Still hurts after 5 years?

I was raped 5 years ago, The guy got away with it and it still hurts physically and emotionally. How long will it be before it don't hurt anymore?

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  • hotchickie81

    I am so sorry to hear about your bad experience :( I hope you can eventually feel a little better, though I'm sure it will take time. Do you have someone to talk to about this? Or have you tried therapy or anything like that?

    I hope the rapist rotts in hell for all the pain/damage they have caused.

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  • Golden

    I'm sorry to hear about your story, my heart goes out to you. I had a close teacher of mine tell some of us about the effects her rape had on her. She said it took her a long time to heal but she did heal slowly. It's hard to remember exactly all her words (this was in a young womens class about 4 years ago) but she did say something along the lines of becoming stronger then her pain and to not hide her anguish...you know, not let it bottle up. She said also that she allowed herself to be angry and took to talking about it when she could. I think she joined a womens healing group or something. It had abused women in it also and she said that helped her heal because she could share her pain with women you had been hurt in very serious emotional and physical ways. I hope you can find some place like this or a therapist/counslor to talk with. You don't deserve your pain and I hope you can find a place of sincere peace.

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  • BirdyMojo

    It probably won't until your feelings are resolved from it. I'm sorry :(

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  • oldmann

    I can't speak from the same experience but emotional trauma will never go away until you choose to put it behind you. That is really hard because there was no justice in your situation. Bad things happen to many people - rape being one of the worst - but millions of people suffer physical, emotional, mental, even spiritual damage and have to go on with their lives. Getting to know God might help.

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    • BugzBunnae

      I am a Christian

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  • psychobabble

    Ya know, I had the same thing happen to me 15 years ago and it still hurts. I dont know if that is something that will ever go away but I do know that it gets better with time. I was right where you're at with things 5 years after it happened to me too and it's not nearly as bad as it was back then.

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  • Ryuhei

    I was molested at age 3 and im 23 now, and the guy got away with it. I got raped at 14 and the guy got 6 month (THATS FUCKING BULL SHIT) I'm still hurt by it and I think that I'll probably be hurt by it for the rest of my life.
    But I have found something that makes me forget my pain when I'm doing it, it also releases my rage for the time being; Karate helps so much.

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  • I think Golden has good advice here.

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  • Golden

    Sorry I meant WHO had been hurt in very serious and emotional ways...

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  • xino00

    it depends on doing something constructive to make you forget.

    Get a full time job or
    do charity work

    just do anything constructive that will keep your mind busy, and you won't have to think of it all the time.

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