Should i spank her?

I wouldn't. You're right it's normal to be curious. I would explain to her that it is inappropriate to show that to people and to ask to see it. That that's private and only mommy, daddy and your Dr should see that. Save the you'll show it to somebody someday bit for an older age. If you spank her for this you're telling her that's it's wrong to ask questions. Like I said you just need to make it very clear that you don't do that at school or to your friends. However if the behavior continues then I would give a thought to some repercussions. The 2nd and 3rd offense will be intentional and then it is behavior that needs to be rectified. Good luck

What a lot of unnecessary fuss about something completely natural! She has done nothing to deserve any form of punishment.

The school is over-reacting and so are you. Kids of that age are naturally curious about physical differences between boys and girls: if males & females had totally different noses and went around with them covered up all the time, they'd be curious about that too, it's not a sexual thing, merely natural curiosity. At her age, all she needs to know is that boys and girls have different genitals: if she asks why, say it's so they can be mums & dads when they grow up.

Your little girl has done nothing wrong and I don't know how you can explain the idiotic reaction of the school to her in a way she can understand. Personally I'd be looking for another school with staff who live in this century and not the 1950's. Is it a religious school, by the way?

Oh and by the way corporal punishment is NEVER appropriate, unless of course you want to teach her that it's ok for bigger people to physically hurt smaller people and/or that it's ok for people who love you to hurt you.

I don't think it's a bad idea, worst case scenario you she receives some corporal punishment, whether its the strap, a belt, paddle, switch or your hand and she never repeat that behavior again. Or... on second thought, maybe tell her that it's not appropriate and this time she'll be warned but if it happens again you'll make sure you give her a severe strapping.

Please don't punish your child for that. It's normal for kids to be curious about genitals and to explore etc. Even if it went further than that, the bigger deal you make out of it, the bigger deal it becomes for the children.

This is normal child behavior, toddlers are naturally curious creaters. I would not go as far as to spank her for being curious talk to her and expalin to her that those parts are private and only mommy daddy and the doctor can see and touch her there. But no reason to spank a child for being curious and explorative.

You cant honestly say that since she did play show me yours and I'll show you mine , that she didnt have any questions.
You said IF she has questions , you'll answer them.

If you dont satisfy her curiosity , she will be all the more curious and she will resent you for beating her and she will expose herself all the more to boys and vice versa , and when she is a teenager , she will be out of control.
Siblings take baths together up until about age 9 or 10.
Breaking News Flash , this isnt the 1950's.
My wife works in the cafeteria at an elementary school as a duty aide and she hears 5 th graders ages 10 and 11 talk everyday about sex and having sex.
I got news for ya , kids know more about the birds and the bees than parents give them credit for.
It's a whole new generation.

Satisfy her curiosity and show her what the male cock looks like in person and if she asks what is that thing connected to it and hanging down , tell her the thing that looks like a hot dog is called a cock and the thing connected to it is called the nut sack and it holds the cum that makes babies that squirts out of the male cock when he sticks it inside a woman's suzy.

Show her what a cock looks like , either her brother's or her Dad's to cure her curiosity.

I am not a child beater. Never did and probably never will. It was a thought and I appreciate all of your honest opinions. But let's get something straight I was hit as a child for making mistakes and I bet I'm not the only member on this site that was. Children are tricked easily. I explained to her as best as I could that is normal to be curious and you know all that stuff. I love my daughter dearly and my husband already died in a car crash. We are all each other have. Living in Chicago I have no choice but to tread lightly. There is a rape murder kidnapping every day, every where and I'm not always gonna be with her 24/7. Myself was a victim of assault. I work and her school plus her art class 4 days a week. School starts at 8:20 till 3:02. That all long time I'm away from her. I don't even work that long in a day. After yesterday I feel more anxious sense I picked her up from school. I worry she is gonna expose her self to a stranger and bad things could happen. I'm trying my best. I'm sorry if this looks like a rant but I want y'all to understand why the thought came across my mind.

The strap?! ! Thats crazy talk

I wouldn't do it to my kid. Kids need love and compassion not hitting and even more not psychological punishment. I never wanted to me hit but I would have taken getting beat a lot better than feeling like I was never good enough.

spanking almost always causes sexual acting out later in life and can you imagine the trouble the school would be in if they LET kids flash each other? everybody would be in jail.