Step kids are making me miserable
I am a mom of 5 kids, one is older and doesn't live and home and the other 4 are 16 to 18. I have three step children, one is 16 year old girl, second is 10 year old boy both live with us full time and the last is 3 years old and lives with us 50 percent of the time. I absolutely adore and love their father and can't imagine life without him. However the 16 year old and 10 year old are making me miserable! They have no respect and don't listen, they both are compulsive liars (which their father is aware)they are rude and extremely loud (sometimes I can hear the 16 year old down the street when she is inside the house) they are always grounded because of something they have done (by their father, not me) the 16 year old is always making sexual jokes about me and my children have told her countless times it's not funny. The 16 year old has to be the spotlight and will go to ANY length to make sure she has it. Recently someone keeps going through our bedroom and messing up my stuff, going through my stuff and planting pictures of his ex wife (not their mom) Recently it got really bad, one day the 16 year old girl said she was going to call CPS on me in front of teachers to my kids, the reason being was because she had to sit in the back seat going home. Granted nothing would come of this it still is insane that she said it. The next day I got in the car to take them to school and the 16 year old had put on an over abundance of Body spray knowing that I am deathly allergic. She knows exactly what happens to me. Needleases to say i couldn't take them to school and it wasn't a good day for me. We had to put a lock on the door so she couldn't get in our room and her dad said we will just make sure we watch her and won't let her cook. So last night I'm eating and the food had a ton of spices which I cannot tolerate. After one bite I asked why there is so much in the food and was told that the 16 year old daughter made it. I have a hard time believing that was not intentional. Also what happen to not letting her cook. I understand this is his daughter but what about my safety. Is this normal? Please give me your input.
Thank you