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My oldest daughters father was a pedophile. He was 29 and i was molested by him at 13, i never told my daughter that she was comceived in this way. Should i tell her, or let it go? Im afraid that she may meet him one day and not know to guard herself or her children. Should i let her know about this?
You Really have to think about the welfare of your daughter and yourself, In my opinion he is a piece of Garbage and should be in Prison,He will never change his behavior and thoughts about his behavior.I was in Prison for a few DWI,S and had to spend time with those kind of people, Not once did I hear one of them say that they were sorry about what they did, They tried to make it seem like the girl wanted it. I'm Very Sorry you had to experience that BS.
If she is planning on meeting him then I would tell her, especially if her children might be put at risk.
What im worried about is; my daughter has never shown interest in meeting her father, so i have never worried much about it. Shes in her late 20's so i dont think he would have interest. But now she has 2 girls and im worried thay if she develops interest in meeting him, it of course may not turn out well. I have never brought up the molestation thing because i dont wamt her to have feelings of anger or such as she is a very happy and bubbly person as she is. In other words, i don't want to disallusion her. Obviouslyly, though, i dont want to jeopardize her childrens safety or hers.
If she has no plans to meet him, I see no reason to tell her, although if you ever have any reason to suspect she does then I would. That said, if he was 29 and got you pregnant when you were 13 I'm sure that your daughter can do the math, and has already done it.
you were 13 and got spermed by a 29 year old man playing stink finger with a child. the Dad knows who you are and probably knows he has a child with you. but you wont tell the child who exactly are you protecting , your reputation? His reputation? is this incest by chance. some DNA could send him to prison and he knows it , will he be murdering you guys soon? If i were you id get the first shot.
I dont think he's planning on murdering anyone. I just worry that by not telling her, im putting her and her daughters at risk, though , as i said above, i dont want to dissalusion her or bring her down if theres no reason to. I just dont know.
there's absolutely no reason to tell her anything. everyone makes mistakes, maybe after all these years he changed and feels sorry for what he did. if your daughter meets her father and finds out he's now a good man then she will never forgive you for trying to manipulate her emotions. think about how she would feel. I understand it hurts but for your daughter's sake this is not something that she needs to know.