Should i tell her how i feel and is it too late?

I met this girl that i really love and she feels the same way and things had been great. She broke up with her ex because he's immature and he keeps showing up after the break up, I told her to fight him off but she doesn't have the strength to do that. So we text and Skype most of the time. Recently she went to a basketball play and i decided to meet her there, the problem was that i didn't know her ex would be there. He saw me and he had an argument with her, i was standing in a corner and i wanted to defend her but it wasn't my fight and i thought at the time that if she needed to break free from him she needs to face him alone. I tried to comfort her later but i somehow became the bad guy. Now she is ignoring me and doesn't return my calls and if this keeps up i am planning to wait a few days to give her space and later fight for her. My question is am i too late or is there still hope because i love her so much i'd move mountains to be with her.

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  • AbnormallyAwesome

    You did nothing wrong, man. Had she been attacked physically of course you should have intervened, but otherwise this was between them. Honestly, if she made you the bad guy for not fighting her ex, I'd say that's a red flag.
    But okay, you love her. Honesty is always best, you should tell her. Maybe she'll break your heart, but at least you'll know what's going on. And if she's still hung up on her ex you'll have dodged a bullet.

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  • Ellenna

    Her ex is a manipulative bully and they're hard to break away from. I don't think she's quite ready to do that, and you need to accept she may never be. I don't think he's her ex yet, by the way.

    She may well be too scared of him to respond to your texts: I suggest you keep messaging her low key loving messages even if she doesn't respond for a while.

    You have nothing to lose by telling her you love her and you never know, there's a possibility knowing you care about her may tip the scales in favour of her leaving him - definitely worth a try I reckon.

    What's all this "fighting off" and "fighting for" about? She's not a prize you can win in a fight with her ex! This is already a difficult situation, why make it worse by escalating into physical violence?

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  • derric0412

    Thank you guys for your response. I needed to hear that i'm on the right path. The ''fighting for'' part was a figure of speech but if he had hit her that night then yes it would've turned into violence. She knows that i love her and she feels the same way. Her parents have a cake shop and the ex is always there even though she said that she doesn't have feelings for him anymore. He's rich, spoiled and can't seem to let go. I did my best to talk to her and that's all i could do. Give her space and time.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Something seems off and fishy about her to me.

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