Should the guy make the first move or should the girl do it?
I`m just curious. When you like someone who would usually be the first one to hold you hand or make the kiss?
| GUY | 68 | |
| GIRL | 25 | |
| Doesn`t matter | 70 | |
| I don`t have clue | 16 |
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disthing
In my opinion, girls shouldn't avoid making the first move just because it's traditional for the guy to do it. That's a lame excuse.
If we are to believe each other equal, then we should believe our hearts equal. It shouldn't make a difference who makes the first move.
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dom180
I think it would be cool if a girl made the first move on me. I'd probably be too nervous or awkward to try and take the lead.
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tommy81
I always liked it when the girl made the first move. It removes any doubt that she is attracted to you. Even if I sort of knew that a girl liked me, I would have doubts and think: What if I'm misreading her?
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Noonesperfect
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I prefer greatly when the guy makes the first move. I don't have a problem doing it, but I'm awfully agressive in general, I like to be let off the hook on being the agressor when it comes to sex. It's a COMPLETE turn-on for me for a guy to make moves. It can be a major turn-off if I feel like it's up to me too often.
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TyLee
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Hmmaybe
It doesn't matter. The tradition that the guy should make the first move has probably prevented many relationship that could have been brilliant. Plus if a guy has to make the first move then no lesbians would ever get together D:
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jac4224
Im the girl...and I told my byofriend I loved him first(felt pretty akward when he didnt feel the same way till a month later) but to be honest, it felt great being the one to step and up and say something. It really doesnt matter who makes the first move, or take it to the next level...when you feel it, you feel it
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tego
any one of u can make d move, i do un zip his trouser n remove his dick play n suck it. at times he finger n suck my breast first bf fucking me.
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dalmationUntoyourSoul
shy boys out there are waiting for you ladies to make the first move. but it's usually the crazies that are willing to...
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[Old Memory]
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41ph4m413
I like making the first move most of the time, but it'd be a nice surprise to have a girl do all the work for me.
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wickedwizardking
Guys are usually the ones expected to make the move, but it's so hot when a girl takes charge for once.
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[Old Memory]
One of the best relationships I ever had was with a Russian girl who DEMANDED my phone number.
But it also could have been because we saw the world similarly. Short answer: Either one can.
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Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
In my opinion it shouldn't be based on gender.
Attempts to designate 'responsibility' based on gender is rather sexist to me.
And if someone is trying to dump the responsibility on the opposite sex... that person may be too shy to make a move, and may not be mature enough to date. Or that person may have an entitlement complex, thus duping responsibility on others because it's "beneath them"... in which case the potential partner should run like hell, and find someone who's more giving and less stuck up.
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Orangepeelx
Id need to know a guys was into me before i made a move.... But i think at the end of the day no matter who makes the move if its ment to be its meant to be :) <3
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[Old Memory]
I would like to hit on a guy but because its so installed into my head that the traditional way is the guys do it first, I have no idea how I would approach him. It'd be awkward for me.
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Ah it's easy!
You just have to practice! You can practice on guys you have no serious interest in just to get the feel for it. I'm not saying to lead them on then crush them, not at all, I just mean getting used to approaching guys. Harmless chit-chat or minor flirting.
A lot of the time, people tend to focus all their thoughts on one person that they have a crush on....that's what kills ya. You are not seeing that person as just another person, and it makes you nervous and unsure. Get used to talking and flirting here and there with anyone and it'll become easier.
If you're in a bar or a store, make a comment or ask a question about his selection. Depending on your style, you might want to make a funny comment, a nice observation (he has good tastes, he must be able to cook, etc) or ask a serious question (how do you cook that?, have you ever tried Irish whiskey...no? well have a shot with me...whatever you do, don't cook that bacon naked). It's really not hard.
Last time I was in the liquor store, I flirted with the clerk...he was probably like 21 barely, I'm 30something...I said something goofy about needing the vodka to get through the long weekend with mother and the cats. Anyway we both laughed and talked for a sec, it was fun and harmless, neither one of us 'wanted' the other but the conversation played out just as if I was approaching a 'crush'.
Make a comment, observation or ask a question about his appearance or mood.
Basically, use whatever is comfortable with you as an 'in' to strike up a conversation, gather information from chatting, and feel out where to go.
If you flirt with a guy you're not actually interested in and he asks for you # or something, just say 'I'm sorry, I'm engaged" or "my dad would kill me" or something....(I don't know how old you are...) sometimes I say, "no offense, but the last guy I gave my number to (choose one:) stalked me, got me pregnant, tried to sell me insurance...etc.
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