Should i tell them i am a virgin?

Why would you put the run over by a truck option? :/

If you're comfortable, why keep it a secret?

To be honest, I would feel more comfortable with a virgin compared to a guy who had sex. A guy who had sex often in his life is a major turn off for me. All I could think about is sexually transmitted diseases, and the fact that he couldn't keep it in his pants. That shows apart of their personality (for me anyways). Same goes for girls. I wouldn't date a girl who couldn't keep it in her pants.

I love innocent guys, so this would be a plus for me.

I wish you get run over a huge truck and die!?!! WTF?

In addition... please ignore those comments asking you to lie to women. I hate being lied to, and I am sure many other women do too. It's a saddening fact that many men still lie to women and think they won't find out!

I don't know why, but I am hoping you are not just finding someone to lose your virginity. I hate guys like that... I just hope more men would respect women as an individual, not something for them to use...

A decent and open minded person won't care and will be understanding. They'll like you for you. And maybe one day love you for you, if it goes well and gets serious.

I went through the exact same thing at 26, so my experience might be useful.

I believe in the vast majority of cases like yours it's not actually a matter of choice, you'll have to tell them because they'll figure it out anyway and you'll only make it worse by not having told them in advance (women are very often lied to, and therefor take honesty so seriously to a degree you couldn't possibly overestimate). It's very likely that your sexual performance at first will differ an awful lot from that of someone who's been having sex all these years. Or maybe not, but still. You may practice at home how to open those evil condom wrappers, how to put them on properly, how to unhook a bra, and everything you want, but trust me, you can't cover all your bases and you shouldn't even expect to. Something will inevitably come up that will expose the fact that you are doing this for the first time. Even if the very first time you are so lucky that it doesn't, then it will the second, or the third, but trust me, eventually it will. And even if you want to believe it won't, trust me on this, keeping that concern out of your mind and not letting it affect your performance is much harder than you think. You may say from the distance "oh, whatever, I have nothing to lose, I'll just let myself go and see what happens". We all say that, but then when the moment comes it's a whole different story, do believe my words.

What I believe is best (which is what I did) is to tell her the truth but embellishing it a little. Tell her "I'm sorry, I feel a little bit nervous. It's not like I've never done this before, but the times I did do it were so few and so long ago, you might as well not count them" (in my case, the plural was the only thing that could be considered a lie, but still I think this is the best approach even if you haven't done anything ever). And then you can explain to her what's been going on in your life that's kept you from having sex this long (again, it's not wise to make stuff up out of nowhere, but feel free to embellish your story as much as you feel necessary). If you do this right, and you've been playing your cards right until this point, this will, if anything, make her feel even more attracted to you (you have to be really open from the beginning, and she will most likely appreciate more your being able to be honest about something like this, than she would anything else). And once it's been said, you're on the clear. She won't expect anything but your affection.

It always depends on the girl, of course. I don't think I have to tell you that if you want someone that won't judge you, you are looking for a specific kind of woman and a specific kind of relationship with her. And that you should be paying attention to how things evolve in order to have an idea of what reaction to expect and not crash against a brick wall. You could always be fooled, but that's inevitable when it comes to relationships.

I'd not care. Honestly, if i knew that a guy were a virgin i'd be more willing to cút him some slack and not rage if he came within one minute.

I think it's sweet but each girl is different and could react in a different way. I would tell if i was you.

I find it awesome that a GUY can stay a virgin for that long.
You should be proud

Hi there, I am a 23 year old girl... my opinion is that you don't need to tell a girl you're a virgin on purpose. Especially if the stage of the relationship is not ready for sex yet, it'd just be awkward for you to talk about it. The girl would surely know you want to have sex with her. She might not want it yet... How do you know?

When it has come to that stage, if the girl asks you, then you can be honest. As a girl I would value a guy who doesn't sleep with women casually. Being a virgin is not a turn off to a girl who truly loves you.

Good Luck! :)

In my opinion, it is something you need to customize to each woman.
Trying to act like something you are not (an experienced stud) will only end up in failure, but then again being too open and honest can scare off women too.
So relate to each woman as you see fit and don't develop a game plan that's one size fits all.

Don't make up anything. Just be honest instead of pretending to be honest.

Oh, please tell her! She'll want to be the one to pop your cherry, I'm sure. That's assuming you've found a special girl - I wouldn't recommend advertising the fact to just anyone you meet.

Maybe wait until the time is right - just before you do the deed. Or just after, especially if it all goes wrong. But DO tell her!

I would say nothing about this unless she specifically asks you. And in the event that she specifically asks you, just lie and say that you messed around with a few people a while ago (years ago), but haven't been in a serious relationship before. Outside of the really important stuff (like if you have a disease), sexual history is petty and meaningless though many people put more weight into the issue than they should.

Also don't listen to Barugel_Azulay, that's a load of crap.

A lot of people are really bad at sex, virgin or not. There's really not much you can do to "expose" yourself as the virgin. This is all just in your head. There's really no need to worry about this, and the more you do actually worry, the more problems it's going to cause you anyway.

The person I lost my virginity too didn't know I was a virgin. I never told her, and it made no difference at all. Awkward things did happen the first time, but I just brushed it off and she didn't seem to care. You just have to realize that she's not there to point out your mistakes and make fun of you, she just wants to have a good time just like you do.