Should i let my girlfriend sext other guys?

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So the other day I found out that she had been talking to a guy on a dating site that she once hooked up with before we dated but never had feeling for.

I'm convinced that she doesn't care to date him because he doesn't seam that attractive and they haven't been talking about anything dating related. They only cared to have sex once before we dated.

The reason she likes it she says is because he’s like a stranger and she doesn’t feel like she has to be as limited with her words.

She doesn't sext me in the same way which use to make me uncomfortable but she says it's because she's shy, loves me a lot and doesn't want to mess up our relationship by coming across “weird” but she will open up eventually.

Our love life is great when I'm around, she loves to have rough sex with me and askes for it all the time. There isn’t any sign that she isn’t getting what she needs as long as I’m around.

We had a long conversation and I settled with bringing up the idea of letting her continue to sext this guy as long as I can read it in hope that maybe she will become flirtier and open up me eventually and help her with her stress while I'm gone.

Am I making the right decision? Can anyone relate to what she’s feeling to help me understand?

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  • [Old Memory]
    7 years ago

    Its a bad idea dude.

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  • _Mehhhh_
    7 years ago

    As someone else said, it's one thing for her to have friends, and that's none of your business. This is actually sexting though?

    Hell no.

    You can't FORCE her to do or not to do anything, so this talk about "letting" her sext him is neither here nor there. If she's going to sext him, she'll do it with or without your permission.

    It's down to you to decide if you're going to tolerate that, or if it bothers you that much and you can't come to a consensual agreement on it, then start thinking about ending it with her.

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  • BrodyB
    7 years ago

    And this doesn't make you feel like a punk?
    If I found out about a broad doing this to me one of us would end up dead

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    The real question is can you live with it becos you can't stop her.

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  • Dexter's_Disciple
    7 years ago

    She's only going to hurt you

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  • Carolizzy16
    7 years ago

    Hell noo that's not cool at all... You are being her bitch boy!
    If I had a girlfriend, I will want her to be weird with me, not with other men =/
    That's nasty!!

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  • Rusty-Rider
    7 years ago

    Only if she let's you have a pet sheep.

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    If I were a guy I wouldn't be cool with that crap.

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  • Fall_leaves
    7 years ago

    I think being friends with other guys is fine and she shouldn't have to cut people out of her life but idk about sexting. Are you guys long distance? That just seems like if she's open to sexting other guys and she was hiding it and you're just now finding out that it might develop into her cheating? Would she be open to letting you sext girls, that's the only way I could see how something like this would work.

    I don't really think it's fair of her to say that the stress of you being away is why she sexts? That seems more like an excuse to make you feel bad and like she's not taking responsibility for her decisions.

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    • eureka1
      7 years ago

      no we're not long distance, as i said our sex life is great a long as im around.

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      • Fall_leaves
        7 years ago

        Strangley enough sex life has little to do with why people cheat, my friends bf and her were intimate everyday, while he was cheating she said it was like he was overcompensating.

        It shouldn't be like that though, when you're not around she shouldn't be seeking out other guys to sext?

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