Should i tell my therapist i'm in love with her?

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I know she likes me back, I just can feel it, but I also know she doesn't want to lose her job. If she wasn't my therapist she'd be in my bed already. Last week I told her I want to end the therapy tomorrow, she asked me why, I was like " ok... I... listen I'm in a hurry, we'll talk about it next time "
I was about to tell her.

I like her and I think I need to stop seeing her.

What should I do? Should I make an excuse, tell her the truth, or tell her that I want to keep it to myself?

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    Lots of people develope feelings for a therapist, because of the intimate and deep nature of the work on the client's personal issues. She probably doesn't have any feelings for you, if she did she would be morally obligated to refer you to someone else, because any attraction to you would be a conflict of interest, and it would be unethical for her to continue counseling you if she were actually attracted to you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Almost all women like me in a sexual way. No fake modesty.
      Also, when I told her I want to stop the therapy she seemed baffled and desperate to keep me. Isn't there a chance she has developed feelings and wants to keep on seeing me? Think about it. Why stop seeing me when she can just avoid the problem by not acting on her feelings. Plus she gets paid lol. She would never do that.

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      • RoseIsabella
        6 years ago

        If she is actually attracted to you she would have an ethical responsibility to refer you to someone else.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          True that, but again as long as she doesn't say something along the lines of " I want to fuck you " or " I like you " she's fine. It's not like anyone can read her mind and prove she's into me.

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          • McBean
            6 years ago

            Your story is very believable. Of course she would look forward to pleasant clients. Some how you have to turn the tables so that you are giving her therapy over a beer at the local tavern. Because of ethical standards, she may have to declare you are cured and wait a bit of time, before you employ your sexual knowledge to calm her desires.

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          • RoseIsabella
            6 years ago

            True.

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      • Tealights
        6 years ago

        Instead of assuming, why not just tell her? This way, she can clarify and refer you to a male therapist.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          " she can refer to you to a male therapist "
          Still fucked, I'm bi.

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  • Ellenna
    6 years ago

    It's called "transference" and is normal and common.

    If your feelings for her are getting in the way of therapy you need to find another therapist. If you tell her how you feel about her and she reciprocates and acts on it, she's totally unprofessional and unethical.

    In therapy it's essential to be able to focus totally on therapy, which is why good therapist don't even socialise with their clients and certainly don't get into relationships with them.

    One course of action would be to tell her how you feel and that you need to find another therapist and check out her response: if she does reciprocate your feelings you can pursue a friendship and maybe relationship, but you would need to leave a couple of months before doing that to ensure therapy doesn't continue into the friendship/relationship.

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  • Justmehere
    6 years ago

    This is just a version of "Dude, that stripper really liked me. We had a connection", and "That hot bartender is so into me"... No, man..All of the above spend their time with you in exchange for money. Doesn't matter if they're wearing a thong onstage and running their long nails down your arm as you feed cash into their strings, being served drinks as they half-ass listen to your problems, or trained to listen to your problems..They're present to make money from you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      I'm not a girl but if I imagine that if I was a stripper I could happen to like a client. Profession figures are people too. If she would have fallen for me at the grocery store I do not see how it is any different at work, the only difference is that she can't act on it at work. That said, the focus of the problem is not how she feels about me, I was asking whether I should have told her or not.

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  • Boojum
    6 years ago

    It's pretty common, and you should be honest with her about your feelings - that's what therapy is about, right?

    Consider the possibility that she's skilled enough at reading people to have a good idea of what's going on (she'd be a pretty crap therapist if she didn't see it), and she knows this could help you get to the root of your problems. Maybe she doesn't want to stop the sessions because she thinks you're close to a break-through.

    Read this: https://psychcentral.com/lib/in-love-with-your-therapist-heres-what-to-do/

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  • NashamaTheWeird
    6 years ago

    No, and find a new therapist.

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  • DxTer
    6 years ago

    I don't think you are really in love with her but you might think it because she seems to care about you more than everybody else

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      No. I just like her, otherwise I wouldn't even care whether she cares or not as long as she does her job... it's not that complicated. I would have liked her if she was my neighbour or a stranger at the grocery shop.

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  • Nickvey
    6 years ago

    Taylor Swift write all those love songs to me. We have never met but i can tell because when no one is looking she smiles at me. ba ha ha ha

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      You alright there?

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  • Pink-pumpkin
    6 years ago

    Why not, if you like each other ? Who cares about the status?

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  • robloxer69
    6 years ago

    just so her ur dick and fuck her

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  • Dustyair
    6 years ago

    You're phucked now, therapy with her's a waste.

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  • paramore93
    6 years ago

    You tell therapists all sorts of private stuff so there must be a lot of trust between you, she listens to you and gives you her full attention ..
    But that's her job. I'm not saying she doesn't like you back, but you're only seeing her professional persona.
    She could be a complete psycho when she's not at work xD
    Either way, it's not a good idea to keep her as your therapist.

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  • xfg67
    6 years ago

    Unfortunately, many therapists change the passcode on their door locks after a session in which they feel threatened. Do what you need to but be prepared to go to prison or at the very least be locked out of the building permanently.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Waddaphuck.

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