Skinny vs. curvy

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Being skinny has made me self-conscious.

I used to like how skinny I was. But nowadays it seems like curvy women are more attractive to most people. In the media, figures like beyonce, kim K.. are praised. Where as I feel skinny people are only praised in fashion. The saying "real women have curves" drives me mad.

Most guys I talk to seem to like big bums.. For instance I was just watching a videos on youtube, where Andreas choice was interviewing this rapper guy. He said it was a deal breaker if a girl dresses like she has a big butt, but once she takes her clothes off she is flat as a plate. Why do guys care so much about a butt? I've been doing squats to make it bigger for 6 months. I don't really see a difference though.

I find myself looking at "thinspo" not because I want to be skinny like the models, but because I want to know that there are other skinny girls out there. And that maybe some people would find these girls attractive.

I have always been told I have a pretty face, nice hair, etc.. but I have never been told by a guy that I have a nice butt or nice figure. One guy I had a crush on was pointing out some girl and said she would be more attractive if she wasn't so skinny.. definitely made the crush go away haha.

I am really into health and fitness and my genetics make me very thin/small. There is no way to make me "thicker" with my lifestyle.

Do you think I could find a guy that likes skinny girls?

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago | pl

    The reason for all those "real women have curves" things, while I don't agree with the phrasing at all, is because there's still a HUGE amount of pressure for girls to be skinny. I read an article recently about a 6 year old girl with anorexia nervosa. Girls in elementary and middle school are dieting, people are eating tapeworms to try to lose weight. x.x

    But body shaming is bad no matter where it falls. As long as you're healthy (When a girl or guy looks severly underweight is the only thing I don't find attractive.. I find it worrisome) the rest doesn't really matter, and there are plenty of people who will love your body type, whether you weigh 90 or 290.

    I do feel your pain. I'm pretty skinny myself and people, even good friends, love to make fun of how small my boobs are. Just the other day my best friend was calling them mosquito bites. ._. Like thanks guys, thanks for making me feel like shit about something I have no control over.

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    • NeuroNeptunian
      11 years ago

      This

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  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago

    You're fine. Plenty of guys prefer skinny girls.

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    • shuggy-chan
      11 years ago

      skinny *birds*

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      • dirtybirdy
        11 years ago

        Skinny is not a word I could ever use to describe myself. I'm just not built that way.

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        • shuggy-chan
          11 years ago

          im no talking about you ima talking about me. im tall and yellow, like bid bird

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          • dirtybirdy
            11 years ago

            Haha of course. Silly me.

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            • shuggy-chan
              11 years ago

              Mostly they call me big bird course I have a big Squawk

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  • dom180
    11 years ago

    There are plenty of attractive women representing plenty of different "body types". So long as you're not extremely fat or extremely skinny, there are far more important things than what shape your body in determining how attractive you are.

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  • Goomats
    11 years ago

    I am a skinny girl. I hear you. I've dealt with all of the things you described.

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  • yesnomaybeso
    11 years ago

    I'm worried I'm too skinny too but I really can't seem to get fat. I eat loads and do not exercise and I'm still the same. I'm also concerned about that sometimes, but I still prefer being (too) skinny than (too) curvy.
    And, I think that if people really preferred curvy girls , models would be too, since shops just wanna sell and they choose whatever people like....

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    • MegaPaw
      11 years ago

      Its strange that models are usually so skinny. Most people I talk with agree that those super skinny models do not look good. Also, even if you have a high metabolism, it's still not healthy to eat bad, and not exercise. Even skinny people can have heart attacks. Have you tried eating smaller meals many times a day? Sometimes that helps.

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      • yesnomaybeso
        11 years ago

        I eat five meals a day! I think that is okay???
        Most people don't eat even 4 meals a day.
        I eat loads of pasta. I know I don't eat very healthy but I don't eat loads of cakes or very bad stuff either. And I never exercise because I odn't have time :( I know its bad.

        I know they look bad. It does worry me that I odn't wanna look thaaaaaat bad. I hope I never do!

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  • jimmy123969
    11 years ago

    There's all types of beauty in all sizes your beautiful the way you are

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  • Fabulous
    11 years ago

    Stop using that word

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    • robbieforgotpw
      11 years ago

      What? Curvy? It's being politically correct.

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  • broken_angel
    10 years ago

    we are all beautiful in our own way. chubby,skinny,flat chested,big boobs, anything we are all beautiful and one day someone special will realize that. :)

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  • Choclateman47
    11 years ago

    Your perfectly fine. If a guy doesn't like you for that then he's not worth your time anyways.
    You should message me on Kik if you wanna talk about it.

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  • jemylovesweirdos
    11 years ago

    there are for sure guys who like skinny chicks... there are guys who thing curvy girls are disgusting pigs! idk maybe you need to move to a different state lol... try california they are obsessed with being skinny...

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  • eatableyou
    11 years ago

    Well if u work out u must have a cool body, it's hard to lose weigh but easy to gain weigh. I'm curvy myself but it doesn't skinny girls are not awesome as well . If u think ur attractive then u will look attractive

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  • TekaiGuy
    11 years ago

    ARE YOU KIDDING? I love skinny girls! Big boobs and big butts don't matter to me. Something about seeing the musculature and anatomy on a woman turns me on though. :P Besides, I'm skinny too so it's all I've ever known.

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  • Tehboss
    11 years ago

    you can find any kind of guy don't worry about your looks worry more if you can give good head :D

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  • disthing
    11 years ago

    You are beautiful, no matter what they say.

    WORDS CAN'T BRING YOU DOWN! OH NO!

    SO DON'T YOU BRING ME DOWN... TODAAAAAAAY!

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Lots of skinny women have curves. Beyonce has always been slim everywhere but her thighs. Check out my poll: http://isitnormal.com/poll/do-you-think-of-curvy-as-a-shape-or-size-109465/

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Curvy means either pear shape or hourglass. Pear is when a lady has small waist compared to hers hips. Her hips are atleast 10 inches bigger than her waist and at least 2 inches bigger than bust. Hourglass is when there is atleast a 9 inch difference between bust and waist/waist and hips. An hourglass figure can have a bust up to 3 inches bigger than the hips.

    Wear a steel boned corset for 23 hours a day and I can guarantee you will either have a hourglass or pear shape once the corset is on. After about 4/5 months you will notice a slight change to your natural body shape when the corset is off.

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    • disthing
      11 years ago

      Or she could work on her self-esteem so she doesn't have to resort to such bizarre measures.

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        Corsets are awesome not bizarre.

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        • disthing
          11 years ago

          I didn't say corsets are bizarre, I said resorting to wearing them for 23 hours per day to warp your natural body shape into more of an hourglass just to appear more attractive to men is bizarre.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    Most of the guys that I know will take an attractive girl either way. As Shade said, there is still a huge amount of pressure for girls to be thin and for every culture, there is a counter-culture. No worries.

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  • keef
    11 years ago

    I feel like no matter what, most girls will be uncomfortable with their body. People tell me a lot that I'm "hot" and stuff. But I don't see it. I feel fat. My boyfriend just says I have "the body of a woman, not a little girl".

    The point is, you're beautiful no matter what. There are PLENTY of guys who prefer really skinny girls, you just gotta come across the right one :b And besides, you don't want a guy that likes you just for your "nice ass" or "amazing rack". You want one who will like you for you.

    Don't worry about being too skinny. Just keep yourself healthy, and don't bother with guys who just want a big butt to grab, they're not worth your time anyways. <3

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  • Skitzo1
    11 years ago

    I like most girls, but if i HAD to pick one in a lfie or death situation. I would certainly choose curvy, gives you something to hold on to. Bone freaks me out a little too.

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  • BallsToWall
    11 years ago

    I feel like I wrote this. I definitely understand you.

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  • kingsleycrowne
    11 years ago

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ssdgFoHLwnk

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    • needadvice
      11 years ago

      I just want to say thank you for posting this Bon Iver song. I have been listening to it none stop :P It's awesome.

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      • kingsleycrowne
        11 years ago

        Aw no worries thank you so much for saying thank you! It is indeed awesome glad you like :)

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  • westoptic
    11 years ago

    Every women has their own specific body shape, and trust me, plenty of guys love the look of skinnier/thinner girls. I'm 160 pounds and 5'8 and I love my curves. I was incredibly self conscious of my weight in high school but in my grad year and as soon as I graduated I become so much more self confident and now I don't even think about losing weight and I'm very happy with my body.

    Work what you've got!

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  • MegaPaw
    11 years ago

    I like girls who are different. Don't get me wrong, I like curvy girls, but they seem kind of... typical. And so small and skinny girls have always been very attractive to me. I'm sure plenty of other guys feel similar. The main thing, is that every body shape is attractive to someone. So, just be who you are, dont feel so self conscious.

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  • jimmy123969
    11 years ago

    Ur beautify the were you are some curvy girls want to be skinny like you everyone feels differently bout there body I'm pudgy as hell I hate it but I work with it. The point is to rock your own body and to not be picky when you finds some one who loves you for yours

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  • nevadaslimjim
    11 years ago

    Personally, curvy girls do nothing for me. Never have, which would also explain why my marriage (to a fat ass) didn't work. I have always been attracted to skinny girls with small tits.

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