Sister doesn't want to help me take care of mother anymore

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she told me she quit my mom's behavior is making her sick. Like panic attacks and stuff.Mom tried to strangle her ,mom says it was self defense. Mom insists everyone is stealing off her.Mom never liked my sister and sees her as lesser because she is sensitive and likes browbeat and harrass her and reduce her to a shaking crying mess.Mom likes me better but I don't want to take care of her either.Because I have four kids and she is terribly snobby to my spouse.I don't want to put in a home because what will people think. We can afford a nice one but it would be nice to forgo the costs.

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  • Terry...
    9 years ago

    You should not feel obligated to take care of someone who is toxic and dangerous simply because they are a parent. Your sister had the right idea when she stopped being a caregiver to your mother. Your mother attacked her in a manner that can kill someone!
    She obviously has mental health issues. That needs to be addressed. Get her to a doctor, now. Meanwhile she is being extremely physically abusive,& verbally abusive to you and your family.
    Tell your doctor what is going on. He can direct you to where she can be taken care of by professionals.
    Another way this can be handled...as soon as someone becomes dangerous to themselves or others, they can be involuntarily institutionalized. Don't feel bad about that because she will finally get the help of a mental health facility...something she has probably needed for a while.
    If you leave things the way they are, you might end up finding her trying to strangle one of your children one day!! She is not stable or safe to be around!
    By the way, if there is any cost involved, it should come from her first if she has any assets.

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  • laxman209
    9 years ago

    Take the trash out.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    9 years ago

    Reminds me of a similar situation that I'm in except it's with my older brother. I refuse to do anything for him anymore. I have my own life to live and continuing to waste it away on someone who not only will never appreciate what I do for him, but purposely goes out of his way to cause me nothing but stress isn't worth wasting my life on. No amount of people looking down on me for putting him in a home is going to change that. So yes, it's normal for your sister to not want any part of it anymore.

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