Showing affection for stepdaughter makes wife jealous

my stepdaughter and I did not have an easy time developing a relationship , I had never been a father and she had never had a real father , she was raised by her great aunt and uncle , after 3 years of trying we are finally comfortable with each other , on her 23rd birthday I gave her a hug and a little kiss on the cheek , that was the first time I had ever done that . She looked at me as if I had done something terribly wrong and I quickly apologized and told her I would never do it again , she said " no dad , it was nice , I liked it and you can kiss me on the cheek whenever you want , I was just surprised because I didn't expect it , so from then on when she goes to bed or gets up that is our greeting , a big hug and a kiss on the cheek . The problem is , my wife hates the idea and has told me to stop it , I certainly don't want to endanger my marriage but I don't want my daughter to think I don't care about her , she had a hard time growing up without her mother there for her and no father , I want her to know that I love her and will always be there for her....is it normal for her mother to be so jealous of the attention I show her daughter

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  • Ellenna

    The 3 of you need to sit down together and talk this out, there's too much guessing and second-guessing going on here

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    • Holladay09

      I have tried talking this over with my wife but she won't talk about it and she makes me feel as if I am doing something wrong, as I said my daughter was raised by her great aunt and uncle and there was never a mother /daughter connection between the two, even now people don't think they are even related because of the way they interact, however most people assume I am her father despite the fact that I am 6 feet tall and white and she is 4'10" and Asian, there is just a very real father /daughter connection between us, I hate the situation and pray for a solution because I Love both of them so much!

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      • Ellenna

        PS: I don't think praying about it will do much good but if it makes you feel better about the situation, go for it

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      • Ellenna

        Yr wife may feel you're doing something wrong, but she can't MAKE you feel anything unless you let her. If both you and your step daughter are 100000% ok with it go on as you are and she'll just have to accept it.

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        • Holladay09

          Ellena I have never had a daughter step or otherwise so she and I are just playing it by ear , we love each others company and the kisses just show our affection for one another , there are certainly no romantic feelings although my daughter is a stunning Filipina beauty , I love my wife and I might be old fashioned but cheating on my marriage ( with anybody ) is not an option

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          • Ellenna

            All I can do is repeat what I said earlier: you can't change your wife's attitude if she doesn't want to change. Maybe she needs more reassurance that you love her and find her attractive.

            You could think of it as a numbers situation: if you and your stepdaughter continue as you are, one person will be upset & resentful: if you stop being affectionate with each other two people will be upset & resentful.

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  • cidermaker

    No its not his step daughter, they have always been touchy feely to one another, I do suspect something is going on, thanks for your interest it is much appreciated

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  • cidermaker

    There is nothing wrong with a kiss on the cheek that is not personal even a brief kiss on the lips is ok, but what is not ok is what I see my husband and daughter doing is kissing on the lips and holding for a very long time with there heads turned sideways, they do it in front of me there bodies pressed together I have seen his hand on her bottom, should I be bothered she is an adult

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  • Zorwog

    You know, my dad didn't give me big hugs and kisses on the cheek every night before bed and every morning after getting up. Yet, I always knew he loved me. You say this stepdaughter is 23 years old - she's an adult now. I can understand why your wife is not okay with this.

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  • Gooddaddy

    Well if your wife has a problem with this she is really going to be angry when she finds out her daughter stole her man cause she is a useless old hag who should have given her to you a long time ago

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  • peterr2

    You wife should love it when you go down on the young lady. Eat her out. I bet her young gash tastes great.

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    • daydreamer394

      Obnoxious cunt.

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      • peterr2

        Just because I know how good her cunt tastes shouldn't upset you.

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