Sometimes i have bad gender confusion

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I am almost 21 Ive been in a relationship with a very accepting girl for the past 3.5 years. I have had this problem since I was 11 as far as I remember that was the first time I wished that I was a girl. From time to time I really wish that I was a girl sometimes for sexual reasons and other times I just don't know why but I would give up every thing to be a girl for a while. Then on other days I am super glad Im a guy because I get to hang out with all my straight friends and not have them look at me like meat, and also because that way I get to have matching parts with my girlfriend (even though were both bi or at least at one point where). What I want to know is, is there anyone out there who can understand this or feels the same way? Im not particularly flamboyant which seems to really blur this topic for a lot of people. Im very confused some times but I don't really care if this is normal or not I just wonder if Im alone.

On another note this problem also tends to make things weird with family. My mom knows (or she might be in denial) but since I'm with a girl it seems ridiculous to tell family were being freaky behind closed doors and at the same time I wish I could just go around in drag and not be judged or attacked. (especially in texas, pretty damn scary thinking about going outside in most towns in drag). Any advice on this topic would be super appreciated.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    You've probably already experimented with your girlfriend's clothes, so I won't mention that. If you haven't, try it. If she doesn't have any that fit you, then go to a thrift store and buy some pieces that look like they'd fit and keep them at her house.

    Now, if I were to give this advice to a friend, I'd say, go to another city (in your case, Dallas, Houston, whichever one had attractions such as gay bars or drag lounges) and dress as a woman. I find that in most cases of gender confusion, it's really more of gender curiosity and some good old fashioned role-playing will really scratch that itch in regards to wanting to *be* another gender. Go with your girlfriend, have a fun time, feel like a woman, be a woman, go home and have a good think about it.

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  • GenderConfused
    11 years ago

    I crossdress but i look like a guy(beard and all).
    It just feels great.
    Go for it.

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  • Energy
    11 years ago

    It's normal. I feel like you all the time. And I wouldn't say Texas is a good place for Transgenders, or Gender Queers, or whatever you want to call yourself.

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    • slutzombie
      11 years ago

      Dallas has a many gay communities.

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  • Shrunk
    11 years ago

    I'm like that but I'm a girl so I don't know if it helps. but i often dream and fantasize as a guy, sometimes I almost forget I'm a girl. I've looked in the mirror and seen myself as a boy... Even if i was a guy though, I would probably be girly, so idk, it's just very confusing... Anyway, it's good that you're with someone who can accept it. I would love to know a guy like you, i enjoy crossdressed and/or girlish guys. There is a tumblr called genderfork that has pictures of all different gender types, maybe if you look there you won't feel so alone:)

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I wished for a long time that I had died instead of my baby sister. I thought that my family would love me and that she would be happier

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  • Niea65
    11 years ago

    Oh my..I thought I'm the only one. Many times, I wish I was a guy. But no, I'm not lesbian or what. I'm really attracted to the opposite sex (boys) but many times, I wish I was a boy myself O_O

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  • tehwalrus
    11 years ago

    It's pretty normal, I wish I could wear women's clothes but unfortunately my bodytype and beard mean it couldn't possibly look good.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    Sounds like you're transgender.

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  • runescaperules!!!
    11 years ago

    Yea man u perfectly normal its actualy pretty comon these days but most wont admit it cuz of like they don't wana be bullied etc uno what I mean? But yea there's a ton of peeps like u man but like I read in a above post go out wear girl clothes makup etc and c if it seems good to u if so keep doin it if it seems just right to u like better etc look into takingthe drug estrogen (talk to docter first not availble to all for bosy reasons like ura cant take it) (estrogen is a female hormone drug)(any ladies out there wit same story just reverse talk to docter about the drug teresterone(probly spelt thhat wrong and yea)

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  • Annju14
    11 years ago

    Well, i was walking into the store and i saw this old guy dressed as a girl starring at me so i suggest not dressing as a women unless if like you know for sure no one can tell and my step-brother is like you but what he does is watch chick flicks...doesn't make any sense....

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