Should i try to wait for him?

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Ok, so I've been with this guy for 2 1/2 years. When we first got together we were both alcoholic as hell, then I went to rehab, I came home and fell into the "old drinking routine" until he went to jail last july. I love him to death but he is an alcoholic and he is a violent. I love him with all of my heart....i know that he is the one. i just know that i have to live my life now and i told him that i will see him again and that hopefully we will TRULY know one another. I love him, but I feel hes always gonnna be abusive, I dont know. I just know that I have so much fun since hes been gone, but I always think of him someone tell me if im a bitch or doin right??? is it normal to feel this way?

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  • itssofluffy12
    13 years ago

    Neither of you sound like classy people

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  • soulljos
    13 years ago

    Don't wait around for him. He'll always be abusive and clearly won't change. And his new prison record won't help either of you in the future.

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  • HerzvonSilber
    11 years ago

    Your feelings are perfectly normal, but it is no good for yo to wait for him. You need to dump him and move on. At first it will suck, but in the long run, you will be much happier. My mom was in an abusive relationship, and her, me, and my sisters are all much happier now that we're out of the abuse.

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  • IrishPotato
    11 years ago

    Oh and OP.
    You should definately move on, atleast that's what I should do.
    You don't want to be waiting the rest of your life for nothing, but if you're not ready emotionally for a new relationship or really want to wait, then do it. Go for it.
    Being abusive is never a good thing though, maybe you should try helping him with that. I'm sure he loves you too, being abusive has nothing to do with that, even though I don't support it.

    Butyeah, do what feels right.

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  • littlelulu1999
    12 years ago

    No do not wait for this man. Move forward with your life. Its okay to remember him...but you do recognize that your life is better without him in it...so keep it that way....NO CONTACT!

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  • mittens4444
    12 years ago

    He is abusive, and most-likely always will be. You even said yourself that you have had so much fun since he's been gone. It's natural to always think of somebody if you love them. Sometimes, even if you think someone is "the one," you have to let go in order to save yourself.

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  • DefinitelyNotNormal89
    13 years ago

    It might feel like love now but love shouldn't hurt that much, GET RID! Move on girlfrieeeeeeeend! Might be crap at first but trust me in the long run you will not regret it

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  • charity
    13 years ago

    Its not love .... You deserve better... Go out and find it!

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  • tawnabawna
    13 years ago

    It's not love

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  • Faceless
    13 years ago

    Kill him with love!

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  • Layla32
    13 years ago

    He is abusive.That's not Love.Leave him don't wait.You deserve better.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    seems like you can't get over him. I suggest that you get over him.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Im sick of these people who make questions that arent really for the "Is it normal" answer but just for advice this isnt an advice website and adding "IIN to feel this way" to a story that isnt made to ask that question doesnt make it an IIN question.

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    • IrishPotato
      11 years ago

      Oh shush. It's an advicewebsite.

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