Something is wrong here..iin?

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People automatically think I'm being selfish and conceited when I never think of myself as that.

Most commonly, people say things to me like, "You think way too highly of yourself. Come back down to earth God."

It hurts me terribly because I never try to think highly or anything. I never even put me first. Even on here, the questions I ask seem to make people hate me. I don't want any hate. I feel it's rude to hate someone for no reason.

This is what I can say, "That girl comes from a poor family. She honestly thinks marriage will save her so she's marrying Jimmy tomorrow and she's only been with him for 4 months. My family is the total opposite, we care about education, wait until we have enough money and then have a reason to marry. We wait and it always works out. Her family has many people who divorce because they marry for money."

And the person I'm talking to will be like "Oh my God Sarah, get your head out of the clouds. You're not Jesus. You think way too highly of yourself."

But that was NOT my point. I was only saying that the girls family are very poor and marry for money because they don't get an educate or care to get one. Education saves marriages because it helps people wait and it helps people to not marry for money.

Why do I get hated for that? I swear I never even think about myself and how my family are above average. I only think about others and it hurts to see them make bad decisions. So why am I hated in return for caring?

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I think your observations are ultimately correct, but your attitude about it really stinks.

    I also think that the majority of people do think about those same things that you are thinking... However, they don't feel the urge to blab about it because it is highly inconsiderate, rude, and shows a general lack of sophistication. No, I do not think you are selfish, but I do think you are very self-righteous. What makes you think that your negative (whether it's true or not makes no difference) opinion is in any way appreciated by anyone else?

    Kudos for you though for seeking out the truth. I sincerely hope you find it.

    Love aside, marriage is like a business; sometimes you have a great business and sometimes you go bankrupt. At least we are living in modern times now when people are not expected to stay together for eternity, especially after they have let their visions of their future together whither and die until they hate each others' guts. But then you have the people who are smart about it and continually nurture their marriage.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      When depression is all there is, it's hard to sit back and let it take away my last breath. I try to write how I feel to strangers so that 1: It won't offend/annoy them as much as friends whom I speak to often and 2: To provide me with a sense of therapy.

      Thanks for your input though, I guess.

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      • Moneybagschest
        11 years ago

        You are missing the obvious fact that she is poor. If she comes from a poor family she probably will not get enough to pay for a university. So they marry into money so they know they will be taken care of.

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      • [Old Memory]
        13 years ago

        This is a great site for that, but take the negativity with a grain of salt and try to get something helpful out of it. The majority of the people making the comments on this site are under 20 years old, so although they may have a strong moral commitment, they may not have the life-experience that older people do. But there are a few very wise people on here, like Ollieo, so don't dismiss all of it if it's not validating your current opinions.

        If you can find it in you to judge others harshly, then you should be able to take others' harsh criticisms. If you don't like being judged so harshly, then maybe you should stop passing judgment on others.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          13 years ago

          What judgements? She comes from a poor broken down home..

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          • [Old Memory]
            13 years ago

            You are missing the point here. Your problem isn't the young couple's hasty marriage, it's your inability/refusal to keep your negative observations and opinions to yourself, so much so that you are upsetting people around you.

            I'm not saying: "Don't have an opinion." What I am trying to help you understand is; not everyone around you actually cares what your opinion is, especially since you tend to always point out the negative.

            How do you want people to perceive you?

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  • bleach_baby
    13 years ago

    See whats annoying people here is using yourself and your family as an example of the "right" way to do things. By doing this you are implying that you are better than other people. If you had said instead "I think she should wait and get an education" rather than "My family blah blah blah" people wouldnt get pissed off. Not judging cuz you clearly dont realise what youre doing, but yeah I'd think about it if I were you.

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  • bodiewangler
    13 years ago

    You're a judgmental creep. That's a reason to be hated.

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  • slutzombie
    11 years ago

    you sound annoying as fuck LOL

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  • Allistalla
    11 years ago

    I got this my whole life to. poeple always siad I was a monster for even speaking my mind.

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  • mtnw
    13 years ago

    people are going to live their lives however they see fit. although you are right in your thinking, keeping your thoughts to yourself will serve you better.

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  • lmn
    13 years ago

    I think I can understand what you are saying in regard to this young woman and how her and her family don't share the values that you and your family have. I get that you have opinions and you want to speak your mind but you have to realize that people are sensitive (even over-sensitive in my opinion) and they don't always respond well to such honesty. I also wonder about whether these are unsolicited opinions you are spouting... Is it possible that you are offering opinions that no one asked for and people just find it annoying?

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Certain "haters" tell me that I am very narcissistic and self-centered and such, when I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT THE FUCK THEY ARE TALKING ABOUT!

    I feel your pain, and don't worry; maybe we really ARE just superior than most!

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    • slutzombie
      11 years ago

      you realize this is a rather narcissistic comment don't cha?

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