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I have abandonment issues which is pretty lame lol but it really sucks so I go to therapy to try to fix myself. My girlfriend is sort of a bitch and she always makes fun of the weird kids or whatever so I'm afraid to tell her that I've got issues. The only person who knows is my best friend Mitch and he promised not to tell her. I don't wanna seem weak to her. Should I tell her?
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| Yes | 25 |
If you are scared to tell her about your problems, she probably isn't right for you
I only vote yes because you shouldn't have to worry about it, if you feel your gf would make fun of you or leave, perhaps it is best so you can find a gf who wouldn't be like that. But you have to be ready to give her that test. Because if she does make fun or leave, it will be her loss, not yours. There is nothing to lose if a person is going to make you feel like that. Regardless of being ready or not, it will still hurt if she acts the way you fear she could. Just look at is as more as gaining something, a chance to find a gf who does give a damn and doesn't tease people who have problems. Honestly people have problems, so does she.
All I can say is...people with abandonment issues can get waaay fucking creepy and it ain't cool. Good on you for seeking help. That is all.
Yeah, trying to catch it before I get spooky. Thanks though, it's sorta embarrassing, but it's better than going off the deep end
Just don't call a girl late at night in a drunken rage screaming into the voicemail because she didnt answer your call about some bullshit when all she said prior was that she was sick and going to bed early...
I'm about past that stage now, less about micromanaging and cellphone stalking and more physically showing up. You sound like you speak from experience?
I do sqwauk from experience...malarkey I say!!
Even your situation is starting to get pretty weird...just live your own life, mmkay? If some person cant be arsed to reply or to see you or whatever, just let it be, as hard as it is. There is likely a good reason. It could be he/she is simply too preoccupied, or whatever. Just let it beeeeee. If it's really worth something, the other person will respond. If not, move on, NO MATTER WHAT.
You have one life. Live it, with, or without that one person who was a freakin weirdo, or whathaveyou.
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If this girlfriend of yours is a bitch then leave her, and find someone you feel safer with. Why are with her in first place, dear heart?
If you're with her because you're desperate, and afraid you won't find anyone else please know that's not the right reason to be with her.
Most of the time people who rank on others are the ones with the most issues. The fact that you're acknowledging yours only shows how much more mature you are than her. If she's your girlfriend she should be supportive and not talk shit about it
"My girlfriend is sort of a bitch"
Why would you say something like that? If you really think she is a bitch, why are you with her?
Either tell her that you go to therapy, or leave her. That's my advice for you.
I wish certain people would abandon ME! Does not hat mean that I have an abandonment issue?
Dude, if you can't tell her things like that, then she's not a keeper. I would say you should not tell her and look for someone else.
Dad says you should probably leave her exactly where you found her, or possibly drop her in the recycling bin.
He also said something about "one mans trash or treasure" or something. I'm not sure, I wasn't really listening at the end there.
Don't do it unless you want her to leave you. Women, programmed and predictable, have an algorithm regarding mate selection.
Yes, you should absolutely tell her. If you guys really have a healthy relationship you guys should be able to trust each other, and no matter what still love each other. If that Is not the case, I think you should break up. And unhealthy relationship is a stressful one.
The only way to find out is to tell her the truth. If she cant handle it, find someone who will appreciate you for who you are.
If they cant handle you at your worst, they don't deserve you at your best.
Dude, if she can't handle one small problem that barley even effects her, then she isn't worth your time. If she's ready to leave just like that, then she isn't ready to commit to your relationship.
Tell her if she doesn't like it or laughs at you then leave. You deserve someone better than that.
Tbh, there's nothing wrong with therapy. Loads of my family members are therapists and psychologist, I've been too, I know heaps of people who have been...
I clicked "No" when I meant "Yes" be proud, show her how normal you are. Its rude that she makes fun of people dealing with life. Besides if u want a relationship with this person you should be honest. This may make you closer.
I agree, it sucks. Luckily my gf has never begged me to open up to her, we've been together a year and she's never asked about my parents once. Kinda nice actually. She tells me she can't be distracted from her classes with trying to deal with my issues
She sounds like a selfish woman/girl to me. What does your therapist say about telling her? You might get better advice from them than on here.
Yeah. I tell women that I have a irreverent sense of humor. That usually distracts them from my creepiness.