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My crazy evil mother in law is coming and staying at our house next week. I seriously hate the woman, shes evil and my husband just lets it go because its his mother. I'm thinking about saying something came up back home and I need to go see my family for the week. Or would that be awful to do? I still am traumatized from the last time I seen her a year ago.
if i wake up tomorrow will you still be there?
i don't knooooooooooooooow
Ugh in-laws are the worst. But from what you said in the comments, she's wayy worse than normal. You're totally within reason to avoid having her stay over. You probably don't want to start shit though. So at the very least, you're (again) totally within rights to go somewhere else for the weekend.
Does your husband get your point of view when you talk about it, just between the two of you? I hope he understands. People can be so oblivious to the bad behavior of their parents, especially sons/mothers.
Because seriously, you can't be dealing with that shit. You've got every right to put the foot down and say "not in my house".
But yep, at least go stay somewhere else. The only problem with that is trusting her when you're not around.
My husband gets it and at times has complained to me about her craziness, but it breaks his heart and he's really embarrassed about it.
When it comes to laying down the law he doesn't enforce it. He will tell her, but then the minute she pulling something, he lets it go. He's even said hes afraid he will never see her again if he enforces the rules.
It's tough because I don't want to hurt him, but it's like enough is enough already. That's why instead of her not coming I would rather go see my family.
If you can afford to do it put her up in a hotel. In-laws siblings etc. I don't let anyone that isn't a good friend stay with me. Tell them about all the amenities and how much more comfortable it will be for THEM ;)
Then you go out to eat with them once or twice, your husband can hang out with her on his own time.
Mother in law to daughter in law relationships can be a pain in the ass, often judgy and territorial. That bitch doesn't need to stay in your house. It's going to be difficult to initiate it the first time but you need to set this precedent for your future sanity.
It shouldn't be too hard to get your husband on board, you're the woman. Just convince him it's for her and how much more comfortable she'll be at the hotel. No one even considers staying at my house when visiting and it's fantastic for everyone.
its ok to do that but if i were you id have a family member call your husband in desperation mode and ask to speak to you , then tell your husband the truth , they called with bad news and you must head out the door. the reason can be made up but its all true that the called and said they needed you. I just dont think you should lie to your husband. this way you deceive with the truth, i could live with that.
When I was married, I only went to see my in laws every other time, let her go visit by herself. That way I would never be up on murder charges.
Saw. Sorry that's like nails on a chalkboard. Just say something to her. You're an adult. Tell her how it is when she's at your house. You don't have to be mean. Just tell her to knock the shit off
Shes a beligerant drunk with multiple personalities completely consumed with guilt from ruining her marriage and leaving her kids when they were younger. She's sneaky and has no respect. I've caught her multiple times rummaging through my things. She comes to my house and does nothing but get drunk and talk shit about everything. My dog passed away two years ago and last year when she came to visit she almost broke his urn and told me to relax because it's just a dog. That's when I drew the line and made her leave the morning after she sobered up. I could go on forever seriously.
Ugh, and you want this woman alone in your house unsupervised? Nah.
Whether you choose to stay or go, at least remove anything of value in your home first (jewelry, precious photos, favorite clothes, etc), and put it in your car or something. Because she sounds like an opportunistic thief.
Yes, you're absolutely right. She is a thief. Apparently when my husband went into the military out of high school she sold a bunch of his things. His parents finally decided to sell the house after the divorce years before. She admitted it right in front of me. I can't understand how he can be so loving and forgiving of all of this.
I'd tell your husband, she stays sober for her visit or I'm off until she goes home.
No one likes the outlaws visiting, just smile sweetly & only speak when she talks to you.
Before you know it she will flying back home on her broomstick complete with her winged monkeys leaving you & your hubby in peace.