Shy boyfriend

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I have been dating this guy for around 4 months, but he was always so shy around me and I was always shy around him. We always talked online, texted all night long and even called sometimes at night. At school, we never talked unless we hung out after school. I love him because he's nice, sweet, cute, athletic and shy. I love that he is always so shy around me (its cute!), but I just want him to open up. I got him to talk to me a lot online. The only thing I looked forward to everyday was talking to him online. It was the highlight of my day. Practically the only reason we went online every single day was to talk to each other. Now, since we broke up, he hasn't been online at all. The only reason he broke up with me was because he was tired that we couldn't open up to each other and though that I was more comfortable/happy talking to other guys. It has been 3 months since we've broken up and I am still in love with him even though we NEVER talk at all. Can't stop thinking about him every second of everyday. I see him everyday because he is in most of my classes and always see him looking at me. I have no idea if this is a sign or not that he still has feelings for me...I think he knows that I still like him, but is either afraid to do anything about it because of the mistakes I had made when I was with him. Or he just doesn't want to be with me anymore, but I have no clue.

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  • countrybumkin
    12 years ago

    blow him

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  • karma_is_bs
    14 years ago

    why don't you just get the balls to talk to him face to face??!!sounds like you're not that shy if you talk to other guys comfortably...just ask him what the deal is.tell him you still think about him all the time and want to get to know him a little better than online chatting..go on an actual date with him or somthing

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    • mollardq
      11 years ago

      uh.. its a GIRL that lost her BF.

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  • Andramelach
    13 years ago

    Since your still in school I'll keep this as PG as possible. It seems that the foundation for a relationship has been made. There are many stages in a healthy relationship however. One of them is breaking the physical boundary.

    At this point it should only go as far as kissing and that's enough. Honestly, physical intimacy can at times be far more powerful than verbal reassurances. Try it. A hug is just as powerful.

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  • devilan04
    13 years ago

    u still young...good friend alway we needs.try to explain u ex bout ur good friends and you both try to talk more. sharing is most important. if you found that ,his not a right person for your life,then forget him.since u said,u are still studying so u can take sometimes to have true relation...think...

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    You weren't able to move to the "next level" - which for you was beyond text messaging. If you can't move to the level of actually talking and doing things in real life - at school, after school, face to face - then let it go. If you feel you can, then do it. Invite him to have lunch together. Attend one of his sport events. There's also no rule that says a girl can't ask a guy out for a dat, to a dance, over for dinner.

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  • FearFigment
    14 years ago

    He most likely still likes you but feels that you would rather be with someone more entertaining. He thinks that he bores you and that you're going to leave him, so to protect himself he leaves you instead, although he actually likes you. Idk that's just my theory from what you've said. Shy guys usually have a huge fear of rejection that's why they'll leave you before you get the chance to leave them.

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  • dwntwnMRbrown
    14 years ago

    phew thank ya baby jesus

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  • Florayfauna
    14 years ago

    He feels like he can't give you want you really want. You need to learn to be patient. Just because you are ready to open up completely doesn't mean he was, be more considerate. If you really care that much you ought to tell him or you will lose him, but don't go into it again unless you are willing to bend, he's not gonna crack easy he's more of an easer ( that is if he talks like that at all) I know people who don't. Some just don't Luke the intimacy of it, it's a vulnerability issue and they have to trust you with their soul practically). Make it known or it won't happen! Good luck.

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  • Osakahoopline
    14 years ago

    Why would you have trouble talking to him in real life? If you want to be with him then I suggest you start being more social with him in real life. If you can't do that then you're wasting time thinking about him so often.. First, however, you should ask to talk to him in person and tell him how you feel.

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