So what do you thing about my sexuality?

check this out...i am a 22 year old with a story that makes absolutely no sense. if someone told me this i probably would say that they were in denial and didnt want to leave the closet. this is my story and i would really love to hear what you think.

in high school i was the normal boy crazy teenage girl. i had boyfriends, guys were interested in me, and i was interested in guys. i had a best friend who walked me through all of these crazy boy adventures. everything was normal until she admitted that she had feelings for me. she was in love with me. instead of freaking out i decided to pretend like nothing happened. i said no when she would flirt with me because i was straight and i wasnt into that. but now i find myself thinking about her all the time. she's amazing. she makes me smile. it has been a tad bit over a year and half since she told me how she felt and i know i love her more than i could ever love anyone else. i also know i think men are sexy and i cant imagine my life without men. i've thought of everything. am i a sl*t? am i greedy? and i dont think im bi because i am not attracted to women at all. i just love her. everything about her. she's that missing part of me that i need to survive...so what do you think. am i gay, straight...hmmmm i wonder?

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  • Gidget

    your not gay or bi you just love her as a friend and you are confussed because she has sexual feelings for u

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  • so_damn_unpretty

    unless you feel sexuall tension with her, and can imagine yourself kissing her, I'd say the love you feel for her is merely that of a close friendship. Like a sister. I have a best friend who I really do love too, for the past 9 yrs we've supported each opther through everything and never bail on one another when in need, even tho she now lives five hours away. and it's great to have such a tight friendship! your story really sounds like straight, but no one can make that call but you. maybe try kissing her? or kissing another woman? just make sure your intensions are clear so you dont hurt them.. let them know you are exploring your sexuality and just trying to discover yourself/ good luck! follow your heart!

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  • rokker

    ... Lisha may be half right. Love and sex are unrelated. You should consider that in your deliberations, however; If it were me, I'd disregard everything after 'confusing how [you] feel about her.'
    As for your sexuality; You really didn't give enough information to give an educated answer. In general though the major test of ones sexual orientation is fairly simple: Do you or do you not want to have sex with this woman?
    Before you think to deeply on that though, remember that Freud believed that all humans were inherently bisexual. It is a normal response, and nothing to be ashamed of.

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    • lisha590

      Honey, just like I said please don't think your gay. Just like I said "when you hang around someone their qualities good and bad tend to rub off on you" I don't think the question is "Do you want to have sex with your friend" I think the real question is "Do you want to choose to be gay.

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  • YOURaFREAK

    Lesbians and gays will burn in hell!
    Be straight! penis fits in vagina! penis does not fit in penis but does fit in butthole! butthole is only used for pooping, do not put penis in poop hole (yuck)!
    Vagina does not fit in vagina nor does it fit in poopy hole! (eeww gross)

    HAHAHA i this made me laugh after i typed it!

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  • fratom

    Always believe in yourself: Value and respect yourself and your sexuality. Your straight, your normal young and out to live your life to the full: It is okay to like and love the same sex and call them friend be it a level of friendship: Maybe love might be putting strongly, because if you have a friend in your life who values and respect you and you both value that in each other than liking is all you can do withn the many levels of friends and aquaintances you have and we all naturally have as we grow and journey through life

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  • BoredGuy

    you are confusing love with sexual attraction. You just love her so much you wouldn't mind muff diving for her, but is not genuine sexual attraction.

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  • It's ok to be bi! If u love someone, then the gender doesn't matter! Love is VERY powerful so don't try to stop it!!!

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  • BoredGuy

    you are str8 with confused feelings about your friend.

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  • gako

    Your straight. You just love your friend because she told you that she's in love with you. If she never told you she had feelings in the "other way" for you. You wouldn't care so much.

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  • maddiii

    I say try it out. Tell her how you feel. Give it a try and if it doesn't work then you'll have clarity.

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  • whyamisoparanoid

    you just really care about her. you like the attention she gives you and she was your best friend so it makes sense that you miss her. i doubt you're in love with her, bi or gay.

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  • nothing2

    thats cool i like your denial thing. its a great coping thing. oh yeah. there is no real lines anywhere. the man wants you to think so but that's just for marketing purposes.

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  • joliegems

    I think you are straight but she is slowly influencing you into the gay lifestyle. If you want to know if you are gay, then try finding some other women/girls you are attracted to. If you cannot find any, then this is just an isolated thing with this girl and you are in no way gay or bi.

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  • Hard to say - you are not attracted to women sexually in general. But you are to this particular person. Is it just powerful feelings of friendship/admiration that is not all that sexual but is exciting? Is it a stage. Is it the stirrings of a gay side to your sexuality?

    Whatever it is, I hope you just accept yourself as a normal.

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  • smeagolxx

    your love for her is pure, it's unfortunate that what you offer and give isn't enough for her

    and when it hits her that you can't be the one for her, she will go searching, and when she finds an actual lesbian partner... her attention and care for you will decline, as her gf will become her new top priority

    your love for her was selfless, hers for you was an investment, do you see that? and when she realises that there'll be no returns in the ways she was hoping, things will change

    you deserve a true best friend, not just someone who's in it for benefits

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  • achoo

    I think it's important to mention that you shouldn't lead her on. If you're not sexually attracted to her or you're confused, then it might be best to leave it alone for awhile.

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  • lisha590

    I think that you are staright and just have genuine love for your best friend. I think that the fact that she told u she loves u in a more than friend way is confusing how u feel about her. Dont let her suck u into her gayness (no offense) but when u habg around people their qualities good and bad tend to rub off on u. You should have a serious conversation with her and tell her that u are not gay and that she needs to respect this and move on

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  • oskilover18

    You're probably like me! 95%% straight. But there is this one girl in college I had a huge thing for. She happened to be bi, but wasn't into me unfortunately. Had she been into me, however, I totally would have dated her. But I have a boyfriend and I really don't like girls in general that way. But ... Elizabeth was really awesome.

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  • bimomate

    hmm mabye your bisexual?

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