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Im in a 6 month relationship. My bf comes to see me everyday and brings me back home. I barely ever pay for gas. Should i pay ? is it normal that as the girl i dont pay for gas?
I say it is normal that you don't. It would be a nice thing for you to do but not a requirement.
I have to dissagree with the majority of commenters so far. If he's coming to see you, you should pay atleast half for gas, or you should be taking public transportation to come see him half of the time.
I don't think it's fair he's making more effort and more money to come see you than you are to see him.
Chances are that your boyfriend is going to say "I don't mind", but who wants to pay money when their girlfriend can pay half to come see them? Really?
I don't know. I agree with you, but I can't relate. I usually had a car and a job when I dated, and the men I dated also had a car and a job so we never really needed to negotiate rides.
I guess it would depend on how far away they live, because when I went to see a date, usually they weren't but a 10-15 minute drive away, and it's difficult to calculate the gas for that, so I just don't. But I'm pretty apathetic in many aspects of my life =/
Totally agree with you.
Unless there's a legitimate reason you can't pay for gas / travel to see him once and a while on public transport, like you're poor (actually poor, not as in you can't afford an iphone 4 32GB so you've only got an iphone 4 8GB) then why not do a little compromising? It's just a nice thing to do.
Of course, if he actually insists on paying everything and insists on being the visitor not the visited, no worries.
I used to cycle a few miles to an old girlfriend's house once or twice a week, but because she'd sometimes cycle to see me it seemed more equal - we were both willing to put the effort in to see each other. I wasn't some kind of pizza delivery guy with a box full of loving, or a low class escort, and neither was she :P
So if he honestly doesn't mind, there's no issue. But if he's open to the idea of you paying some money, visiting him instead once and a while or making it up in another way (clean your mind out, I mean like paying for him at a restaurant or cinema etc.) it'd be a darn nice thing of you :)
I agree. My bf and I try to split the driving to see each other as much as we can. He comes down here a lot more often though becaue I have more friends in town, more to do on the weekends and whatnot. Anytime he's low on gas I'll pay, it's not even a question since he does more of the driving. (Honestly I think the biggest reason is his car speakers are way better than mine >.>)
"As the girl"? That has nothing to do with it. We're equal, now.
You should pay to be nice, but no- you're not obligated. Of course, he's not obligated to go see you.
I was just recently dealing with the same kind of issue.....
I was seeing a guy for like 5 years.... Helped him out with money a little bit and one-time paid this phone bill...
but keep in mind not once did I ask him for a thin dime... back then when we first started seeing each other I really didn't have a high-paying job....
And he didn't really have a job at all....
Now that I have a higher-paying job that's better.... All of a sudden I got to pay gas money to see the dick....
he will start texting and then probably about the eighth or ninth text is well do you have any gas money that you can spare
... And my thing is this right here....when you were broken really didn't have any money you found a way to drive up and see me now all of a sudden you need gas money....
And as soon as I say no he stops responding to my texts.... lol 🤣....
Because game recognize game.....
like I'm going to give up my beer money so I can watch the mandalorian to see you and you don't even really want to come see me unless I got some money for you....
Like Charlie the tuna said... Sorry Charlie... lol 🤣
If he is having a problem with it then yes. And it might be nice just to do anyway. Being the one that always has to go to ur sig is sometimes frustrating.
gas IS too expensive, and he has to pay for the car itself and whatnot. If he's being a dick about it, I would wonder if you should though.
gas doesn't grow on trees, love.. Niether does money. of course you should. He might not accept, but he'll appreciate the good intention of your offer.
I think it would be a nice gesture if you offered to pay for part of his gas money from time to time.
Well, yeah. Either that or find a way to go visit him yourself. I'm sure he is a nice guy and all but gas is expensive and it'd be cool if you would contribute. Just a thought.
Gass is expensive, be considerate pitch in every once in a while. Its the small acts of kindness that make a relationship awesome
Agreed with Parrish. No one is forcing him to have a girlfriend that does not have a car.