Should i verbally comply with cps when im not legally bound to?

A month or so ago I got a charge which triggered a CPS referral into my life. This charge has since then been dropped. Dismissed, nonexistant. I am not legally under a court case with CPS. However, my "Case worker" insists I verbally comply with everything she says or she will open a courtcase. This includes letting my daughter stay with someone else. It has been over a month and they still want my daughter there under something called a "Safety Plan" away from home because of the nonexistant charge and until my completion of a checklist of things they wanted for me to do. This included getting all of my gov. assistance and to attend a particular therapy due to my nonexistant charge. I had just moved to this state and was already in the long unfortunatley for me drawn out process of getting assistance due to Ohios system anyway so ok I can do that I thought. Keep in mind, eventhough there is no longer a charge, Im having to wait until my assistance is fully active to even have my baby home. Now that I have gotten it taken care of, have assistance, medicaid, am working, in college full time online, my solo rented 1 bed apt fully equipped for my daughter,(she has her own room) and I am attending therapy my CPS worker decided to randomly drug test me, but I am dirty for marijuana. It will detect the past 30 days yes im guilty. However, I hardly smoke. I was honest and told her I want to wait until the marijuana is out of my system. She said if I dont take it she will open a court case. Now I have a dirty urine test showing results pending in a week so they are going to open a court case. Also, they are going to want me to verbally agree not to have my daughter over for Christmas until then. No unsupervised visits with a dirty test. I got one for Thanksgiving, listened to everything they want, but now what. I feel like I already had a court case open anyway. I vow to quit smoking. I will be clean from now on. But I just feel attacked, and I miss my baby girl. Shes taking it hard. Which is killing me. Legally I could go get her now. But once again, Court Case!! Wouldnt be any new charges ,just a court case, which is whats happening anyway!! Thoughts???