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I am in my final year in high school and I'm dating a German exchange student. I am a virgin. Should I lose my virginity to him? I really like him and he really likes me. At least this way I know how it's going to end (we will break up when he goes back to Germany).
What are your opinions about what I should do?
| Yes | 127 | |
| No | 140 | |
| Maybe | 67 |
I don't understand why people ask about this sort of thing :/ it's a choice only you can make.
You said "in high-school". That right there should be a no automatically. Sure some high-school relationships last but often they don't. Trust me I seen many of them fail myself included. Just because you are happy now does not mean you will stay that way.
Obviously you are concerned about losing it which probobly would indicate that you put a lot of value into it. I knew a girl that did this. She gave it to the boy she said she was going to spend the rest of her life with in HS.
Than she did it again and again and has about 5 guys shes done it with now. With each one saying she is positive that he loves her and its going to last forever. So unless that boy is willing to put a ring on your finger I doubt he is in it for the long hall. These type of things do not last.
However the choice is ultimately yours in the end. If you plan on doing it despite this though I would say use protection. However I would advise against this since if you are planning to spend the rest of your life with this person its probobly too early to tell if hes really "The one" for you.
Do it ... German's are hot !! And amazing at sex.. You won't regret it :)
Breaking up with someone you have not had sex with is easy. Breaking up with someone that you have had a sexual relationship with is very painful! Regardless to who the guy is that you choose to give it up for, its probably not going to last and youll end up with heartache!!
Because youre a virgin you have no clue of the power of sex! How it binds you to a person spiritually. Look at some of your girlfriends who are in bad relationships and cant get out. Its not cause they weak its the power of sex and the spiritual implications that bind them.
If you are truly looking for advise speak to a mature women that you look up to and respect, not your friends someone at least twice your age. They have gone through everything that you are still to experience..
The way I see it, this is something so personal that only you can decide. It's not a matter of should you lose your virginity to him. You have to ask yourself this: Do you want to lose your virginity to him. If the answer is something like "I don't know" then don't do it. Wait until the right guy comes around. To some people sex doesn't mean anything, but personally I view it as an intimate connection to be shared only with those that you truly love. I'm probably a minority there though.
It is all up to you. I think you already made your decision before even posting this. You totally want his man chowder. Make sure he wears a condom though.
What's the big deal about virginity? It's not like people are saints if they're virgins. And to women out there who think their cunt is some sacred forbidden temple, you seriously need a reality check. Your vaginas are nothing more than waste dumps for us men to deposit our load
if he is handsome and cute,and respect you,do him.
it is a good memory in the future.
just do not get pregnent.... ...
no, you should lose it to me...ja, ich sprach ze Deutsch , mein fraulein
i hope he hasnt popped the cherry yet but no you shouldnt because well what if you get pregnant, and then he goes back to Germany?? and you lose touch with him or what if he fucks you and then dumps you hm? or what if you catch AIDS from him it only takes one time to get knocked up,get aids,get hiv,get craps,get VD it only takes one time and you shouldnt waste your gift on someone who may not be there for when your 30 wait till your married it makes it even more special when your in SUPER love with the right man
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the fact you have to ask us... suggests that you may want to reevaluate the situation.
if you're not sure if you're ready then you're likely not really ready. be sure that this is what you want - both physically AND mentally - before you jump in
Wow, that's the most even amount of voting I have seen in a while. Anyways, it's up to you to decide.
Sounds like you have made your decision. You want him to break your virginity. You have the choice. Be sure that you have protection and that if you let him do you, that it doesn't mean that you are open to every nice guy that wants to get into your pants.
Are you his first as well? Let us know how you feel afterwards.