Should i let her go?

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Hi everyone. When I was a little kid, life was kind of hard. Everyone thought I was stupid and my mom had to fight for me to go to school. To add onto to that, I had leg braces so walking was hard.
Enter my childhood best friend. She was always so nice to me, in fact at first she was my only friend. We did everything together. When she had to move to a relative's house after some personal issues, she would sneak out to see me after dark.
We were close until the end of high school, at which point she suddenly stopped talking to me. I went to see her at college and she told me to never talk to her again.
I thought that was the end of that, but one day I saw her again at a music festival. I was going oversees to fight soon and I told her that. She told me she'd always be mine.
Queue her ignoring me/telling me to leave her alone then coming back to me over and over again. I wrote to her while I was oversees, she ignored me. A little while later she came back again and we lived together for a bit.
I truly love her, but I don't know how much longer I can take her games. I have no idea what she wants. She was on drugs for awhile and has had a string of bad boyfriends, but I've never left her side.
My question is should I let her go? We now have a kid together and she seems like she wants to stay this time, but I don't know if I can trust her or even let her around our son. I don't know if leaving would damage him or what's good for my mental health.
And before anyone says anything: please know that while I am not blameless, I have tried to be good to her through everything. While she was away I made fruitful investments and now I have a thriving business. I'm decent looking. It's true that I'm not smart, but I work hard and I treat people well. So why did she keep doing that to me?
So should I let her go? Please help me.

Yes, forget about her. 11
No, she is your dream girl! 4
Give her another chance. 5
I have no idea. 4
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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Life is like a box of chocolates...

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      You never know what you're gonna get...

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      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago

        ;-)

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        • ChildMolester
          8 years ago

          My Mama always said stupid is stupid does

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          • RoseIsabella
            8 years ago

            Run Forrest, RUN!

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  • EndlessSuffering
    8 years ago

    You have to confront her to know exactly what her intentions are. Since you said that she did drugs, it may be the case that she was intoxicated when she told you that she wants you in her live, but you can't be sure; that's why it's best to confront her immediately. As for the child, even if you decide to leave his mother, you can still be in his life. However, do not waste your own precious time on people that do not want it. Best of luck.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I'm not sure though, because right now she has custody of him. (When she found me, I only just discovered my son, so for the past four years she's been taking care of him.) I don't know if the courts will let me see him. Being declared incompetent is my worst fear. If that happens, either I won't be able to see him or he might get taken away.
      And as for confronting her, she has a lot of issues. She was abused as a child and she's never learned to deal with it. If I confront her, she might leave me again, this time with my son. (She likes to leave a lot, so it's very likely.)
      I just can't bear not seeing my son, I love him so much. He's starting school soon and I'm doing everything to get him ready so he'll grow up smart.

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      • EndlessSuffering
        8 years ago

        Seems like she's an unfit parent, which would work better in your favor if you try to win custody. Even though she has a scarring past, it isn't an excuse to keep running away. Since she didn't tell you she was pregnant, it could indicate that maybe she thought you didn't want children, or she wanted to raise him on her own; but you're still the child's father. You could try entering the child's life and making sure he gets all the attention and support he needs.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          I hope so.

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  • Turtleshellboy
    6 years ago

    By any chance is your name Forrest Gump? By any chance is her name Jenny?

    When you were young and dating Jenny and the bullies came along, did Jenny yell at you to "run Forrest, run"? While you were running as best you could given you were wearing those rigid metal and leather leg braces (KAFOs), did your leg braces suddenly break and completely fall apart, leaving your legs totally unbraced for the first time in a long time, and did you run like the wind? And just how does one suddenly run affter needing leg braces for years?

    Did you later aquire a fleet of shrimping boats all named Jenny 1, Jenny 2, and Jenny 3......? And did yoy once sit on a bus bench and tell your whole life story to complete strangers which munching on a box of chocolates?

    While Jenny does come home and stays for a while, until she dies due to her frequent drug abuse addictions over the years. Before that though, you sired a son who at age 5 is actually already a lot smarter than you ever will be.

    So you did in favt choose to keep her and not let her go.

    Life is like a box of chocolates!

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  • strawberryshortlegs
    8 years ago

    shit I was fooled

    lol

    that's what I get for having a good heart

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I'm not a smart man, but I know what love is. ;)

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  • strawberryshortlegs
    8 years ago

    I know the custody issues seem insurmountable, but you can't give up on something you have a gut feeling about. You need to get more information on what you can do. There will be a way through this. Your good motives will carry you through this.

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  • strawberryshortlegs
    8 years ago

    It is time to let go. You deserve more. And you continuing to take her in over and over is not going to help her and it won't necessarily be a good situation for your child. It's one thing to be kind and help someone, but you letting her act this way will only lead to more issues in the future...

    If you take a stand, and do what you know is right, it will only help her. Things will turn around for you. You deserve love and respect in return. Go find it!

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    Lol! You butt! I figured it out half way through. Gg Mr. Op. Gg XD

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    • Shackleford96
      8 years ago

      The leg braces gave it away for me.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      And that's all I have to say about that. ;)

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