So, turns out my boyfriend is racist.

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I’ve been in a relationship with this guy officially for a month and it’s been going great! He ticked off every box for me - great rugby player, respectful, kind, funny, suuuuper handsome. Buuuuut it turns out he’s racist. How do I know he’s racist?
He openly says the N word (hard R) - not really in that context but still nonetheless racist! He told me that he’d consider dating me if I was tanned but never ever if I was ‘lucky lucky black’...yikes. And then to top it off he says if I had a black vagina, he’d get sick if he saw it.
Now, he said all of this over text and I was just completely shocked. It came out of nowhere and it goes against my values. What do I do????

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  • trexagireve
    5 years ago

    Brake up with him!! Also it would be fun if you make him to break up with you!! Just tell him how much you admire black guys and how big they are!! And you wish you had a boyfriend with that much thick and long genitals!! Destroy his ego!!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Hahahaha that’s funny

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  • JellyBeanBandit
    5 years ago

    I agree with everyone else that you should leave him, but make sure first that you hear him say this stuff in person. If he's only ever said it over text it could just be a prank by one of his friends who stole his phone (I wouldn't count on it though). Be careful how you go about it though, if he suspects that you'll leave him if he admits to being racist then he could just lie, and say it was a prank by his friend.

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  • LornaMae
    5 years ago

    Tell him to fuck off and get yourself a decent boyfriend.

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  • charli.m
    5 years ago

    I don't know how it would take a whole month to notice.

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  • Whatintarnation
    5 years ago

    He sounds like a douche even if he wasn't saying racist comments.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    He has his priorities. You don't like it, you leave. We don't care about your modern inclusive ideologies. Races are different for every animals, and he made his preferences. Some don't like Pitbull dog race, others don't like black human race. It's his decision and nobody should ever remove his personal freedom of choice as long as he doesn't attack others.

    If you can't handle this, leave him. But I recommend you to learn to adapt and to accept other people's choices. To me it sounds like he's the complete pack of a great man.

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    • RoseIsabella
      5 years ago

      NO!

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  • TS
    5 years ago

    Is this seriously a deal-breaker for you?

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  • leggs91200
    5 years ago

    That part about "ticked off every box" sounds like you were just looking for something, anything to be fault.
    If it were not the racist comment, it would have been something else.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Nooooo, he’s perfect otherwise!!!!

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        I somehow seriously doubt that he is perfect otherwise. I think you are just blinded to his faults. You need to open your eyes before it goes to far with his crazy ass.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          Yeah, you’re probably right. I don’t even know what to say to him though

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          • RoseIsabella
            5 years ago

            You don't have to say I'm dumping you, because you're a racist. You can just start to be less available.

            Does he just say racial slurs, or is he actively talking about how much he hates blacks, or other races?

            Is he one of those conspiracy theory nut jobs that thinks all sorts of stuff?

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              5 years ago

              He doesn’t actively talk about it — but that’s probably because I reacted so weirdly to the comments he had made before. And those comments couldn’t be portrayed as anything other than racist, right? Oh, and I looked through his Instagram and he posted a photo of him with a black girl he talked to on a night out (that he doesn’t know), like making fun of her? Yikesssssssss

              He’s not a conspiracy theory nut job.
              I know it doesn’t excuse it, but he is 22 — I can’t tell if he’s immature and uneducated and he’ll grow out of it or not.

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  • factcheck
    5 years ago

    Chances are he’s going to have a lot of problematic beliefs that go against your values. I think you know what to do, and the sooner you do it the better.

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  • curious-bunny
    5 years ago

    He's racist so what? If it's a deal breaker leave him if bit then get to know him as a person. It's simple really

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    I think you should stop seeing him. Cut your losses, and run. He's a crazy person. If he is just randomly showing you that he's this rabid ass racist at the one month mark imagine what kinda crazy will be unveiled at the one year mark. Cut your losses, and get out now while the getting is good! 🤪

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