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The above scenario just happened to me online.
If they were asking me IRL, I probably would tell them they were attractive anyway and then get away as quickly as I could
| Tell them how attractive you find them | 31 | |
| Completely ignore the question | 26 | |
| Other | 29 |
Be honest but nice. Pick out something good and tell them what it is. Everyone has at least one good feature.
This.
Unless they don't. Then just tell them that they don't do much for you. That is usually what I tell people that I am not attracted to, "You're not my type".
The "you dont do much for me" is funny, kinda like the variation of "its not you, its me" thing. When its really you not me. Basically saying you dont do much for me is just saying "I think you're sorta ugly, sorry", but it is nicer then actually saying that.
The "You're not my type" is probably the best answer out of all them though.
That was going to be my answer, word for word. I feel like you've been peeking inside my brain now. :P
If its somebody of the same sex, I'd just be like; "Yeah, you look fine. But why do you care so much? Theres other qualities besides looks that make you hot, you know." Then, if I know them well enough, I'll tell them what I find attractive about their personality. "You're really funny, and I'm pretty sure that you're one of the only ones that can make me smile when I'm in a bitch ass mood.(wearing a smirk on my face.)"
Or
If they're still the same sex, and they're not exactly that attractive, but they have a nice feature on their face like their eyes being a pretty color, or just nice in general. I'd say something like; "Sure you are! And I like the way your eyes glow." Or "Your dark hair brings out your eyes more." "They're a beautiful color!"
Now, if it were someone of the opposite sex, and I knew them, I'd probably say something like my top one. I'd say yeah, and then go into the personality traits that are nice. And when you say yeah, just say it. Don't make a big commotion out of it. Don't say it all enthusiastically. Just like yeah. Like whatever, sure. But for someone thats the opposite sex that I don't really know so well, I'd say, "Sure, why whats wrong? Did someone say you looked bad?" and when they tell you whats wrong, maybe someone said they looked ugly, just say; "Psh. Don't listen to them! Its just an opinion anyway.". Or maybe they were just having a shitty day, and are feeling yucky, just say, "Don't worry, you look fine." And be done with it. But if someone says something along the lines of taking an interest in you, just say: "I'm sorry, but I have someone else on my mind right now." And be done with it.
Sorry that was so long. You just wanna sound believable, but at the same time you don't really wanna lie either. I don't know. Its hard. Just say something quick like; "Sure! Look fine to me." And brush it off, hoping they don't go on about it. Move on.
I suppose it depends on how much I like the person. I'd want to be kind to my friends, mean to my enemies, and straightforward with strangers.
The kind way: "You don't appeal to my personal taste."
The mean way: "You're fucking ugly, bitch! Don't ever speak to me again."
The straightforward way: "No."
I think deep down everybody knows how much they rank in the beauty scale. All these different cop out answers such as "i only go for inner beauty", "Beauty is only skin deep", "I go for personality", "You're not my type" , "I see you as a friend" or worse "a brother" only add insult to injury.
Well, since you barely know this guy, I think you should just say something like, "Honestly, no" but don't go into any details or actually say that you find him ugly. Then, said person will either appreciate your honesty, get mad at you, never speak to you again, or some mixture of all three.
Found the convo (well their comments)
(What you looking for?)
Truthfully, to meet a variety of women. Im bored of the petite prettyface typical girls as thats... [what I've typically had]
Would you say I was your type? x
(I don't have a particular type)
Maybe that question was too broad. Do you find me attractive?
(I think that's when I start getting annoyed and say there's more than looks. I ask him why me)
Because I like my girls with abit more meat, and I girls with glasses are hottt!
What is IRL? Usually in that situation I would compliment the person's hair or smile. Like I have seen in previous responses to this, there is always one good feature to a person no matter how unattractive you may think they are.
If I had a gun in my hand at the time I'd shoot myself in the fuckin head.
It depends on who it is. If it's a friend I'll try to state my feelings but in a nice way.
If it was someone I didn't like, I'd be more blunt with them and if it was a stranger I'd tell them, but I would try not to offend them. I'd hate to have them flip out on me:/
It's interesting how many comments there are on this.
I feel like I could - maybe even should - have been nicer to the other person.
This guy on OKCupid said he was interested in me because he was sick of dating/having "the typical pretty petite girls" (Near enough his exact words) and thought I seemed cute (?!?!) plus he liked glasses.
He then asked me what my type was and I said I didn't have one.
He then asks me if I'm his type and if I find him attractive (I don't).
I'm annoyed at how superficial he's being and I say something along the lines of how there's more to life than looks.
I deleted the conversations because he pissed me off a bit, but now I wish I'd kept them ><
I'd say "Haha yeah you're fine, dont worry! I mean, look at me! I look hideous. I have these horrible feet.." and then start talking about something else.
I just say they shouldn't ask me as I don't pay attention to how people look. I don't really have an opinion on it since looks don't matter to me at all.
Hmm, tough. if it's work related and the person is not really -obviously, I'll lie. Kinda important to keep the customer's confidence. If it's a personal life situation I might lie again, and find a nice way to say "no", regardless. Because after such an answer flirting is out of question. :)
I'd usually tell them what I like about them, but in a way that hints that I'm not attracted to them overall.
then you say yes you're goodlooking and they say Pardon? just to hear it twice :D
Oh God! Isn't that the most insulting thing ever, though? If I asked someone about my appearance and they said that to me then I'd think they were just saying "you're ugly, but don't pay attention to that, you have a decent personality. And that's all that matters" *pats head*.
Argh, that's just the worst. I'd rather someone just say to me "you're repulsive" than "beauty's only skin deep". It just seems so condescending! No offence:P.
Eh. I only used it once and it was this guy that liked me that I thought was pretty ugly (and rather douche baggy on the side of that). Still, I didn't wanna hurt his feelings so I told him that.
Aww, poor chap!:P Haha, I don't know, things like that make me laugh. I find it pretty amusing when people are trying to be nice about things and because of it end up saying something which actually sounds worse than the thing they were trying to be nice about, if that makes sense. I guess it's one of those "it's not what you say, but how you say it" type things, to me. I definitely prefer brutal honesty. Maybe I'm weird for being like that, though.:P