Should i tell my wife i like more than plain sex?

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Ive been married for about 6 years to a great woman and mom. She is very conservative. Prior to her, i was married for about 3 years. Thst relationship had mind blowing sex, but we could not be with each other. My sex life now is plain and boring. I love being the recipient of golden showers, but she is a huge germaphobe, and cannot imagine her liking that. My ex used to peg me all the time, and i love that as well. My wife knows i was a little wild, but none of this stuff. I miss it dearly but am afraid that telling her will put her off and i dont want to make it wierd between us. Anyone else experience this?

Jump off a cliff you freak bastard.	4
Find some kinky strange on the side.	1
Yes, tell her.	13
STFU, you got it good.	2

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Biman458

5 years ago

I told my wife when I met her that I was bisexual, you should have told her before the marriage

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  But im not bisexual, so...
  
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CozmoWank

5 years ago

Tell her you're making her an astronaut and send her off to probe Uranus.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  Old joke, but i appreciate the humour. Thanks!
  
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leggs91200

5 years ago

All you can do is ask. Also, maybe try to think of compromises. LornaMae had probably the best idea.

Whenever i hear the words "plain sex", it makes me think of these conservative religious people having sex through a hole in the bed sheet.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  Not that bad. Lol. But thanks for the support. Much better thsn i should have told her before marriage, cause i can really go back and fix all that shit now.
  
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SwickDinging

5 years ago

You should be able to tell your wife these things.

From what you've said it sounds like you have a really great relationship, so I bet telling her would be no big deal. You've just built it up in your head to being a big deal.

If you still can't say it to her face then try this website together - http://mojoupgrade.com

Can't remember who recommended this but it was a user on here a few months ago.

It will show what you like and if it's a match without having to tell her anything.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  Thank you. I will check out the website. Perhaps you are correct, maybe I am making more of it than what it is. I appreciate your reply.
  
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  - SwickDinging
    
    5 years ago
    
    For the record, I'm really uptight about cleaning and I can be quite cold and clinical, but if my husband told me that letting him pee on me would make him happy I wouldn't be freaked out at all and I'd let him do it. (As long as it happened in the shower so there was no mess lol)
    
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nikkiclaire

5 years ago

This is why people divorce, because they hide stuff before marriage. You should have been upfront with each other before you committed for life!!

I wonder what secrets she is keeping from you?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  Ok, this is jumping a little far i think. Its not like i was some serial rapist, ax murderer. I liked pee play and some other stuff. Perhaps i need to tell her about the bag of jelly beans i swiped from the market when i was 10. What are you Catholic? Confession good for the soul?
  
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  - LornaMae
    
    5 years ago
    
    You know she has a good point, right? It does seem like you married despite the boring sex and figured you could live without it. The jelly beans don't affect your current life together so it's irrelevant, but your sexual desires aren't...
    
    Maybe you could try like one of my exes did. At the time I had absolutely no idea pee was even a thing and we were in the shower when he asked for it... I was kind of confused by it, to be honest, but things were hot in there and I didn't even think about germs because of the running water... worth a try. Hehe.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      5 years ago
      
      To a degree. My question was, has anyone else experienced this. Her response was not particularly helpful, more attacking.
      
      You on the other hand gave me a decent in to try this, we shower together a lot. THIS was the type of respose i was looking for. Thank you for providing help as opposed to critizism.
      
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      - nikkiclaire
        
        5 years ago
        
        I'm not criticizing you or your sexual desires. I think they are normal. I'm pointing out that withholding such an important thing as your sexual desires from your wife, is a reason people get divorced.
        
        If you ask her and she refuses, then what? Will you resent her for being the same person you willingly married? Will you go elsewhere to fulfill the desire. What if she finds you disgusting and refuses sex altogether?
        
        Marriage is one of the biggest decisions people ever make, and I am sorry, but it amazes that people withhold information that's so important to long term happiness, in lifelong descisions.
        
        It's not fair on her and it's not fair on you either.
        
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      - LornaMae
        
        5 years ago
        
        You're welcome. I'd be glad to try and help further but my knowledge on the topic is limited to that one experience. It's a good start that you already shower together. Is there usually sex in there or just general washing? Haha!
        
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[Old Memory]

5 years ago

Hook up with your ex
For the mind blowing sex

Poetic!

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  She is 2 time zones away. Besides, im not really looking to cheat on my wife. If i was going to cheat, i would probably just leave, its easier.
  
  But the thought has definitely crossed my mind.
  
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Anonymous Post Author

5 years ago

Agreed. But i thought i was done with that. I was wrong.

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- Lestat565
  
  5 years ago
  
  We grow into our sexuality and kinks we don’t grow out of it. So you will never be done with it. I’d say your only real option is tell your wife.
  
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  - leggs91200
    
    5 years ago
    
    If that is the case about "don't grow out of it" then the OP will be in hog heaven at a nursing home someday. All those incontinent old ladies...
    
    Well nevermind. I would bet money that his wife is probably prettier than some granny rotting away in a retirement home.
    
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  - Anonymous Post Author
    
    5 years ago
    
    I think i will get there, eventually. Although the how, when, and to whst extent, are the real questions. Much appreciated.
    
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Cuntsiclestick

5 years ago

You should've told her your kinks before you got married. Nothing wrong with your kinks, BTW.

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