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Should i tell my new boyfriend i have 2 "fuck buddies"?

I am a 23-year old woman and have had 2 "fuck buddies" for the past year or so. I have sex with both of them almost every day.

About a month ago, I started seeing this other guy and now he wants to be my "boyfriend". I haven't told him about my 2 fuck buddies that I am still having sex with.

I had my fuck buddies long before this new guy, and I like that arrangement, but not sure this new guy will understand that I am still having sex with 2 other guys besides him.

Do I tell my new "boyfriend" about my fuck buddies?

No, not until he marries you	8
No, not until he proposes to you	3
No, why ruin a good thing	14
No, not until it's a serious relationship	22
No, dump the BF and stick with the Fuck Buddies	20
Yes, But just make him your 3rd Fuck Buddy	31
Yes, He'll undestand if he is worth keeping	45

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anti-hero

8 years ago | pl

You're not ready for a relationship.

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- [Old Memory]
  
  8 years ago
  
  Can we take a momment to notice how many thumbs up has taken place in this post? I haven't seen this amount in years. 0_0
  
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    8 years ago
    
    I didn't notice. Sometimes the simplest things resonate.
    
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    - Cheet0
      
      7 years ago
      
      Count another..
      
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poorbaby

8 years ago | pl

Where is the "yes and he will dump you" option?

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- anti-hero
  
  8 years ago
  
  Your other accounts follow people around and say the same thing over and over again.
  
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[Old Memory]

8 years ago | pl

Don't you mean, "Should I tell my boyfriend I'm cheating on him?"

In which the answer is yes, creep.

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- RoseIsabella
  
  8 years ago
  
  Hurray!
  
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thegypsysailor

8 years ago

Why bother? He'll figure it out when he gets an STD or two from you.

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- BlackyHancock
  
  8 years ago
  
  that or will see another 2 men's sperm dribbling out of her vagina just as hes about to go down on her
  
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handsignals

8 years ago

I think I saw this in a movie once... 'tripple penatration'

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BackWithMemoryLoss

8 years ago

I think if you really just want multiple fuck buddies, you should break up with your boyfriend. It's never okay to cheat. You would be doing the right thing. He deserves better.

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joedoe

8 years ago

Next time try being honest upfront. There are plenty of guys that would be okay with this situation. Tell him you are interested in an (safe) open relationship. If he's not down, say goodbye.

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Legless

8 years ago

The title is misleading, you say he's your "new boyfriend" yet he "wants to be," so he's not.. Obvious of course, but it made out you was cheating on him, when you guys are nothing *yet*.

I would tell him, as soon as either of you decide to become something. Seeing someone doesn't mean you're in a relationship, you just date him and see where things go afterwards.

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donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

8 years ago

diagnosis:

hosebag

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- Cheet0
  
  7 years ago
  
  Minus the "S?"
  
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reginaFalangi

8 years ago

I think it's ok for you to have as many partners as you wish. But honesty should come first, honesty is an important part of respect.
If you are unsure about this guy, at least be honest.
Because if you later decide you do want him (i predict you won't, but say it happens), you'd be starting a realationship over a lie, and that's not healthy.

Also, this advice is always good:
Stop and think: how would you feel if this was the other way round?
Would you like to be dating a guy for some time without even imagining he is seeing two other people?

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mystery7

8 years ago

Why don't you just tell him the situation? It's way better for everyone. If not just call him FB 3 not BF + 2FBs

I've been in that situation myself and I am glad I wasn't lied to about it. I knew all along she was fucking other guys too.

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Short4Words

8 years ago

Are you guys fucking?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  Yes, just casually dating, but we have had sex. I'm not quite sure I want him as my "boyfriend" just yet, but not sure if or when to tell him about my fuck buddies...
  
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  - Short4Words
    
    8 years ago
    
    If you're fucking him you should tell him. That's just a matter of respect.
    
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  - iEatZombies_
    
    8 years ago
    
    You shouldn't have started fucking him without telling him about them in the first place. When someone starts to date you, they assume you're only dating other people, not sleeping with them.
    If you have any kind of character, you'll tell him and then leave him alone. The next time this happens, you'll stop fucking your fuck buddies before you start dating someone.
    
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  - Docholiday
    
    8 years ago
    
    I'm shocked
    
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    - RoyRogers
      
      8 years ago
      
      That the OP is a bitchy, cheating, immoral, whore who does not know how to close her legs? Is it really that shocking, I mean look at the poll options.
      
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      - Docholiday
        
        8 years ago
        
        I was being sarcastic. Someone asked if she was sleeping with the new guy after she was sleeping with the other two. Her answer was yes . My reply was a fucking joke Roy fucking details
        
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dick555

8 years ago

If your new bf wants to know about your past, he will ask you. Then you can tell him as much as you want or as much as he wants to know. Some guys don't want to know and other get turned on by it.

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[Old Memory]

8 years ago

Okay OP... I'd tell you to dump the fuck buddies and not tell your boyfriend..

but like, how good are these fuck buddies compared to your boyfriend that you're actually contemplating on not being in a relationship over these two other guys?

I mean, a relationship is more stable than a fuck buddy arrangement etc.

HOWEVER, if this is something that you feel like you can't be without (2 fuck buddies + a boyfriend) then let me introduce you to more options..

Have you ever at some point in your life think that you may be poly-amorous and into non-monogamy?

I mean hey, these things do exist and there are people living HAPPY lives with more than just one person.

Something to think about. I mean, it's an idea. Because if you are into polyamory/non-monogamy/etc., you can have so much more and won't have to deal with these moral 'monogamy' moral dilemmas.

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Semen

8 years ago

Tell him asap .

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itnogtm

8 years ago

he will know that way or the other

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RoseIsabella

8 years ago

Fleas and disease!

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