

        Anyway, if it was part of a sexual role play/fantasy that she was on board with, it would be totally benign.

        Obviously she should just talk to him about it.

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        • enid
          8 years ago

          who said I couldn't handle it? I just thought it was weird. Nothing more.

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