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I have loved a guy for 7 years. The problem is that he is a homophobe and this would be a gay relationship (I am bisexual). Please tell me what to do. Should I just never tell him and try and forget about him (which will be very difficult), or should I tell him and risk ruining our friendship, humiliating myself, losing all respect in school and getting sucker punched in the face?
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7 years is a long time you are bursting at the seams. The fact that you mentioned he is a homophobe worries me if he isn't into that type of stuff he proably won't be into you and it would ruin your friendship for good. On the other hand people who tend to be homophobes are actually gay and use that homophobia to cover up their gayness because they feel ashamed, it could go either way do you cherish your friendship more than the possibility (which is very slim) of a relationship blossoming? If yes then don't tell him and move find someone else, if no then go on and tell him.
Always be honest even when you dont want be. If he love you, he is going to look past all of that. but before you propose make should he wants the same thing, Talk about being married first, talk about the future. talk about where you want this relationship to go. it is painful if you realize that later down the road this is not what he wants or really what you wanted. people change after married. make sure this is really what you want. and by you being bisexual well I am a woman and I am bi but choice to be with a man.
Talk to him about it.. don't just propose. That would be too much for him to take in at once.
Do you love him, or are you attracted to him? (asking considering his phobia.)
Or you could simply come out to him, check the relationship, and then tell him your feelings for him.
I think you should hint at it and see how he reacts to that. Tell him when you feel 100% ready to