Son has destructive habuts

Sounds pretty normal to me. I'd try to get him away from the pot though, as it can get him in big trouble with the law. Otherwise, normal. Lots of people have tattoos.

I guess I'd hoped he would make more responsible choices about his lifestyle, One evening he came out of a burger place and tried to help a woman who had fallen, and nearly got arrested because either police looked at him and thought he had assaulted her. He says the pot helps because he is bi-polar, but I don't know that. His mother is bi polar and doesn't care about him. His sister is an overachiever, but I have never compared in any way. We have a good relationship . I have apologized for any mistakes I made in his life and I feel I should have been able to be a better rock to him. He says i have nothing too fee guilty about now. But I do.

Habuts. hahaha

Well it depends what kind and where the tattoos are. Large tattoos all over his face containing spelling mistakes are a problem. Most other tattoos are not.

With dope smoking, it depends how much he smokes, if it's draining most of his money and if it's affecting his motivation and direction in life.

At a certain point (I think you've reached it as you say he's in his early 20s) you have to let him make his own choices and live with the consequences of those choices.

let me take a moment to apologize for typos in my posts. I am a terrible typist. I wish I knew how to help my son find direction and I just don't think daily pot smoking is the answer. he tried depression meds and didn't like the side effects. I just feel Im not helping him.

I wear T=shirts and boots. It's just tat i worry about hi future, and how his choices will impact his life

Are you particularly religious?

As long as he's not gay he'll be fine.

I'm confused: he's your son and his mother is bi-polar? Aren't you his mother?

It's the nature of some of hi tattoos. One is a dotted line around his neck with the words "cut here" That's a little scary, I keep berating myself because he has suffered from depression. I keep thinking I wasn't good enough because he has problems.

Pot isn't known to be addictive and really isn't that harmful to be honest, unless it's interfering with his life and causing him to be unmotivated. Alcohol and tobacco are more harmful even though they are legal. I also don't see what's wrong with tattoos? I don't see a problem.

Are you being serious right now? Do you realize how many 20 something's you just described? What year is this?