Still thinking about a former crush. is it normal?

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Here are the basics. Met a girl (call her Kelly) in my dorm during freshman year, hit things off with her, realized I developed some sort of crush on her. Didn't ask her out immediately like I should have, I made a fool of myself in front of her several times, but like a depraved idiot I kept on liking her for another good 6 months or so thinking I still had a chance. Never got rejected directly, but I eventually gave up and got over it when I realized (and heard from a friend) that she wouldn't date me anyway, but never heard it directly from Kelly herself. It was a bitter pill to swallow, but I got over being butthurt about it eventually.

I haven't seen her or heard anything about her for over a year now, but every now and again she still pops into my mind, and I wonder whether or not I could have had her if I played things a little differently. But that's not what I'm asking.

Is it normal or healthy to have her on my mind at all after all this time? Shouldn't I have moved on by now?

I'm 20 by the way, met her when I was 18.

PS- I have met many other girls, never really developed any more "crushes" since Kelly.

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  • CheyChey
    11 years ago

    normal met this guy in first year of uni 2 years ago at 18 also we had the same accounting class, had a massive crush on him the semester ended never saw him again until the exam day and he looked at me intensely I'd like to believe he did dreaming i guess anyway months later he added me on Facebook but never really spoke to me weird right? i think of him from time to time & wonder what if too... i feel your pain bro.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      He probs had no idea what to say haha :P. Oh well, people come and go I guess.

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  • Lylasmith34
    11 years ago

    Yeah thats totally normal!! I used to like this guy a few years back and i think he liked me too. We ended up going to different schools but every now and then i just stop what im doing to remember him and all the fun times we had. Dont be worried, its normal.

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    • plum6
      11 years ago

      here you go it's normal.. if you're a woman ;)

      no jk, she is just one that got away and its normal to wonder about things that could have been but dont dwell on that shit!

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      • plum6
        11 years ago

        that's good, the first real important girl will always seem special though, It's very normal to think about those (often most ever) passionate feelings as long as you don't get stuck in the past.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        11 years ago

        Trust me, I have no intention of reconnecting with her whatsoever. Would much rather start from fresh and meet new girls.

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