Still looking@ex-friend's social network even after friendship is over

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I've written about this ex-friend in several stories on here (Here are a couple of them:

http://isitnormal.com/story/is it normal to-go-to-a-nightclub-and-bleat-about-how-crap-the-music-is-129207/
http://isitnormal.com/story/iin2get-angry-when-the-conversation-turns-to-babiesmarriage-etc-112507/
http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-to-consider-once-a-week-too-often-to-see-a-friend-89081/)

The friendship ended several months ago - possibly even a year or longer - and I still look at her social networking pages most days. Sometimes even more than once a day.

I wrote another post asking whether I should get in contact again, which hasn't been approved yet at the time of writing. If it IS approved, however, I'll put the link in a comment below.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Dude let her go thats the creepiest shit I ever seen. Your being a stalker. People like you make me want nothing to do with people. What ever happened to respecting peoples personal space?

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    • Holzman_67
      10 years ago

      my generation grew up playing space invaders now we're all personal space invaders

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      • RoseIsabella
        10 years ago

        Hahaha... Good one!

        I think I must be one of the only people who doesn't play video games.

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        • Holzman_67
          10 years ago

          I don't play them anymore. The last time I played was when Nintendo 64 was out and everyone was wowing about 3D graphics and 360 degree movement.

          Games got complicated. Don't think i could even get past the menu screen these days

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          • RoseIsabella
            10 years ago

            I never got past the Atari 2600. I basically only played Pacman, Frogger and Raiders of the Lost Ark games.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Why are you doing this to her and to yourself? In my humble opinion the smartest thing you can do is to block her on Facebook so you can't look at her Facebook and she can't look at yours then move on with your life.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      She blocked me on Facebook for daring to say that women - as well as men - could be cowards... it's "just" her Tumblr and Twitter I look at now.

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      • RoseIsabella
        10 years ago

        I would highly recommend that you block her on Tumblr and Twitter for the sake of your own peace of mind.

        You're only hurting yourself when you cyber stalk an ex friend. I highly suggest that you treat the loss of a friendship much like one would treat a death. Accept that this person is no longer a part of your life and allow yourself to mourn the loss.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          Just looked one last time at the Tumblr and Twitter to see if there's any trace of what she wrote about me. Short answer (And the only one I should've expected) is NO.

          I think I can accept now that it's truly not worth having her in my life (And maybe even the possibility that it never was, truly).
          I reckong thinking of this as a death is kind of helping me.

          Obviously, I'm still fucking angry (Not unnaturally, I feel), but hopefully I can get over it in time.

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  • gummy_jr
    10 years ago

    Dude... You creepin..

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  • (s)aint
    10 years ago

    I stalk people too. I mean I stalk EVERYONE.

    The worst thing ever is when people I want to stalk have a very closed FB profile </3

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  • pacinoharmon
    10 years ago

    I'm a bit confused...I read your other posts, you said she often behaves in an immature way, and often brings up things you don't like talking about. Why exactly do you want to be friends again? I suppose it is normal to miss someone who was once a part of your life and isn't anymore, no matter what your relationship was like. Like, you're used to seeing or talking to that person and when they're gone it leaves a void. I can kind of understand, but cyber stalking her will only upset you more. If your friendship can't be fixed, try to move on. Maybe you'll meet new friends. I have Aspergers so I know that makes social interaction harder , but at least try. Good luck.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    10 years ago

    Here's the post asking whether I should get back in contact with her again:

    http://isitnormal.com/poll/should-i-get-in-contact-with-my-ex-friend-169687/

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