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is it normal to always rite depressing poems all the time instead of cutting Ur wrist, i don't do it but i have a friend who does, i try to tell her it's not cool and it won't help but she says it's my body so leave me alone can any one give me advise?? Is It Normal??
Hey, at least poems don't damage one's body. I support the decision to write them instead.
Cutting is real overdone but if it makes you feel better.Me?i suggest drugs and achohal and shit,They work for me mostly,but i know it's bad.And writng depressing stories isn't bad at all.Hell I do that when i'm happy and jittery as do a lot of people.Yeah,but cutting can be a serious aspect if you slit a vain or something of that sort.I hope there careful,and just keep a eye on them.Not to much though.This makes people paranoid.
Honestly -- this may sound terrible, but it's how I think -- if anyone knows about her self-mutilation, she's looking for attention. Obviously, you know, so maybe she wants attention from you? It's a mind-game, I think, with trying to make others feel guilty about what's she's doing to herself and give her more attention and all of that shit. It's also incredibly selfish. If she dies, would she be happy about the mess she's making for her friends/family to clean up?
Yes, I think it's normal to write depressing poems. Creativity can be an outlet for any kind of emotion. Cutting is, too, but the poems are much safer, of course.
cuttin your wrists is, although i hate to admit it, becoming more normal by the day. It is not good or your body or for your emotions. writing poems, wether they be dark or happy, is a good way to release emotions, heck how do you think music is made.
your riend is most likely going through some hard times, and when confronted with it she gets scared. its usually not for attention like most adults might think. Its mostly for a release of unwanted bad emotions, that could be released in a more creative manner, such as peoems.
i think that you should bring up the problem more nd tell your friend that she always has a shoulder to cry on if she wants it. it may be just what she needs, she may think she's alone in the world, and just needs a friend.
I mostly agree with eijnn.
If she is anywhere between preteens to mid-twenties, it isn't "normal" but it is common. Most depressed girls go through this as either a phase or a problem to make their life feel better. Either because they feel their life is out of control and their body is the only way they can control their life. Cutting is mostly about control. Try to let her have a bit more control in her relationship with you, whatever it may be, give her choices.
As for the poetry, lots of people write depressed poetry. And some are famous for it! Poetry is a way of harmless expression, it shouldn't be a problem, work on stopping her from harming herself. Don't tell her to stop, because she won't. Just try and be patient, give her choices, and be there for her. Once she sees how things are, she'll start stopping. Or she'll at least want to stop.
well if there writing depressing poetry in order to NOT cut there wrists then id say its fairly normal.
if they cut themselves instead of writing poetry its also normal.
being normal is an odd thing because how does one define it. 1 in every 20 people have harmed themselves in life so you cant outcast them.
cheers!
Writing depressing poems is way better than cutting your wrist.
It's wierd when you find out other people cut. Brings up a lot of personal questions. Writing poetry is about expressing emotions, in a lot of people, cutting is about avoiding it.
Which one is more healthy.
If you ever want to cut, get an elastic band, put it around your wrists, and flick it hard.
It's been shown to be more effective, and doesnt leave scars.
yea what ever floats yo boat, as long as you dont harm yourself, there may be some poets who might actully like your material
well put it like this i used to be a cutter myself and well maybe she juzz needs to talk to some one who went through the same thing but is now doing better. thats how i helped my best friend cuz she did the same thing and well we helped eachother out nd what ur friend needs iz someone that she can relate to... all u can do iz juzz be there for her
Hey! I write poems instead too. I don't want to cut myself, I think it's stupid. But for now, I've written...dunno, 10 poems? And I write stories instead too.
Try writing about a happy memory to start with and see how you go its not your fault your dad beat you!!!
Let her know that the scars never go away. Ever. And all you can do is wear long sleeves, even in the dead of summer. And you can never go swimming because you'll have to wear a bathing suit. And you'll get questions from people and they will constantly tell you to go see a shrink.
But most importantly, those scars will always be there. Little purple stripes that constantly remind you of the time you hit rock bottom.
Writing depressing poetry is normal, it gets out your feeling, especially if you have no one to talk to.
As for your friend...
Hmm, If you're seriously concerned take her to the school councler and maybe she'll stop.
That's a serious thing and can result in death.
being emo isn't normal. you're emo...
try playing video games and doing other stuff.
Cutting yourself is really dangerous. Your friend is not looking for attention, but she is obviously going through a really tought time in her life. The best thing you can do is to be there for your friend. Try not to make her feel bad for cutting or make it seem like its stupid for her to be cutting. Its the only way she know's how to deal with the pent up negative emotions she feels. She has to find a healthier way to deal with her feelings. There is a website like this for people who cut, and also for friends and family of people who cut who are worried. There is some great advice there worth looking into, the website is http://buslist.org/phpBB/
As for writing depressing poems, its totally fine. Poetry expresses who you are and the emotions your feeling. Its a healthy way to deal with your feelings. but if you are feeling really depressed talk to someone you trust and try and get some help
Cutting is just ehhh how should i put this...Stupid. In fact, any form of self mutilation is idiotic.
I think that you writing depressing poetry is much MUCH better than the latter. And as for your friend, I suggest you continue to pester her. But if she constantly disregards your opinion, then there isn't much you can do. 'cept get ready to read a haulage at her funeral.
cutting can be a release, but it leaves scars :(
IN reality all she wants is to be loved, attention, and an escape. By cutting herself she release the emotional turmoil that she feels inside. Seek a doctor...
Theres too much of this bullshit today just remember one thing its down the road kids not a cross the street
It's not normal to write depressing poems or cut yourself. It would be nice, though, if you were to do the second one properly, then nobody would worry about you anymore.
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