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I see a lot of girls dating jerks nowadays and nice guys being alone. This got me thinking, do girls just care about status. Cause jerks usually are popular and nice guys usually aren't. What do you think?
| Girls date guys cause of status | 23 | |
| Girls are idiots in highschool | 80 | |
| Nice guys are shy thus they're not popular | 30 | |
| I'm a guy and I just wanted to vote | 39 |
What I never get is why they call the popular good looking guys "jerks" when it's the girl that chooses the atractive popular guy rather than the nice guy, the girl sounds more like the jerk to me in those stories.
Girls like hot guys and hot guys are usually the popular ones.. the guys use this to their advantage and that's why they're jerks.
A lot of guys who consider themselves "nice guys", particularly guys who think it's their job to criticise women's choices of significant others, aren't nice at all. Consider this: being nice to a woman doesn't mean she's obligated to be romantically interested in you.
Also, it seems like guys who consider themselves "nice guys" often haven't done anything to demonstrate their supposed niceness to the women they're interested in. In my experience (having dated and been pursued by several guys who called themselves "nice guys"), the awkward guy in the corner is just as likely to be a jerk (or an abuser or rapist) as the popular guy who's the centre of attention. He's also less likely to approach the woman he's interested in, which makes it pretty obvious why he's less likely to have a girlfriend.
Before you say "girls like jerks" or "girls just care about status" or "girls like guys who are bad for them", maybe you should ask yourself "Why do I think I know who these girls should be dating better than they do?" Women don't turn men down because they're too nice, they turn them down because they don't want to date them. This can be for lots of reasons, and what they are depends on the woman. It's pretty ridiculous to assume that the reason women don't like you is because you're too nice, though.
I think all of the options you gave us girls are kind of sexist/degrading. There are PLENTY of other reasons, we girls are more attracted to what you might call a jerk. For me, I am attracted to a guy with confidence and a personality! Someone who is not too shy to talk to me, and can dazzle me with unique pick up lines. I have never dated a jerk. I was willing to wait around for the perfect guy, someone with a big personality and someone who was ALSO very kind and loving.
Thank you! I thought the options were downright insulting. They're all obviously the opinions of the guy who posted the question. I think what's really going on here is that when guys see a girl they like go for a different guy, they decide that that guy must be a jerk, and that they know what's better for her. UGH.
i got lucky because my boyfriend is amazingly gorgeous and the sweetest person and i was always an ugly duckling.. one of those girls who was bullied and only started to look nice after highschool.. anyways as hot as he was, and as popular as he was, and as many girls as he had chasing after him, he managed to pick me :) and i didnt chase him at all he chased me. its not always hot guys/ popular guys who are assholes.
the lion that's the most boastful, cockiest, domineering asshole of them all is the one the lioness chooses to seed her eggs. the quieter shy ones are ignored. that's just the way nature works.
The real nice guys are the so called "jerks". "Nice Guys" are nothing but passive aggressive loser betas who try to rationalize the guys with dates as "jerks" because they are jealous.
I like guys that are cocky, funny, and naughty. I will accept a slight amount of "jerkiness" in the short run just to have fun right away. After a few weeks, I dump him and go on to my next delicious piece of masculine junk food.
Yum!
I was so stupid in high school. I feel sorry for my boyfriends from that time.
If you see a girl picking a guy for his status rather than his personality.... you are perhaps hanging around too many shallow girls.
I think it's more about being forward than nice guys vs. jerks. The jerks seem to be more forward, have more confidence and usually lie until they're in a relationship and then show their true colours. Therefore, jerks have more chances in getting girls and breaking their hearts while the nice guys sit idly by waiting to console them.
Girls like guys who they have things in COMMON with. So nice guys should go after NICE GIRLS. I, personally, am NOT a nice girl. I hate poetry, hate phony smiles, am not impressed by phony clichéd "compliments" that only insult my intelligence, and don't want to date some pussy who I have to walk on eggshells around. Hence while I'll always date a jerk over a nice guy. At least a jerk I can have an actual, honest conversation with.
Now nice boys, stop whining about girls like me avoiding you, and go find a nice girl who's actually compatible with you.
I have never liked the popular guys. The guy I like now is possibly the shyest guy I have ever met.
Also, this may seem a tad odd, but arrogant boys turn me on. I don't know why, but I defeat him with logic while he was shouting insults at me.
He really was a stupid-ass, arrogant fuck, but it turned me on. He wasn't a jerk, though.
I think attraction's on personal preference...but there ARE some girls (mostly in high school) who go for guys solely for status..there are some boys that do that too.
But deep down, /i/ want someone who I love, that's all that matters.
Nice guys finish last... It's true a lot of the time even though it's ridiculous
What's ridiculous about it? Relationships are built on honestly, and "nice" people tend to have a lot of problems in the honesty department. They SHOULD finish last.
I used to date "nice guys," until I learned the hard way why most women avoid them. Now I know better. Now I will choose an imperfect guy who's real over a "nice" guy.
Well because nice guys go for skanks.
That's their issue.
Skanks don't want real love - they just want the status/gossip rights.
I was the Nice guy in High School. We have just as many options as the Status guys. I had more girls that wanted to date me than I knew about at the time. Of course I was also the obvious future success so maybe I was nice, with some minor status. So read this with an open mind that even in high school we are more complicated than we treat ourselves.
Well if nice guys werent so insecure and doubtful of me, I wouldve stayed with them
the ones that put themselves out there are the ones that have no way to prove how cool they are,so they go around trying to start fights and out drink every one to show everyone how cool they are.i find it amusing that i hardly ever speak,im literally the most shy you could possibly be,and girls go out of their way to talk to me.i totally fuck up those dudes game plans,because im an observer...and their intentions are clear,my intentions are never clear...that makes thoses so called alpha males oh so jealous when they have talked to a girl for hours trying to mate or some shit like that,so obvious,and i talk to them for seconds and they want to be alone with me. those loud,obnoxous guys that dont shut up about how cool they are attract sluts and whores.i know how cool i am,and that offends the "alpha" males when i show off,so their first thought is that they must out do me ofr fight me
I like a guy who is quite shy. the popular kind of guys are too big-headed and i dont even like to talk to them.
If your peers don't value nice qualities as someone worthy of attention, why exactly do some people give assholes status? It is our own fault these people have "status." We give them this power, and we can take it away.
Personally I don't care about status...as long as I find you and your personality attractive to my likings...then I'm sold. I'm usually friends to the guys who are jerks...