So sick of my stepdaughter, is it normal i can't deal w/her anymore!

The separation of her parents was very traumatic for her..as was the whole stress of the deteriorating relationship that led to the divorce...I don't know her relationship with her mother but the fact that she lives with her father means she is experiencing a loss their as well...even a geographical change is tough in a lot of ways for a child that old..she may feel rejected, abandoned and unloved and under the stress of adjusting to a whole new environment and she certainly is not in the mood to accept authority figures or the replacement of her mother...try to get her to talk about her feelings, to trust and accept you...rebellion is a form of depression and need for attention.... stems from the belief that no one really cares ...she may need discipline but more in the form of clear and consistent messages and a sense of security positive attention..her fathers love is the key ..give her a teal sense that someone cares and security

When you married your husband, his daughter was included in the package deal. You either need to get over it, learn to deal with it and love her or leave!

Sounds like she needs discipline and you are NOT the one that needs to do it. Get Mr. Man (your husband) to deal with this situation. He's responsible for her! I wouldn't tolerate that behavior and I don't blame you for being at your wits end. She could be a bad influence on your son or a danger to herself if the behavior (and underlying cause) remains unchecked.

Just my opinion.

if she won't do her chores or anything then get her to do it with you till she learns and maybe even develops a bond with you, i think that's what she needs. You can't just send her out on her ass she is too young. What happen with her mom?

I think you mightbe feeling this way because she\s not your child and you feel like you shouldn't be having to do this. Whoe is me sort of thing. Try to understand she is just a kid, but I admit she sounds like a handful. Make those kids work ddammit! Not just her, but your boys to. Make them t=do there own laundry, it will give them life skills and take alot off of mamas plate ;)

Some people cannot be changed by trying to understand them and reason with them. I'd tell her in front of your husband that you're not going to put up with her manipulative bullshit anymore. That you're taking her TV away until she stops acting like an asshole. Tell her you don't hate her, you're just not going to be walked on anymore. You'll be doing her a favor.

Wow. Let me say this y’all need family counseling as well as individual counseling. I know it’s hard but it does pass. But for everyone’s sake seek counseling for the entire family even your two year old. This isn’t healthy. Maybe she needs meds, maybe she doesn’t understand what you are trying to teach her about education but doesn’t want to tell you she don’t because she doesn’t want to feel stupid. I’ve been there done that. Get the fuck off your high horse and either seek professional help for your family or get a divorce and he will find someone else. I feel sorry for you and at least you are trying.

Fucking pedo scum.

Don't worry, it's probably the age.

EXCELLENT!!! THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR YOUR HELP!!! :)!!

THANKS Ariannel for your adv!!! 100% agree! :)

-deal was b4 we got married that she would stay w/her mom as she was... next thing you know she didn't want to be w/her mom anymore she wanted to be w/us, I accepted under the condition that she would follow MY house rules... and that has not been the case, she did it for a couple of days and that's it, now is just a hot mess...
-her dad is also tired of her...
-YES, i am def. getting to the point that it is her or me, but not both...

Try decapitating her.