So my 15 year old daughter is swearing like a sailor . . .

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So my 15 year daughter has been sick on and off for a couple of weeks and it turns out she has an abscess on her tonsil and it really hurts her. Friday night the doctor tells us to take her to the clinic on Saturday morning and I do (my wife has had more than her fair share of taking the kids to the doctor, I've only got about 231 more trips to even it out with her).

So the doctor at the clinic says I should take her to the ER and I do. So we get to the ER and they check us in at about 9:45 AM and then fast forward to about 3:45 and the doctor finally arrives and they tell us that he is going to have to drain the abscess and then cut it open to relieve the pressure. So she starts freaking out because he says, "well, the injections will just pinch a little bit". And she's screaming because they hurt, A LOT.

So she's supposed to be numbed up a little bit now and then the doctor says, "now I have to use this syringe to take a sample of the puss and I'm going to be honest with you, it's going to hurt. Then I'm going to have to cut into the abscess and open it up and that is actually going to hurt a lot."

So he takes the sample with the syringe and I'm holding her hand and I can tell she's in a full panic and it hurts but I figure the best thing to do is to get it over with because the doctor said that it would be over in about 5 minutes. This is when she starts swearing like a sailor, saying things I won't repeat here. At one point the doctor actually got kind of miffed (which I can understand) and said he was going to leave and let her cool down a bit for which I was glad.

Once he was gone I told her that the doctor was doing his best but that he didn't have very good bed side manners but that she really needed to calm down and try to get through it because there was nothing else to be done about it. She gave me her best trooper smile, though the tears and said she would.

When the doctor came in she apologized to him about the swearing, which surprised me and both of them seemed to get more relaxed. The doctor finished the procedure and my daughter laid back down and relaxed. I went out in the hall and talked to the doctor and thanked him and told him that my daughter really wasn't like that most of the time and that it was the panic talking. He seemed to accept it but I could tell he wasn't all that happy about it.

Daughter is home and feeling much better though she won't be going to school for at least a few more days. So, is it normal that I didn't really give her a hard time about the swearing? I just didn't care that the doctor's feeling were hurt because he just didn't handle my daughter's panic very well. Heck, if I would have been in her place I probably would have had a few choice words myself.

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  • Jollyjeff
    13 years ago

    Yeah but what can you do? It was a Saturday so I can understand him being on the testy side. I figured since he was putting sharp object in my child's throat I should try to keep him happy. In the end she was OK so it worked out.

    This reminds me of the episode of "Cheers" where Carla talks about how she went to a new dentist and just as he was about to work on her teeth she grabbed him in a sensitive area and said, "now we're not going to hurt each other, are we?" I'm glad my daughter didn't see that show, I might have had to draw the line at death threats.

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  • macncheez
    13 years ago

    You sound like a great Dad. I would have sworn if I had been you're daughter...all that pain and hell after a six hour wait! Who cares about the doctor. What a jerk.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    man walks on the moon and they dont have a local that works for her? dumb, and swearing helps for pain

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    • Jollyjeff
      13 years ago

      Yeah, back in 1969 they probably had a local that would have worked for her. At the very end of the procedure her mouth started to numb. If the doc just would have waited another 10 minutes she probably wouldn't have felt a thing. Oh well.

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  • one_guy
    13 years ago

    Well I mean, when someone is in the state where she was at. Why shouldn't she curse?? I suppose you were understanding. Maybe you can talk to het not to curse like that. And that was an exception? The dr is used to it. And some are used to seeing it, and have no remorse.

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    • Jollyjeff
      13 years ago

      Yeah, that was pretty much my take on it. And she handled it well so I don't have a problem with it. I just have to make sure she doesn't talk that way all the time.

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  • asura
    13 years ago

    Beat her...

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  • wistfulmaiden
    9 years ago

    Don't take it too seriously, there are a lot of things worse than swearing. My mother swears, my boyfriend swears even my adorable Irish aunt swears like an old sailor. But, does it really hurt anything?

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  • pixie_dust
    11 years ago

    He took a sample of the PUSS with a syringe?? I'd b swearing too !! Lol

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    If she was swearing from the pain that is probobly normal. If that is the only time she did it yes. That is how some people react. Not that they are personally angry at the person doing it but frustration.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I had an abscess on the butt once an the pain was excruciating. I couldn't handle the pain and I wish I would just die.

    So I guess it's normal for her to do so; I would've done the same.

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  • sixsix
    13 years ago

    Yeah, give her a break. :) Absesses (sp?) really do hurt like hell. She was also probably terrified.

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    • Jollyjeff
      13 years ago

      All was forgiven and she's fine now.

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      • sixsix
        13 years ago

        Awesome! Glad all is well! :)

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  • kingofthedust
    13 years ago

    She was in pain, but she still apologized. No harm done.

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  • mluker
    13 years ago

    Why would anyone read all that shut u wrote. Are ya serious? Shorten it up. And tell your be a parent. She's 15. Take shit away if she didn't stop swearing. She's 15. U could take away her cell phone and she'd be furious. Try doing normal parenting things. Hi ya doin???

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    • Jollyjeff
      13 years ago

      True, I should have edited it down. She's still recovering but she apologized to the doctor so I consider it resolved. I'll try to keep it short next time.

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    At her age I had heart surgery which later caused my lung to collapse. The cut me, pushed a needle into my lungs and finally inserted a chest tube and sewed it in...with no drugs. I had a few choice words as well. Sometimes it can't be helped. I wasn't allowed to speak that way at home but it just came out then. I'd give her a free pass.

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  • MercedesBenz
    13 years ago

    I think her response was appropriate given the circumstances.

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