Someone with such potential but underaged.

I met someone online. This person says the most fascinating things. I've never heard thoughts like these. The problem is, this person is underaged. I appreciate the honesty from this person but I sort of wish the person did not tell me this. It's just like forcing a reason for me to stop the emailing and now I'm edging close to stopping contact. If I continue, it feels as if I'm going to develop emotions unfit for a relationship between an adult and minor.

Please give me some insight, have you've ever had the same experience? What should I do?

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Continue the contact. 38
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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

    stop.

    don't tempt yourself with something you know you're not allowed to have... because you'll only end up trying to make excuses to justify tapping that well.

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  • Short4Words

    How old is she/he?

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  • bigfatpoo

    You want to talk to her.
    She wants to talk to you.

    KEEP TALKING

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    • GoraIntoDesiGals

      This

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  • Terence_the_viking

    Forget about it.

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  • drugsrbadmkay

    Her real name is Chris Hansen.

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  • iin2want2know

    I would stop corresponding as hard as it may be.

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  • LizardSkin

    I date a 16 year old, which happens to be the age of consent in my state. I'm 10 years her elder. She pursued me, and to this day keeps reassuring me age doesn't matter to her (i've been the one worried about the gap.)

    But so far things seems to be going fine. As far as other people's criticisms of the age gap, I couldn't care less about other people's judgments.

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  • dom180

    Well, is there a romantic connection of any sort *right now*? If so, tell them why you're worried about you two talking and, if you each think it's appropriate to, cease contact.

    If there's no romantic tension going on, I don't see what the problem is :)

    It also depends on the age of the person, and the age gap between the two of you and the age of consent where they live if you live in different states or countries. If you're 19 and the other person is 17, no problems there. If you're 40 and the other person is 13, that may be more of an issue.

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  • (s)aint

    As others have said before me, how old is she? You should not worry if she´s above the age of 16.Her age should not change your feelings for her.Especially since you are only 23 years old yourself. If she´s like 12-13 however, you might wish to contain yourself a little bit around her.
    If the two of you are ment to be more than friends what prevents you from waiting for her to reach a proper age? Good luck and don´t throw away a good friendship over something like this

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  • Ldizzy1234

    Just know your boundaries. If you can't handle talking to them because you feel they're such a temptation, cut the contact. But do it nicely so theres no hurt feelings.

    Or

    Continue conversing, and if they make any attempts to move further with you, lay it on the line that they have great potential, but you don't feel comfortable as they are too young.

    Honestly though, I really don't see how you're ever gonna get out of not being honest with this one, unless you just decide to say nothing at all. Whatever you decide, I hope it works well for you. Good luck!

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  • GuessWho

    I don't want to encourage a relationship with a minor, but I did vote "Continue the contact".

    You can surely maintain a 'good friends' relationship.
    ...at least until she is of legal age.

    I wouldn't stop contact with someone whose company I enjoy / personality I like.
    I always enjoy talking to others who are mentally on the same level as me, regardless of their age.

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  • Avant-Garde

    How old are they and is their any "romantic tension" going on? If not, I don't see why you should stop being friends. If something is starting to occur, you should tell them your concerns and then decide where to go from there. Dom brings up a interesting point with the legal age in different countries. If do live in different countries you should look up the legal ages of your friends' country.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_of_consent
    ^^^ This includes a section on the age of consent titled, "By country or region".

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  • Shrunk

    I guess it depends how young they are, but also does there really have to be emotions, if you keep in mind they are underage..? I mean it's fine to love them as a friend, as long as there is no sexual things involved it should be ok. I had a similar experience with a guy but he was 17 while I was 19 there was nothing sexual since it was online (he did talk to me about sex though) but I still felt weird, it was the first time I felt like that for anyone so it was a bit disappointing to know he was younger than me.

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  • charli.m

    Depends on the sort of contact and how much underage.

    If it is remotely sexual/romantic, then yes. Tell them you cannot be in contact with them until they are 18.

    If it is platonic, then unless they are quite, quite young, I wouldn't think it would be a problem.

    Personally, I don't feel right talking to people online under the age of 15/16 unless they are family members.

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    • Littlebadgirl

      I agree. It depends of his/her age. I'd say 16 and older is ok, considering you are not talking in a sexual or inappropriate way.
      Otherwise stop the contact.

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    • We don't do any "sexting." She can be quite sexual but its her little play on words. We do talk about sex and relationships but it is quite clear we are not looking for any sexual gratification from both sides of the party.

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      • charli.m

        Ok. I don't think that is necessarily a problem, but it really does depend on ages. Also, depending on ages, you need to be careful that even talking like that will not get you into legal trouble.

        The fact that you say she can be sexual brings a whole new lot of things into play. Not necessarily bad, but there is potential for it to go bad. And like others have said, you need to be caeful of her emotions possibly developing. You're the adult, so if things change, you will need to be aware and ready to walk away. Regardless of how mature she is, she is still legally a child.

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