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I don't do such myself, god no. I'm asking if it's normal for that to happen to you, or for you to do it yourself. Personally I imagine that a stranger starting conversation scares people, and leads them to think it's a beggar or the like. It doesn't happen often where I am.
I come in contact with many strangers at my job, and I have learned that talking/joking with people, even strangers, makes the day so much more enjoyable and interesting. I agree, you meet some interesting characters!
I haven taken these skills learned at work and can apply them in normal situations so it is fairly easy to talk to strangers now. I do not often start out of the blue conversations, but if it happens I can roll with it and seem like an interesting person.
I am the one to do it if it involves the opposite sex who is a stranger. I have never once had (at least I can't remember any incidents) a woman I would find even remotely attractive actually coming up to me and saying a word out of the blue, and not even while at family get-togethers, even if said woman already knows another family member of mine. I guess either: A) they have no nerve, B) are suspicious of men, or C) I cast some aura of "creep/leave me alone/narcissist, etc. " or they perceive it as such.
I do it all the time, sometimes they are quite nice and other times they catch out my underlying person after a while and become very cautious.
Worth it though, you certainly meet some characters.
Depends on how they look. If it's a not so clean cut man, I scare easily and flee. If it's just an average person, I'll chat it up. Especially old people, I know they wouldn't be talking to me if I didn't look approachable, so I enjoy it.
thats the whole problem now isn't it? the person who gets approached by a stranged would always wonder why he or she is the one who gets 'chosen'. I can imagine that especially women would always be kind of worried about the intentions or reasoning of the stranger who randomly starts a conversation.
Not always. People can usually tell what the intentions are. If they're looking for relations in some way they'll always slip in "Lets go to coffee, or grab a drink sometime" And then you can politely decline or accept. Creepy greasy men or women (Ie homeless types).. Yeah, you never know... they could be crazy and violent O.O Really, though. How many people are actually killers? It also depends on your environment to. Someone talks to you in walmart, somewhere public. It's fine. In a lonely alley way. Run like a mother fucker!! lol
I get what you are saying, but if you would not include the real freaks (sexual deviants, criminals, or socially depraved individuals or whoever) in the situation, but simply consider the relatively normal individual who feels the need to include complete strangers into their social life for no apparent reason always seem to be strange to me.
Think about it, if you have a healthy and normal social life and have friends, family or acquaintances to share with what would be the incentive behind starting up a dialogue with someone you do not even know? To me such a person either has an exorbitant need for attention, or is missing something in his life that should already be available.
Well.. I suppose some people would see it that way. I personally enjoy talking to strangers, and when they talk to me. The world nowadays is such an anti-social place. It really shouldn't be strange for a human being to talk to another person. I'm just that way though. I encourage others to talk to me by being overly kind when they do cause I like to see it happen! I think everyone should feel comfortable chatting with random people :P
Alright then maybe I have an overly negative outlook on the world.. But your view does raise a couple of questions in me:
1: what is the reason you talk to strangers?
2: how do you select who to talk to? Aren't you more inclined to talk to people of the opposite sex who you also find somewhat attractive?
I made a new years resolution to say hi to one stranger every single day. And I haven't broken it yet. I usually compliment them in some way, and that makes anyone smile... but sometimes I just say.."Hey!" and they're always really confused and it's hilarious.
I talk to strangers almost everyday. Yesterday at lunch I started talking to the people who were waking next to me. It was a silly conversation about the weather. The wind blew some tree parts at us and it was quite disruptive. And this 80 year old woman on the bus started talking to me about how men were only good for lifting heavy objects and reaching the top shelf. She was an adorably spunky old woman.
There was nothing weird about either of those interactions.