Should i tell my girlfriend why i go to therapy

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I have some real psychological problems involving abduction, isolation, and abandonment. I have a massive fear of being abandoned and get really intense and spooky if I ever feel like someone is going to leave me.

I absolutely hate that my girlfriend has friends, I hate that she talks to other people, and I hate that she has the ability to be self sufficient. I want so badly to lock her in a room for only myself and force her to rely on me for food and water and care.

Obviously I know how bad this is, so I go to therapy three times a week. And take medicine for paranoid schizophrenia. Claiming I'm at the gym, and hiding my meds. I've gotten "better" I'm atleast more tolerable of her talking to other people. I, hypocritically, have plenty of friends myself, and I've gotten more laid back with them not talking to me for short periods of time.

I've never been physically abusive, but I have strong armed a lot of situations to go my way. I've run off her friends, lied for months, purposefully made her ill, moved her away from family, made sure she couldn't hold a job or receive steady income, and put her through a lot of expensive things so she has to come back to my money.

Maybe I'm not mentally stable enough to date. But I love her. And I need her to stay.

Yes tell her 28
No don't tell her 1
You shouldn't be dating anyone 15
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  • Knightmare
    6 years ago

    She needs to know what's going on. When your meds are at full effect, be prepared for any reaction short of calling police or violence.

    I'd be worried, but its something anyone you want to be close with needs to know. And ask the therapist about this, not only so he knows how to help you better but also so you have a goal. Don't worry. He might say to wait but he most certainly won't say no.

    You will be able to experience love to its fullest, but you need a little help to get there. Glad you're already working on it.

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    • JonathanOo
      6 years ago

      I agree. I've been through this. Just tell her about it all and let her know how you feel. If she is mature enough she'll respect you and give you the help you need. If You go psycho on her without her fully understanding you she'll just hate you and you'll never have a chance with her. Don't screw it up if you really love her. It'll be the worst thing In the world

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      • Knightmare
        6 years ago

        Would it bother you if I asked what your story was?

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  • Angelandme
    7 years ago

    Woah serious stuff on INN.
    I feel bad for OP'S gf.
    OP hopefully you're not doing illegal things to make her ill...
    God I'm a selfish person but can't help feeling less selfish, at least I don't fuck with my gfs life so horribly. I hope you and your gf end up ok though.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      She's since passed away, I'm in a new relationship now with someone much less socially ambitious. Works out in my favor at least.

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  • JakePlaid
    6 years ago

    I love how all these people hate you for something that isn't your fault. Typical autistic libtards.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      I'd hate me too if all I knew about me was what was written here. I'm trying to better myself, I really am.

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  • McBean
    6 years ago

    You're a sick fuck. Masturbate to porn and stay away from all women.

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  • UnabashedUser
    6 years ago

    You need a rubber room, a jacket with long long sleeves, 10,000 units of Thorazine and indeterminant confinement where society will be safe from your criminal and insane predilections. DAMN this forums gotten scary since they put computers in Day Rooms of mental institutions.

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  • ojimpu
    6 years ago

    She must really love you if she's willing to put up with your cynical bullshit.

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  • jenyouflex
    6 years ago

    You're being responsible by attending therapy, and it's a good idea to tell your girlfriend so she is in the know and doesn't think you're sneaking around. If she doesn't stick around, don't think you could have kept her by keeping the secret.

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  • maryjane123
    6 years ago

    Yes tell her!!!! If she has an issue with it then you weren't meant to be! But this was she can help to keep things in check with you and she also deserves to know for her sake too!!

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  • Faceless
    6 years ago

    youre a pussy

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  • olbluballs
    7 years ago

    cathy bate's let her go

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  • [Old Memory]
    7 years ago

    Dude, you shouldn't do that to her. If you don't like her, just let her go. Undergo some treatment and try again with another one that's closer to you, maybe an introvert or someone alone, not a social person. And this time, do it right, don't mess things again, ok?

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