Should i stay or should i leave or should i do something else?

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I love my boyfriend but in September he will be moving 3 hours away, I know 3 hours isn't a long time but we are both students and do not have a lot of money to be visiting back and forth a lot. I've tried being in a LDR before and it didn't work out but I didn't exactly love the guy. My boyfriend wants me to move with him and if not he wants to be in a LDR until we can live in the same area again. He has 4 years of school left and I have 3-4 myself. I don't really want to be in a LDR and I also don't really want to move but at the same time I don't want to lose this guy. This is really stressing me out because I know the longer I am with him the more attached I will get.

Stay until September then break up 4
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  • JMont
    11 years ago

    We can't really help. You have to decide whether the relationship is worth working towards. Relationships don't just work out. You both have to put an effort towards it. If you're unsure try the LDR thing and see how you feel after.

    I had to move away for school and I'm in an LDR right now. We both decided that it was worth working through. I think Skype has worked quite well. I think we're are actually closer now because of it. We both had to put an effort towards seeing each other and making the best of the time we had. So it kind of fortified our commitment towards each other.

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    • robbieforgotpw
      10 years ago

      OP

      Should I stay or should I go now
      If I stay there will be troubleeee...
      If I go there will be doubleeeeeee...

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  • q25t
    11 years ago

    How easy would it be for to move exactly? I'm not advocating it. I just feel like with school, I don't see it being an option.

    If you're going for the LDR, I'm in college now and have seen quite a few friends do the LDR quite successfully and some not so much. Skype really does seem to be the best thing for them, though from what I can tell.

    Good luck anyways.

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  • Sarah<3Yasar
    11 years ago

    i think that you should at least give the relationship a go, you have been together a long time, and this may take your relationship to the next level, you will have to have a lot of trust in each other.

    plus when you see each other you will find it much more affectionate than when you see them everyday.

    my friend has been in a relationship for 3 years and she has not moved to Romania with her boyfriend still living in the UK, they are still going strong and he is going there to spend christmas together, it can happen, you just have to want it.

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    11 years ago

    Man FUCK that shit!! A long distance relationship whilst you're young at college? You must be out of your frigging mind. I'm telling you man, you're only young once and you only go to college once. Don't waste your time being alone at night and not having fun, pining over a guy that's 3 hours away. For both your sakes. I'm telling you, be single at college, life is so much better. Been there done that, go the T-shirt - being single at college is the way to go. Go get em Tiger.

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