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So ive been with my girlfriend for 2 months now and things are going well i think , the problem is that we dont have much in commun , when we are together , we dont know what to talk about. I'm getting jelous when she is with an other guys and i think that means im in love , but i don't see myself in the futur with her. Not too long ago i was ready to break up because i was not happy but i didnt. I need some advice (i might forget some things)
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While having stuff in common with your SO is no doubt wonderful, a lack of common interests shouldn't necessarily be a deciding factor in bringing the relationship to an end. Sometimes, simply being in love with one another is enough to overpower any other difference.
Feeling jealousy and worry when your SO flirts with other guys is normal. It doesn't have to serve as an indication that you love her. For instance, you can like your SO and still get upset when she flirts with other guys.
Communication is key! If something is bothering you about the relationship, don't hesitate to tell her. Don't ignore your feeling of unhappiness, or any other form of feeling when in a relationship, be it romantic or not (This is very important!). You need to address what's causing this feeling.
If you do decide to break up with her, do so in person. Don't take the indirect way out unless she's bat crazy or something.
I hope you don't mind my asking, but how old are the two of you? No offense meant at all, but I'm getting an immature vibe from your post. That being said, I don't really think that you are ready to date.
Good Luck.
Surely a lack of anything in common and having nothing to talk about would be a big deciding factor in staying with or ending a relationship, otherwise it's just plain b o r i n g ....
Being "in love" usually means being in lust and if there's nothing else there except that it almost certainly won't last anyway
Jealousy has nothing to do with love. Nothing at all. Jealousy is all about selfishness and possession. As for the rest, if you have these doubts after a couple of months, things probably won't get any better, so release the girl and you can both find someone more suitable.
Back when I was 42 I had a relationship with a 19 year old. Talk about not having much in common. But that was awesome. I learned to like all sorts of new things. Believe it or not, she got me into the Goth lifestyle, Paganism, and alternative music. And since she was Bi-sexual, I actually learned to be comfortable going to gay clubs. And she got me into bondage and a few other fun things.
Talk to her, discuss how you feel, perhaps there are things she likes to do that you will learn to like. Give her a chance and then if you still feel like you do, find someone else.
bail....by your own admission you've previously considered it, and it sounds like your miserable. It is not mandatory to have several things in common with who you are with, so you can't really go that route. Two months isn't a huge investment.