Should women be able to propose to men?

Yesterday, my girlfriend started talking with me about marriage. It was hypothetical, of course. She clearly wanted to ask me to marry her, but she couldn't because...why exactly? I can't see any reason why a woman asking a man to marry her is such a rare and radical thing. Do you think this is something that society's views on should change? I've heard people say the reason is that men are more rational and capable of deciding or something, which I think is silly considering that both of them have to agree to it, which kind of voids that reasoning even if women can be easily pressured. I've also heard it said that it's unfair and anti-feminist to want women to be able to propose because then something would be expected of them or some shit like that, which apparently comes from the same line of wanna-be "feminist" thinking that women are incapable of and should not be expected to open doors, pay for food, follow instructions, or do anything other than demand and consume. I can only begin to wonder why so many women call that progressive when what it really does is take away from them. Regardless, I've never found a reasonable explanation as to why they can't propose, and not for lack of trying to find someone who can provide one.

Yes, it's a pointless holdover from when women had a different role. 110
No, there's a practical reason why only the man should take that step. 27
No, it's best to stick with tradition even if for tradition's sake. 23
No, it's the man's job to make moves, women shouldn't be expected to. 29
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  • disthing

    No reason for gender to be a factor in proposal. If you love someone and want to marry them, ask them to marry you, male or female.

    As a guy I can honestly say I would have no problem with being proposed to by a girl I loved and wanted to marry - I wouldn't feel emasculated, I'd feel fucking great. Romance works both ways. One of my ex girlfriends once bought me flowers and I thought it was very romantic and incredibly sweet.

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  • Orangepeelx

    Women should be able to propose but personally i would rather keep the Tradition alive... For traditions sake :) theres no reason why the girl shouldnt ask! I would just prefer to have the man do it :)

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  • my mom proposed to my dad.....I would never do it though

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  • bryson_willis

    Women should propose... after all they owe us for all this equality nonsense we've been putting up with. "Now kneel down woman!". happy days...

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  • Uzzie101

    As a male I would be quite annoyed if my girlfriend proposed to me. Must be a primal, ego-tastical thing, but I wouldn't like it to happen.

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    • flutterhigh

      Your testicles have egos too? Mine only have ids. :(

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      • TheGuruOfTheSauce

        spelling mistake I think you mean aids? right?

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        • flutterhigh

          I have Freudian testicle aids. :(

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

    Other: don't let others decide what's best for our relationship.

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  • puckzilla

    I think most women want the whole romance thing, and want to be taken care of, more so then men do. I think that if they want to, they can, of course, they do anyway. But I don't think the social norm of the men proposing will be changing anytime soon, women will always want romance, and that is generally part of the deal.

    I would NEVER propose.

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    • abominus566

      to me it would matter, because marriage is marriage,no matter who asks, i would really mind if a girl asked me to marry her that actually might be a very honorable thing to do it says that she doesnt care about what man or woman should or shouldn't do,besides it might be cute for her to do so i think anyway.

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    • rainbowdrop

      You said everything exactly the way I would...its totally a romance thing. I personally am not one thats even into the whole proposing/marriage thing, but women love that thought of the man doing something *~magical~* when proposing and its going to stay that way. I don't really think it has anything to do with feminism or anything. If a woman wants to though (I wouldn't either), she can..I mean what the hell, right? Lol

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  • panvicka

    it is 100% men's job

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  • A_Slice_of_Life

    Tradition is overrated.

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  • 41ph4m413

    You shouldn't expect women to ever take charge or make important decisions on their own. As much as they pretend to be equal they always need men to do these kinds of things for them.

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  • no way it comes across as desperate and pathetic

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  • sugarbunny772

    i think a man should propose it's just horrible for a woman to do that. Men control the relationship in a way that they should be making the moves or atleast if thet want to be considered as gentlemen

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    • aimedwrong

      If a man proposes, that doesn't really put him in control.

      If you propose to someone, that means that you definitely want to marry them. The person that's proposed to is in control, because the ultimate decision is up to them.

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  • anonymous9250

    it is pointless if the female ask the man to marry her he will still get her a ring if he says yes

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  • OheyKayree

    Isn't it bad voodoo unless it's a leap year? That's what put me off. My boyfriend says didn't ask sooner because he was waiting for me to ask him haha!

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    • OheyKayree

      Says he* DAMN

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  • pambambam

    Her job is to let you know if shed like to marry you. then its up to the guy to ask because that shows that you love her more.

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  • thecoldhardtruth

    You should reframe your question. Women are able to propose to men.. Why is it typically the man's job? Because that's the tradition.

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  • Smartasscookie

    They should if they wanted to, personally though, I wouldn't want to

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  • kismetie

    There shouldn't be a problem but it doesn't really happen often so even though I don't have a problem with the woman being the one to propose I don't think I could bring myself to do it myself :/

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  • LawAngelo

    Women are able to propose to men but most of them think they cannot 'cause that is what they think, there is no right or wrong, and you make the decisions in your life (everyone is responsible for their own decision). Many people say we are all equal but when things like this shows up they say shits like they cannot and do all shitty stuffs just to prove they are right. If you love a person and you have really decided to stick with him/her regardless of who that person is if you really want to marry her/him, say it, act on it, do what you think is right, do what you love, just know what you really want and everything will follow. If the feeling is mutual and you want to marry her, then propose women like men to propose and for me if a girl would propose it would be nice at first but when you come to think of it, dude it is kina awkward!
    Main point is, if a girl likes a man only few will propose but most of us men do the proposal (but don’t rush things) and when the feeling is mutual both of you will grab it but before making any move make yourselves really clear and think of what you really want.
    There is no right or wrong when it comes to love and I am not talking about deceit, don’t rush things just to give an answer to a question listen to what you really want, do whatever makes you happy if you want to marry her and it makes you happy to be with her then go! Listen to your heart and make a move.

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  • Katywompus

    Abso-frikkin-tootaly-doodaly. Why the flap not?!

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