Should i quit my job?

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This one guy (one of the supervisers) won't leave me the fuck alone anymore (he likes me but i dont feel that way for him) and he freaked out and threatened to beat this new guy just cause we were gonna take a bus together....he goes after him saying "don't touch her or I'm gonna smash your face!!"
We ended up missing the bus because of him.

The next day i told him to leave me the fuck alone and stop going into my personal business. He goes around telling everyone I'm the biggest hoe and that I slept with a lot of guys at work. This is what I explained to him on Skype today:

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"Hi, maybe if you didn't keep on telling me to not talk to guys I wouldn't be so friendly to all those guys in the first place...Ive been doing that since last year to piss you off on purpose so you wouldn't like me as much. I even made up stories about guys just to turn you away from me. I mean, you're nice and everything but I don't wanna be with you in that kind of way.

I pushed and fought as hard as I could to try to show you that I'm probably not the one for you. It all started when you said you wanted us to date and um I got "cold feet"...I was scared"[/quote]

On Friday, everyone comes back from break and I was in shock because I just had a stupid spat with him and he tried to knock over my boxes. I told them I wanted to quit but they told me not to let one person make me walk out. They said I could go home early but to please come back on Monday. As soon as I left they probably laughed behind my back and called me a bitch slut ho. I love the type of job I have but how long can I put up with this kind of nonsense from others????

Btw I still like this one truck driver. he doesn't work here anymore (he has a way better job working out of town) but he came by for a visit 2 months ago and I was soo happy that I kissed and hugged him. I ruined the friendship he had with that psycho obsessive freak cuz I went out with him.

I'm sure I'm the laughing stock at work now. I mean, I work at a warehouse and these guys aren't afraid to tell a girl that she is straight up a whore and now they know I am one. But I did it out of anger because that leech won't leave me alone and he was always telling me to not talk to guys and trying to make me stay with him when I didn't want to. I rebelled and it went too far I guess. Like who the fuck ate you? Telling me who I can or can't talk to??

Ok ok there's more to the story. I also have a bf of six years who I live with. But this rant is about a co worker superviser who won't leave me alone. he thinks he's the best guy out there for me and he's mad I don't feel that way about him and I rebelled in the worst way possible by being too friendly to guys in front of him on purpose!!!!!!!

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thegypsysailor

9 years ago

Contact the appropriate person (probably HR) at your place of employment and file a harassment complaint. Don't tell this man, or threaten him; just do it.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  It's difficult because he's one of the top workers...He knows everything so It's hard to replace him. There were stupid spats that happened among other people for different reasons in the past but the best they could do was just separate them. Sighs yes I could contact him but it's soo embarrassing in my situation.
  
  I feel that this is hugely my fault because when I first started working there 2 years ago, he was one of the first people I talked to. And we used to have work on Saturdays just to catch up on the workload and he offered me rides which I accepted because buses took much longer on the weekends...and eventually we just started hanging out...but I just like him as a friend even though he thinks we could be soo much more.
  
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  - thegypsysailor
    
    9 years ago
    
    If he won't take the hint and you want to continue working there, you must do something. There are government agencies to report him to. Your choice.
    
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  - Riddler
    
    9 years ago
    
    No first off report this to his boss, and than report it to the police, and get a restraining order. You should not lose your job since your manager is a fucking creep. Its not your wrong doing its his. Get his stupid ass fired.
    
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    - Lisababymj
      
      9 years ago
      
      He is not the manager. He is one of the supervisers and we have quite a few here. but I don't work directly with him. We work in different departments. It's just that I used to rely on him for rides to and from work. But anyways he is keeping quiet now. He stood by me when I Ieft to go home on Friday, expecting me to say at least a 'bye' to him but all I did was smile and looked away. He messages me later saying:
      
      "OK well that's fine. You got what you wanted. I give up on you and us"
      
      So that meant he was trying the whole time and he thought..,I would appreciate it??? O_o
      
      Anyways I'm under a diff name. I decided to change it incase I get googled
      
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      - Riddler
        
        9 years ago
        
        Than tell the MANAGER!
        
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Blue_Velvet

9 years ago

It sounds as if you are defending him when people give you reasonable advice. Just quit your job.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  I appreciate all the advice given here and yes the smart thing to do would be to contact someone higher up. I'm not a very vocal person though so that is my main issue. I usually like to keep my problems unknown (this site is a different story tho) but now that my shit is out in the opened and I'm feeling humiliated, it's time to step up my game.
  
  And unfortuntely i shouldnt quit just yet...it would be stupid of me to quit without having another job lined up because I need to pay rent and bills.
  
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deepthought33

9 years ago

Report him. You want him to do it to someone else too? If you don't trust the local managers/HR work your way up the chain of command until you find a listening ear. These days that kind of behavior has a zero tolerance attached to it.

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davesumba

9 years ago

Every top male supervisor/manager at my sister's restaurant got fired last summer because of harassment towards female workers.

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  9 years ago
  
  That's great I'm happy for your sister and I'm glad they were all smart enough to take action.
  
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donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

9 years ago

be friendly and maintain a distance at work

carry a piece if possible

lesson learned

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Haha ya I had a couple ppl tell me to carry a knife or something but they're obviously joking. I can grab any object within arms reach and use it as a weapon though.
  
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vaginahouse

9 years ago

get all sexy and flirtatious with for a raise sleep with him if necessary then poison him

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  yikes ok um I probably haven't been all that honest with you guys but yes I have slept with the leech a few times which is probably why he brought up dating and I freaked out.
  
  you see, in the past my bf and I used to argue a lot and in my drunken sporadic moments I called up The Leech. Eventually I wanted it all to stop and just limit us to being friends and co workers but he says he should be the exception and he regarded himself as being better than any other guy I could ever be with *spits out my drink*
  
  my bf knows my dirt, he just doesn't know I work with the leech, but he says as long as I come home to him he forgives me.
  
  anyways The Leech starts telling me not to talk to guys....drives me soo insane that I purposely got close and friendly to the truck driver (whom he used to be friends with). One time we were all at his place and I cuddled with him on purpose hoping to give the leech a sign but you know what? he drags me out, drives me off elsewhere while screaming at me and pushes my head against his window saying I'm embarrassing him (I was pretty drunk by then so I didn't do anything). 2 months later I went home with the truck driver hoping it would break ties with the leech once and for all. The leech saw us leaving together so he knew what most likely happened. He was fucking pissed and gave me a bloody nose....
  
  so yes he is hitting me but at the same time I was a heavy drinker and I was purposely egging him on. He told the other guys he has beat me a few times and convinced them I deserved it.
  
  Two weeks ago a new guy gets hired and is just supposed to stay for a while. The leech gives me glares every time the new guy talks to me...I smirked at him and continue to talk to the new guy. At one point we decided to take the bus together and the leech went berseck chasing after him. The next day he confronts me saying i lied to him. I told him to stay the fuck away and that I don't like him that way. He goes on saying he's the one for me and blah blah better than anyone and at that point I pretended to barf. we continued on bickering and I said some things to piss him off on purpose. He lunges at me trying to knock my stacked boxes down and I ran off screaming... by that time everyone is coming back from break and he points at me telling another guy I'm a hoe sleeping with people at work....they were later just talking for 10 minutes...it only took another 10 minutes for the other guys to know.
  
  I'm like, OK I HAVE to quit. they told me to please not to since I do have a good work ethic...but I dunno...if I come back on Monday and see a smirk on their faces, it'll be all over for me.
  
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Anonymous Post Author

9 years ago

Well I know he only does it to me because he doesn't even talk to females except for this one older lady whose married. The reason for his behavior I'm presuming is because he doesn't hang out with other ppl or neither is he the type to have a lot of female companions...I'm the only gorl he knows and maybe in several drunken occassions I lead him on. He said he did everything for me and he feels betrayed. He took me skydiving last year and he says he treats me better than every guy! Buy I only like him friend and work wise

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DubstepismyMJ

9 years ago

You have a boyfriend? You kissed a truck driver? And for some weird reason "this" co worker doesn't get that you arent single?

How about bringing your bf into the scene and setting this guy straight.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  My bf has visited my workplace a few times but just to pick me up after work. I don't mean to bring race into this but I think it might have a bit to do with the whole situation. "the leech" and I are Asian...maybe that is why he feels we belong together. The truck driver was white. My bf is black. Plus the leech's mom works there too!!!! He's fucking 31 and still lives in the basement. He says I'm a big embarrassment to him when I talk to guys but duhhh that's my intention.
  
  He even mentioned my bf as a low life ghetto "n word" and oh man I was sooo ticked off.
  
  Im scared to tell my bf about what recently happened because the leech might tell him I'm a ho (scenario # 1) or my bf will smash the windows of the leeches car (scenario # 2) and I lose my job. I told my bf that there is a guy that is bothering me but you know what he said? That I shouldnt have worked in a warehouse in the first place around guys but I like doing labour intensive work.
  
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  - DubstepismyMJ
    
    9 years ago
    
    Look, the only reason why he is doing all this, is to get your attention.
    stop giving the guy the attention he so deseperately want from you, by not giving a fuck.
    Who cares if he calls you a hoe, that boy-adult is just gonna make himself look bitter and sad.
    
    What isn't true can never hurt you. Just fickle words with no substance.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      9 years ago
      
      Ya you're right I don't give a fuck about him! but its just that he's highly respected at work and it's hard to go to a workplace when I feel that everyone is probably laughing at me behind my back. I ignored him many times..i never said hi or good morning to him anymore and right in front of him I say hi and good morning to everyone else.
      
      He's got this one lady (an older co worker) on his side and apparently she wanted to take a swing at me last year just cuz I was being friendly to the truck driver. Fuck man, he knows more ppl than me and he's a better convincer. He always wants me to talk or Skype him on the weekends but for the past months I never did.
      
      he's always trying to interrogate me asking what I did. I simply say I'm with my bf.
      
      What a fucking leech douche bag. I just read over my Skypes with him and wow he actually thought we had something going on...
      
      It's my fault I accepted rides from him and that I was often drunk around him...he felt he took care of me the whole time and that he's the one for me
      
      Well thank you for your words! You are soo right I won't let him bring me down or drive me to quit
      
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      - DubstepismyMJ
        
        9 years ago
        
        Youre still giving him thought. Just stop. And focus on your life.
        If you really must cant you like switch departments? And if not, complain. Get evidence of him harassing you, like text msg or something.
        
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Anonymous Post Author

9 years ago

The new guy I took the bus with got kinda mad at me. He doesn't work there anymore because he was only supposed to be there for two weeks because he'd under some job program but he said I couldve been more honest to him. I could've told him that the leech doesn't want me talking to guys...otherwise we could've walked out separately to take the bus.

We were very talkative and friendly and in the background the leech (I'm gonna refer to him as that now) was always glaring at us and he would come over to send him elsewhere)

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Anonymous Post Author

9 years ago

I love this type of job. I find it easy and laid back and yes I can report him but it's just that the guys know my shit now and I feel that they're probably siding with him more because he's more superior and he basically portrayed me as a low down dirty Ho. I tried to explain to them he was being too attached to me and I tried to let him go. They admitted that yes I tend to get too friendly to every new guy that gets hired but I told them it was because I'm trying to turn that leech away from me.

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longdongwong123

9 years ago

you know you're attracted to his dominant nature quit kidding yourself

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Lisababymj

9 years ago

Update!! Still at my job And remaining my distance because so far everyone told me not to let him get to me.

he tells me not to talk to guys..........and he's a Guy..............

And one and one adds to...fuck you!!!! Muahahahaha

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