Spanked growing up. how about u?

I get spanked by my boyfriend everytime I get back home from work, he says its because I'm a naughty girl. I kinda like it.

it WAS normal... but sometimes dads get into the habit of it and then feel better...so that leads to mental abuse thats a NONO

I was never spanked per se, but our father used to hit us if we pissed him off. For the record though, I object to any kinda violence towards kids, I don't think it's necessary or productive.

parents hit children to make up for their parenting inadequacies

Child buttock-battering vs. DISCIPLINE:

Child buttock-battering for the purpose of gaining compliance is nothing more than an inherited bad habit.

Its a good idea for people to take a look at what they are doing, and learn how to DISCIPLINE instead of hit.

I think the reason why television shows like "Supernanny" and "Dr. Phil" are so popular is because that is precisely what many (not all) people are trying to do.

There are several reasons why child bottom-slapping isn't a good idea. Here are some good, quick reads recommended by professionals:

Plain Talk About Spanking
by Jordan Riak,

The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children
by Tom Johnson,

NO VITAL ORGANS THERE, So They Say
by Lesli Taylor M.D. and Adah Maurer Ph.D.

Most compelling of all reasons to abandon this worst of all bad habits is the fact that buttock-battering can be unintentional sexual abuse for some children. There is an abundance of educational resources, testimony, documentation, etc available on the subject that can easily be found by doing a little research with the recommended reads-visit www.nospank.net.

Just a handful of those helping to raise awareness of why child bottom-slapping isn't a good idea:

American Academy of Pediatrics,
American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry,
Center For Effective Discipline,
PsycHealth Ltd Behavioral Health Professionals,
Churches' Network For Non-Violence,
Nobel Peace Prize recipient Archbishop Desmond Tutu,
Parenting In Jesus' Footsteps,
Global Initiative To End All Corporal Punishment of Children,
United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child.

In 26 countries, child corporal punishment is prohibited by law (with more in process). In fact, the US was the only UN member that did not ratify the Convention on the Rights of the Child.

It's "normal"--BUT NOT COOL. We got spanked by our mother as children; either a slap on the hand or a brush or ruler to the bum or thigh. My father only hit me once. It was always humiliating, painful, and unnecessary. I never understood why responsible adults, when they got mad, didn't hit each other, but they could hit their CHILDREN. It's totally lazy parenting. I wouldn't dream about spanking my kid or even my cat!

(Btw, my cat plays fetch, sits up, gives kisses on command, and is extremely well-behaved. -All learned through positive reinforcement! ;-) lol)

Getting hit as a child you may not know why I got BEAT so now I talk to my kids instead of hitting they understand and are why more forth coming I belive instead of hitting you should talk to the kids they may not know why they are getting hit and how are you with your parents now many people say thank you for hitting me but I say no I never liked getting hit and a lot of time I didnt know why if you were talked to about the things you were doing instead of being hit you would know how to change the behaver like I said my kids are not angles but they come to me and understand why I get upset hitting in a big NO it's easer to understand what you did wrong if you were talked to there needs to be consence but there is always other ways

your folks might have been retarded

I was spanked growing up, by my mother, mostly with her hand but sometimes with a belt, i turned out fine, in fact i probably deserved a few more. However my best friend and her sister were also spanked but it was never enforced with LOVING discipline and led to emotional abuse. her sister who is six years younger now refuses to live with her parents, granted there are many other reasons why she left. Spanking ONLY works when done properly and within the right environment.

it should be legal to beat the crap out of your children. when i look at it, i always behaved for fear of getting the shit beat out of me. i got it from belts, shoes, wooden spoons, bamboo sticks (if they were feeling generous), a screw driver, a sandpaper belt, and even a hot oily spatula at one stage. all of those were for doing bad at school, and the hot oily spatula was because a policeman brought me home after beating the shit out of someone while she was frying burger patties in the pan (she first picked up the pan, then realised it still had food in it, and took the spatula instead). i never got smacked once each time either. i got smacked by both in syllabels (eg. why -smack- did-smack- you -smack- play -smack- with -smack- the -smack- phone?!?-smack- stop-smack- crying!-smack- why-smack-arent-smack-you-smack-crying-smack- etc etc. it made me a much better person, and it's a good thing to get beat. my cousin (now six) causes all kinds of nonsense because he knows he'll just get shouted till he cries and then they leave him. i smacked him once (a light tap i might add) and i got a handbag upside the head for it. he broke my FF8 disk one!!! that game is hard to come across. anyways, be grateful to your parents for whacking you so much. say thank you to them for it. you'll understand when you have to spend every day with a child

I'm in high school and still get spanked if I do something bad enough, and I completely agree with it. I know some people that never got beat and they're immature and hard to be around because they think they can always have their way.

blah blah blah all I know is that I was such a menace growing up that if I didn't got spanked I would be probably dead by now.

I don't see why violence is ever necessary. It's quite ridiculous to be honest. Why should hitting a child be normal? I certainly don't think they would deserve it. There are other ways to accomplish discipline.

My mom hits with a hairbrush, but we all desrved it. My dads never hit my sister or me but my brothers gotten smacked for doing stupid stuff. All my dad has to do is look at my sis or me and we run, we are such daddys girls. And its not abuse its punishment. Ppl ovr react to spankings way to much

A lot of good logical points made about this. I was spanked, and I felt very loved by my parents. I never got it from both because that was double jeopardy. Funny, kids have made a nose-dive with their behaviors in the past twenty years, and much of that comes from home.

I know of a couple of friends who are "I don't spank my children" natzis. Yet, the child goes unpunished and ill-directed because no punishment or redirection is given to substitute for a spanking. I personally think it's an effective punishment. However, the right to do it legally leaves loopholes for unnecessary and horrible physical abuse, leaving the child without a voice.

LOL so normal. So overrated in the "bad for a child" department. We American's are so cushy and pampered. My mom used to take a flyswatter, pull the rubber end off and beat the ever living crap out of my brother and I. She'd always apologize, but really, we always kinda had it coming. Bless her.

It's not normal now because people are so freaked out about child abuse. Sometimes my mom spanked me, sometimes she just gave me a talk. My mom seemed really mean at the time, no one wants to be spanked, but I'm sure glad i was! So many kids aren't disciplined, and are such idiots, jerks, pervs, and just mean. It annoys me when parents let their kids do whatever they want! No wonder america is going down the tubes... What happened to the youth?

Spanked? Yikes.... But I've always been yelled at.. insulted and emotionally screwed up at time cos of my parents.. I think spanking sounds better :(

I thank my parents for every spanking I ever got. It made me behave, they knew when I deserved one and when I did not deserve one, and how severe my spanking should be. I usually got them pretty bad from my father because he has large and rough working-men's hands. I feared getting spankings and hated my parents for only a few hours. I know realize I'm a respectful person who thinks twice before every actions and considers every consequence. I will spank my children wisely, just the same. It should be kept legal. (And, does anyone notice, that the less socially acceptable spanking becomes, the worse the majority of children behave? Parenting has gone down the drain in such a sorry way.)

I was spanked often as a child. I was also bad often. Didn't scar me at all. It most definitely kept me from misbehaving if I knew I'd get a spanking for doing so. I spank my kids too. We do time out depending on the offense, but sometimes spanking is very necessary. Never more than 3 swats though and never with anything but my hand.

i got spanked up to 5th grade. my mom usually did the spanking starting with clothes hanger (broke that), wooden stick (broke that too), broom stick (broke again), and finally my dad's belt (this is last).

if my mom got really mad, she told my dad to spank me, and i got a second round. ended up with bruising marks on my hands and thighs that last about a week.

i wasn't a bad kid, usually i got bad grades in exams (typical asian parents), don't want to shower, or eat to slow. i hate it when they told you that you deserve, and want it.

i used to cry when i see my sister or brother got spanked. over time, i realized my little brother just out of control. my parents spank him, and he still does the same thing. probably he thinks that "i'll get couple spanking later on. i can handle that."

i will spank my kids to discipline them. hey, it works for me. i prefer get spanked rather than get ignored. when i grew up, my parents didn't spank me anymore, but my mom stops talking to me. that was the worse.

Everyone is so touchy about this. Abuse is using a closed fist or leaving bruises or welts. Spanking is when you smack someones bottom quickie but firmly with an open hand. I was spanked growing up. There was times when i didn't think I needed it and times when I knew I did. My children will be spanked if they need it, but I think it shouldn't be the first form of punishment.

"Child buttock-battering" you call it. What if it's the only thing that works? Pops' old standby was that heavy razor strap, and yes it was ABUSE. But it worked on me. He was a fanatic about a few things. Like my attitude. He expected me to respect women (especially my mother). He would not tolerate a nasty attitude, or even leering, sneering. I tend to excuse myself, saying oh, just childish stuff. Or, I couldn't help myself. THANK GOD THEY DIDN'T PUT UP WITH IT. (Never believe the "boys will be boys" malarky. Unless you are raising a future rapist, etc.)

Yeah i got spanked too. I also think i deserved it. looking back i'm glad my parents spanked me because i probably would have turned out a spoiled bitch. My parents used to use shoes and belts mostly. I don't think its abuse, its discipline. I don't think it means you're bad parents, there's different opinions on how to teach your kids.

I still get spanked from my dad I am 23 hairbrush paddle hand belt I don't think I should get them anymore as I am too old but he disagrees anyone else feel the same

Spanking is normal but different families go about it differently. My brother and I got spanked by our father. It didn't happen all the time but it happened. He always spanked the same way: he would lecture me about what I had done wrong, then he would take me to my room and sit on the bed. I would have to pull my pants and underwear all the way down and lie across his lap. He would spank me with his hand. He spanked very hard as of the first spank. He would spank at a slow pace and it would seem to go on forever. I think he would spank at least 20 swats, maybe more. I would cry and squirm. When it was over my bottom would be dark red and very hot. I was around 10 years old the last time I got spanked. I don't think it was abusive. I deserved those spankings and I believe they helped me to be better behaved.

I think it depends where u live. My little sister and I got spanked all the time till about 8th grade. They werent brutal or anything. mostly just a over lap hand spanking on the bare butt. the only think i dont think was normal is how often we got them. but maybe other kids got them alot too and dont admit it.

Am just 16 and my Dad uses his belt or a strap on my bare butt cheeks, just got "IT" tonight for not going to school....played with my friends out in woods shooting deer, strapped 25 times with my Grandpa's razor strop, can't sit, will be star in gym tomorrow when dudes see my welted ass...but most od us get it and see who's got the worst strapping..any dudes my age still get "IT"?

My mother spanked me. It hurt a lot. I think it's one of those things where it's illegal but common.

I vaguely remember my grandmother spanking me as a child but the thing is she didn't want anyone to know about it. I remember my clothes always being on and there was no bare bottom spanking. that cunt passed it off as being some kind of game!!! There were also time when I was older when psychically abused me. The one I remember most clearly was when she twisted my wrist despite knowing full fucking well that I had muscular issue. I even wrote a post about that one. It was a totally uncalled for action that happened because she misunderstood the situation. I was in immense amount of pain and crying. All it did was make me scared of her for quite awhile and I hated her even more. Then she had the nerve, shortly afterwards, to expect everything to going back to being "normal".

I don't want kids but if I did, though I highly doubt it, I would never ever abuse them. Any kind of abuse can cause untold trauma to them.

llove means teaching our kids so they learn..and not mess up without consequences..spanking with aloving intent to teach..i dont want my kids like all kids now adays
with no respect...god knows best..we are not perfect like him...follow him and all else makes perfect sense

i got spanked but very rarely and only three licks..it was almost enough to laugh at..but hey it still taught me respect and love..the bible says spare the rod spoil the child..so god knows best people..we are inperfect...but he knows best..discipline with love not abuse..spank to teach not hurt..only the creator knows best ...peace!!

Yeah, me and my bros always got spanked. Not only
at home, but they spanked us in school, a wooden paddle. Man, if u got it in school a note was sent home and u had to have it signed and returned in the am. Most of the spankings I got in school were from coach in the lockerroom, usually bent ove holding ur ankles, butt up with just ur jockstrap on, and wolleped across ur butt cheeks up to 10 times> Did it hurt, u bet, but worse was I knew Dad was going to lick my behind bar with his leather work belt, now that was a fire on my behind!

sure i got smacked it was normal in the 1990's
it never did me no harm but it should not be used for nothing.

I was smacked as a child (never did me any harm), a smack on the back of the legs does no harm, but I am completley against hitting children with shoes ect, but everyone knows the difference between a smack for discaplin and abuse. I also do not agree with dads smacking children their mum's hand is big enough.

A lot of you says spanking is OK. How can you say that? It hurts, you know. And what child "deserves" to get hit? Nobody, ok? I know a lot of people that misbehaved as a child, but they turned out just fine as an adult without getting spanked. So you don't need it. It's never ok to hit a kid. If you think it is, got spanked when you were young and say that you turned out normal: you're lying. You think you can just hit a kid, and thats NOT normal!

My dad sometimes... With the hand but not very painfull, once with a stick though, he didn't do it hard but I never forgave him for it... My mother once, with a spoon, on my bum... It broke xD

The two of us laugh about it now, so yeah, spanking is very normal, why? Instincts. You'll never see a mother lion 'talking' to her cubs. If they run of or go to a dangerous animal, do something stupid.. She smacks them. And thats how they learn. Pure instincts, purely normal. As long as it doesn't get to abuse. Yes, I sucks, but its supposed to ;)

I got spanked a lot growing up always my my mother and usually on my bare bottom. She used a slipper or hairbrush on me. Most of my friends got the belt. The worse part was the humiliation if people found out. I don't spank my kids but I don't condemn parents who do spank their kids. It's for parents to decide how to discipline their kids not politicians or the legal system.

all the time and for stupid little reasons

Never spanked, because I was never bad.

I was spanked as a kid growing up atleast twice a week. Always bare bottom, but we knew what we would get if we were naughty so it was our own fault for pushing our parents buttons. We were spanked usually with slipper or hand, nothing else.

TO OLLIEO:

Whatever it's worth to you, your concision and well-versed responses would make you one hell of a good therapist.

Others give great suggestions. We seem to respond to the same IIN Q's.

my mom used to chase me through the woods and beat me with a large wooden baking spoon. then she'd lock me in the closet for 3 hours. My childhood rocked!

MY GRANMA USED TO CARRY A WOODEN SPOON IN HER PURSE

Emotionally and verbally spanked...

My Mum used to beat me with a wooden spoon, and whilst it may sound horrific I actually thank her for it because it was undoubtedly deserved.

I don't think using objects to whack kids is great to be honest. I used to get a whack on backside with a hand (or even a gentle boot) when I was younger and I'd do the same to my kids if reasoning with them first didn't work.

I dang near got knocked the fuck out. I got regular beatings, which i really deserved, i am happy that my mom disciplined me esplly being a single mom. I am now 23 doing my masters and enjoying a fruitful life cuz of the discipline enstilled in me.

i got chased around the house with a belt LMAO

i got hit growing up as well, by my grandparents and my father mostly. like this one time i snuck out of the house, and was caught. i feared my grandfather because he used a paddle, that sat ontop of the fireplace as an ornament and u can bet that thing scared the shit out of me after that day. i do think it made me a stronger person, strong discipline. nowadays everybodies kid is a brat and does whatever the hell he/she wants. i dont aprrove

I was spanked by my dad when I was litle. He used a belt. I was so young I don't even remember what I did wrong, I just remember being afraid of the belt and crying. That was one of my earliest memories as a little girl, and a very sad one too. It also made me afraid of my dad and affected my relationship with him.

I don't think spanking is ever acceptable. There are better ways to punish your kids without hurting them. Timeouts were better for me, I got the point, was bored out of my mind, and I rarely repeated bad behavior. If I ever have kids, I'll never hit them, with ANYTHING.

See what you learned about being smacked & hit about as a kid - violence is OK: "all well deserved." Well. parents didn't know any better then, some still don't now. Hitting kids with objects as "discipline" would bring in the cops and child welfare now.