Single...and not loving it.

As a matter of fact, I hate it. I want a boyfriend so badly it's depressing. I've had to deal with this almost all my life and now it is a bigger problem because 1) I don't know anybody around my own age anymore. People I went to school with have their own lives now and most are already taken, engaged, or married. 2) I'm very shy about making a move on guys because I'm afraid they will think I'm weird. 3) I'm very picky about guys. I don't see myself as drop-dead gorgeous, but I'm certainly not ugly, either. But I see even ugly people with boy/girlfriends and think, "How come THEY can get in a relationship and I can't?" I even get nervous about hanging out with friends sometimes, and I don't care to socialize a lot because I know people will talk about their bfs (or gfs), and obviously, I can't talk about mine because he doesn't exist. Even seeing posts about other people's bfs or gfs or that "___ is in a relationship" on Facebook really gets to me. It seems like everybody but me can get in a relationship like it's the easiest thing on Earth. It also seems like everywhere I go I see happy couples and it makes me feel like a total loser. I think I'm letting this control my life. Is this normal?

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Based on 53 votes (40 yes)
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Comments ( 8 )
  • "Shy" and "picky": you're going to be single for a while longer then.

    Or you could start working on those two things that are holding you back.

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  • Hayleyjxx

    Totally normal to feel like this at some point in your life, especially when everyones moving on around you and you feel like it's never gonna happen for you. Trust me it will. Stop looking and let go of your insecurities, relax and be yourself and it'll just happen naturally.

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  • FocoUS

    Everybody feels the loneliness in their lives. You're normal

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  • Diver2

    Do you like to suck cock?

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  • 8989

    Oh my god the same is with me but i belive that my mr right will come one day and i think you should do the same.

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  • Zen_Rand121

    I'm the same, I haven't had a girlfriend in... geez, forever... but anyway, sometimes I just feel crushed that I don't have anyone in my life to love.
    But if you want someone, try and work on your attitude. Saying to yourself, "how come THEY can get in a relationship and I can't" is a really unhealthy view. Seriously, with an attitude like that, you could come across as shallow and petty, even if you're not. If you want a lasting relationship, try to be more accepting of others, and stop envying them.

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  • TyLee

    Enjoy being single! Focus on the positives of it not the negatives. If you really want a bf then you can have mine haha jk actually what I was going to say was if you want a bf then you need to be confident! Good luck!

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  • joybird

    Make friends with guys and don't regard them as boyfriend potential. You may come across as desperate, so calm down!

    Can't understand why you want to let somebody control your life anyway.

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